LiW Serious Movement Happening--Why is the wait even harder now?!

[Haven]

Hi, Ladies!

Okay, so BF has done some serious movement on the ering front--we've looked at stones together, I know he's contacted a few different vendors, and he has estimates in from Leon and several others for my dream ring! I gave him all the little details of what I like and don't like, and now it's in his hands.

So why am I suddenly EVEN MORE ANXIOUS than I was before he was seriously working on the ring? I had some semblance of normalcy prior to all this, and now all I can think about is our engagement! I THINK I'M SUFFERING FROM LADY-IN-WAITING-HYSTERIA!

Seriously, though, shouldn't I be at ease and excited now? I'm more jittery and really really giddy and then concerned that I won't be able to wait the several months it is going to take to have a custom ring made.

Perhaps I'm just crazy. Things will be better once the school year starts and I actually have to teach all day, right?

Anyone else experience this? I think it was just a few months ago when I was posting to ask advice on how to bring up a timeline--well, the timeline worked and now I'm a crazy woman!

Okay, it's not THAT bad, but seriously, the wait is TOUGH!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

First off, congrats on the e-motion...

We bought my diamond 28 days ago, and I swear I can''t work, sleep or function normally these days. He is working on having it set (I guess as we do not talk about it at all).

I have been trying to stay busy and if that fails, I drink...haha

 

[Mandarine]

as it gets closer it definitely becomes harder!!!. It definitely happenned to me

Hang in there. Believe me, you will look back and be like "what was I worrying about!?". I know, easy to say ocne you''re off the list...but just hang in there, try to not bring it up and try to think about something else. Start a new hobbie or something..hehe, it helped me!

M~

 

[sugarplum]

Hi Haven,

That''s exciting news! I know what you mean about being all nervous. For me, it''s the "Oh my gosh, this is really happening!!!" feeling (BF bought the stone a few weeks ago). It''s a good type of nervousness.

I agree, it is really hard to wait. You know what I do to take my mind of my ring?? Look at more bling!

I''m keeping myself busy right now looking for a pair or martini studs!

Hee hee hee...

 

[pyramid]

I am not a LIW but maybe some of the others can point you to older posts. I have read though about a few who their boyfriend has the ring in the house for like 6 months and they know it is there but he doesn''t propose until later because he has a plan for it. So I think unfortunately your LIW hysteria could be worse.

 

[BriBee]

Haven,
I know exactly how you''re feeling. Ever since we have seriously started on the stone/e-ring business it has consumed me. I am constantly checking e-mails and obsessively logging into pricescope all day long! It''s starting to take a toll on the rest of my life

I even have dreams about the ring and that it turns out horribly and ugly and so it''s even disrupting my sleep! I feel like the only thing to do is keep waiting and try your hardest to stay distracted.

 

[whenharrymetsally]

Haven,

Welcome to LIW Hysteria! ahaha I know exactly how you feel! Unfortunately it does get worse! I"m one of those LIW''s that knows the ring has been bought and picked up..and its been 4 months already and still no sign of it! I''ve had the horror e-ring dreams tooo! Hahah but its fun i guess..stressful but fun!! Just take comfort that you are not crazy and not insane. You have lots of company here on PS!

 

[bee*]

is it weird that Im feeling really relaxed about the whole thing now?! I was so anxious before we bought the ring but now Im feeling way too relaxed and while obviously I cannot wait for him to do it, I feel so much better now that the ring has been purchased and I feel like we''re closer to getting engaged now. I know how anxious it can be and how stressful-hopefully he will propose soon and you''ll be posting up pics of your beautiful ring!

 

[Haven]

Thank you for all of your responses--it always feels good to know I''m not going crazy all by myself!

Iwannaprettyone--You''re too funny! But seriously, though, a few drinks may curb my anxiety! I like how you know the exact number of days he''s had the ring--have you two discussed setting or is he surprising you?

Mandarine--Thank you for being a calming voice in my sea of hysteria! Your avatar alone is enough to calm a person down, it''s so beautiful.

Sugarplum--I absolutely agree with you, it is a good type of nervousness. And you know, it''s strange because I thought for a while that since we''ve waited a while to get to this point (just over three years) then I wouldn''t have the whole giddy-oh-my-gosh-we''re-about-to-do-something-REALLY-huge feeling once we got engaged, but lo and behold--here it is! Ooh I love martini studs, are you going to get a pair? I have an old pre-ering from an old BF and I''ve been thinking about using the stone as half of a pair of martini studs, they are so gorgeous.

Pyramid--UGH! Six months! I don''t even want to think about THAT--thank you for grounding me, as I''m pretty sure my BF won''t be able to keep the ring to himself for anywhere near that long.

Bri--I totally share the obsessive PSing with you, it is insane. I can''t believe you''re having nightmares about an ugly ering--have you two talked about the setting? I''m sure it will be BEAUTIFUL, and yes, I am constantly distracted, too. Actually, I just got back to the gym and spent the entire 20 minutes of my run thinking about this ring. That sounds so pathetic, I know!

Whenharrymetsally--(That''s my favorite movie by the way, watched it obsessively in college) Four months!? You are strong, girl. Just think of how great it will feel, and he''s probably planning one hell of a proposal with all that time, too!

Bee--I don''t think it''s weird at all to feel relaxed, it actually seems like the logical way to react once you know he has the ring. It''s strange because my anxiety has shifted from feeling anxious about "us" and wanting to move forward to feeling anxious about the ring and wanting to get it in my hot little hands! I am clearly far too obsessed with jewelry. I can''t wait to see your ring once you post YOUR hand shots! Have you seen it?

Thanks again, girls. I don''t know what I would do without my PS friends!

 

[bee*]

yep I''ve seen it. We picked it out together while we were in NY. It''s a tiffany lucida, 1.23ct, vvs2,i. It''s so beautiful and sparkly.

 

[Haven]

Oooh, it sounds gorgeous, Bee! I can''t wait to see it!

Just got back from our local jeweler, we were talking to both our jeweler and Leon to get a feel for who we''d like to work with, and I think we found our stone and BF is going to go in Monday to get the ball rolling! I''m so excited, but it is going to take about 10 weeks for the ring to be done because we''re having them recut the stone to change the table a bit.

10 WEEKS! This is going to be so hard . . .

 

[Sassee]

I know exactly where you are coming from (see post written half an hour ago!!)

Hang in there - 10 weeks does sound like a lot but you will get through it. I have so far survived 8 weeks knowing that a ring is being made for me and it is totally doing my head in. But we will SURVIVE!!