crystalheart1
Brilliant_Rock
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- Apr 12, 2007
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Well, after being in the "DATING POOL" for 16 years, I am now engaged to a wonderful man. We are planning a smallish - around 50 guests- reception. Probably a nice sit down dinner with an elegant flair. I have been sending my Mother ideas of venues, centerpieces, etc... I bought a nice wedding gown with a little bolero jacket to wear for a winter wedding.
Today Mom states,,, Why are you doing all of this for a second marriage..?? I thought most people just go to the justice of the peace and have a small dinner with their immediate family. She has not been very interested in anything I have shared with her. Making little or no comments, so I know this has been in the back of her mind for some time
The first time I was married, my in- laws hosted the wedding at their house. My parents never "officially" contributed finacially to my first wedding. It is not a matter of not having money. It is more of not wanting to spend it on things like this. They are not very sociable - nor do they host any family dinners for Thanksgiving or any other holidays. It is not "their thing". I was just a bit taken back at this off handed remark. My response was, even if it is a second marriage, it does not make it any less special... I would still like to do something nice since we are joining the two of us, along with our children.
Has any of the second timers shared this response from parents when planning anything more than a family dinner ??
Today Mom states,,, Why are you doing all of this for a second marriage..?? I thought most people just go to the justice of the peace and have a small dinner with their immediate family. She has not been very interested in anything I have shared with her. Making little or no comments, so I know this has been in the back of her mind for some time
The first time I was married, my in- laws hosted the wedding at their house. My parents never "officially" contributed finacially to my first wedding. It is not a matter of not having money. It is more of not wanting to spend it on things like this. They are not very sociable - nor do they host any family dinners for Thanksgiving or any other holidays. It is not "their thing". I was just a bit taken back at this off handed remark. My response was, even if it is a second marriage, it does not make it any less special... I would still like to do something nice since we are joining the two of us, along with our children.
Has any of the second timers shared this response from parents when planning anything more than a family dinner ??