- Mar 13, 2004
There seem to be a lot of threads about significant others not being on board with upgrades, etc, so I'm wondering if PSers have more supportive other halves, or non-supportive other halves?
I sent my wife at least 10 emails for her to buy me a RHR and she just delete them as soon as she received them...jaysonsmom|1460605372|4019125 said:I thought about this poll because just this week, I sent my dh at least 2 emails of OECs that I'm eyeing, and instead of shooting me down, he told me to go ahead if it makes me happy. We have been setting a budgeting plantations shutters and bathroom remodel this summer...and instead he told me to go ahead and spend the $$ on what makes me happy??? Unheard of in the real world!
My DH is like this as well. We've had other financial priorities more recently, and he doesn't want me to sell my original e-ring even if he's okay with my upgrade. He supports the jewelry passion to the extent that we can afford it. He gives the go-ahead to buy something (we discuss all larger purchases). For a while, he didn't want me to change my original engagement ring, but he's said he'd rather me wear the diamond in a different setting than not wear it at all, so I'm thinking of re-setting into a halo since my upgrade is a solitaire.Gypsy|1460610938|4019145 said:None of the options really fit my DH.
He's supportive. He likes buying me jewelry himself too. But we haven't had the budget for big splurges for a while now. That said even when we did, he isn't on board with any upgrades and had has a very sentimental attachment to my center stone on my engagement ring and has asked me never to upgrade OR replace it.
Other than that one restriction though, he doesn't care as long as we have the funds for purchases.
You're right. That was a stupid statement. I have trouble wording things these days. I'm happy with what I have, definitely. I want more, plain and simple. Truth of the matter is that it's not going to happen and I need to get over it and not feel like my life is over.kenny|1461021199|4020922 said:
PB, AGAIN, you pretty much said what I was gonna say, minus the "frozen piss the yellow one", which I do not possess. I select and pay for most of my jewelry but always discuss with DH ahead of time, but DH knows it's more of a courtesy because if I REALLY have my mind on something, I'm gonna get it one way or another. DH trusts my judgement because he knows I'm not an over spender and a total value shopper. DH doesn't try to buy diamond pieces because he knows he will never find exactly what I'm looking for, at the price that I am willing to pay. DH also knows that I LOVE having a bling project and knows I love the "thrill of the hunt", and does not want to take that fun away from me. He will go with me to try on branded pieces that does not require "work", and if it happens to fall on a birthday, anniversary, or major holiday, he'll pay for it. That said, he did pay for my 10 year upgrade, in the form of a money transfer to my account after the project completed. Super romantic!PintoBean|1461037168|4021013 said:DH likes how excited I get about my diamond projects, the research, finding and working with a vendor, and receiving the final product. Other than the e-ring diamomd (frozen piss the yellow one) and a couple other items, the majority of the purchases come out of my own pocket. He always offers to buy the pieces for me, but I usually decline. I always talk each purchase through with him (he's my sounding board) and ask for his blessing as a courtesy. He knows that I'm the super control freak so I wouldn't be considering a purchase unless our finances are in order. It irked me that he asked me once, why I was buying another piece of diamond jewelry when I don't wear any of my existing jewelry, so every time he offers to buy the piece as a present, I tell him, if I pay for it, you can't comment on how I'm not wearing it . Yeah, I can't let that one go, even though he only said it once . I did let him pay for the cartier love bracelet because it's always on my wrist I used to joke that he's a lucky man because I buy my own bling, but that hurt his feelings, so I backed off with that one.
He's been cute lately. He knows that when the bling project ends, I get sad because I miss the thrill of the hunt, so he actually suggests finding a new bling project to do now and offers to fund it . It's just so funny to me because the more independent I am the more he offers to treat me.
This is true. I lost perspective since finding PS.Yssie|1461079184|4021135 said:When I look at something that's $1000 and think "that's a great price", and then have to stop myself and remember exactly HOW MUCH $1000 really is, in the real world, outside DiamondLand. It's not so much that it shifts one's perspective... I'm still going to comparison shop between this dishwasher and that dishwasher, for example; it's more viscerally acknowledging that a "good deal" in the world of diamonds can still be an awful lot of money by any objective metric!