- Mar 13, 2004
There seem to be a lot of threads about significant others not being on board with upgrades, etc, so I'm wondering if PSers have more supportive other halves, or non-supportive other halves?
I sent my wife at least 10 emails for her to buy me a RHR and she just delete them as soon as she received them...jaysonsmom|1460605372|4019125 said:I thought about this poll because just this week, I sent my dh at least 2 emails of OECs that I'm eyeing, and instead of shooting me down, he told me to go ahead if it makes me happy. We have been setting a budgeting plantations shutters and bathroom remodel this summer...and instead he told me to go ahead and spend the $$ on what makes me happy??? Unheard of in the real world!
Gypsy|1460610938|4019145 said:None of the options really fit my DH.
He's supportive. He likes buying me jewelry himself too. But we haven't had the budget for big splurges for a while now. That said even when we did, he isn't on board with any upgrades and had has a very sentimental attachment to my center stone on my engagement ring and has asked me never to upgrade OR replace it.
Other than that one restriction though, he doesn't care as long as we have the funds for purchases.
PintoBean|1461037168|4021013 said:DH likes how excited I get about my diamond projects, the research, finding and working with a vendor, and receiving the final product. Other than the e-ring diamomd (frozen piss the yellow one) and a couple other items, the majority of the purchases come out of my own pocket. He always offers to buy the pieces for me, but I usually decline. I always talk each purchase through with him (he's my sounding board) and ask for his blessing as a courtesy. He knows that I'm the super control freak so I wouldn't be considering a purchase unless our finances are in order. It irked me that he asked me once, why I was buying another piece of diamond jewelry when I don't wear any of my existing jewelry, so every time he offers to buy the piece as a present, I tell him, if I pay for it, you can't comment on how I'm not wearing it . Yeah, I can't let that one go, even though he only said it once . I did let him pay for the cartier love bracelet because it's always on my wrist I used to joke that he's a lucky man because I buy my own bling, but that hurt his feelings, so I backed off with that one.
He's been cute lately. He knows that when the bling project ends, I get sad because I miss the thrill of the hunt, so he actually suggests finding a new bling project to do now and offers to fund it . It's just so funny to me because the more independent I am the more he offers to treat me.
Yssie|1461079184|4021135 said:When I look at something that's $1000 and think "that's a great price", and then have to stop myself and remember exactly HOW MUCH $1000 really is, in the real world, outside DiamondLand. It's not so much that it shifts one's perspective... I'm still going to comparison shop between this dishwasher and that dishwasher, for example; it's more viscerally acknowledging that a "good deal" in the world of diamonds can still be an awful lot of money by any objective metric!