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I'm unsure where to post this, since I am engaged but not yet married. I didn't think it would be appropriate in the newlywed section or family section.
Anyhow, I'll begin by giving a bit of history.
My fiance proposed on Christmas Eve 2012. He gave me a lovely and beautiful ring, although the style really wasn't "me" and looked nothing like bands I showed him as hints several months before the proposal. He bought the ring at a store in the mall (Peoples Jewellers, the Canadian equivalent of Kay in USA), which I wasn't overly thrilled about but still, the ring was beautiful so I tried not to be picky. Nevertheless, I wore it with pride after the engagement.
I was so happy to receive such a lovely gift and so excited to be engaged that I found myself looking at the ring many times everyday. It didn't take long for me to notice a huge inclusion in the upper middle part of the diamond. The ring included a tiny card with some information on the diamond, mainly only the "important" stats, but nothing about specifics of the cut or angles. The diamond was 1.0 carat G colour I2 clarity 'good' cut diamond. I forget the name of the lab but was concerned when I couldn't find much information about them via Google. Needless to say, I was upset and a bit disappointed.
I tried to forget about the inclusion for about a month but finally, I took a picture clearly showing the huge line through the upper middle part and sent it to him. He was angry and accused me of hunting for flaws since it was graded I2. I had already begun some research on stats of diamonds, what's important, etc and I said I was concerned over the structural integrity of the diamond having such a large line/crack through the middle. Still, he was very angry and upset. He blamed me for ruining the romance and surprise of a ring he picked out himself. He blamed me for finding the flaw and being concerned about it. He said I ruined the proposal.
I took the ring back to the store he bought it from just for another opinion and analysis. I was told by the 20-something sales rep that "all diamonds have freckles", and not to be concerned, with no further explanation or information. I was very aggravated to have my concerns dismissed. I asked to view the ring under a microscope and was told it wasn't possible. Frustrated, I simply left the ring at the store for resizing and left.
While the ring was gone for resizing, I brought up my concerns about the customer service, again about the integrity of the diamond, and how I was nervous the ring wouldn't last my lifetime as it should. He was angry, accused me of hating the ring, and suggested we return it. Long story short, we returned the ring (the sales rep took 20 minutes to find it, apparently it had been placed in the wrong spot and not in the security box. Certainly didn't help my opinion of their professionalism) and I found out he paid $6000 for a 1 carat i2 diamond in a plain 14k white gold band.
With the $6000 budget in mind, I began research on diamonds, ring companies, metals, you name it. Eventually I found a 1.00 carat SI1 eye-clean I colour with fluorescence (making it appear G), ex ex vg cut 1.0 hca diamond. It will be set in a platinum Gabriel band with a flower design and .3 ctw diamonds in the band. I stayed within budget with the same size stone in a superior cut with GIA cert and a platinum band with diamonds.
I guess where I'm mainly sad and concerned is that after we returned the ring he had very little interest in helping me pick the new one, "the one", the perfect ring I've always had in mind. In his eyes I think the entire proposal has been ruined forever. He's embarrassed about the ring being returned, so I have to contain my excitement and pride over the ring I picked and love. He gets defensive when I share pictures of the new diamond and band with my family and friends. I want to share my enthusiasm in the near perfect angles of the diamond's cut, in how I think the fluorescence is the coolest thing ever, in how I love how the band reminds me of a family heirloom ring my grandmother wears.
The whole situation is sad and though I'm very happy with the ring, I'm afraid I won't be able to enjoy it as much as I wanted. I feel all of this is my fault since I couldn't be satisfied with the ring he picked. I'm also a bit disappointed that he didn't put more effort into the ring. I wish he would've found Pricescope and HCA and done all the research that a purchase of this magnitude should require. He says all of his friends' wives were happy with their rings, no questions asked. They didn't "nitpick" the stats. I'm a very thorough person, though. I enjoy the stats and charts and research. I'm sad this had to be so difficult. This isn't the way I wanted to start my engagement.
Sorry for the long post. Thank you for reading and hope to get a bit of advice on what to do.
Anyhow, I'll begin by giving a bit of history.
My fiance proposed on Christmas Eve 2012. He gave me a lovely and beautiful ring, although the style really wasn't "me" and looked nothing like bands I showed him as hints several months before the proposal. He bought the ring at a store in the mall (Peoples Jewellers, the Canadian equivalent of Kay in USA), which I wasn't overly thrilled about but still, the ring was beautiful so I tried not to be picky. Nevertheless, I wore it with pride after the engagement.
I was so happy to receive such a lovely gift and so excited to be engaged that I found myself looking at the ring many times everyday. It didn't take long for me to notice a huge inclusion in the upper middle part of the diamond. The ring included a tiny card with some information on the diamond, mainly only the "important" stats, but nothing about specifics of the cut or angles. The diamond was 1.0 carat G colour I2 clarity 'good' cut diamond. I forget the name of the lab but was concerned when I couldn't find much information about them via Google. Needless to say, I was upset and a bit disappointed.
I tried to forget about the inclusion for about a month but finally, I took a picture clearly showing the huge line through the upper middle part and sent it to him. He was angry and accused me of hunting for flaws since it was graded I2. I had already begun some research on stats of diamonds, what's important, etc and I said I was concerned over the structural integrity of the diamond having such a large line/crack through the middle. Still, he was very angry and upset. He blamed me for ruining the romance and surprise of a ring he picked out himself. He blamed me for finding the flaw and being concerned about it. He said I ruined the proposal.
I took the ring back to the store he bought it from just for another opinion and analysis. I was told by the 20-something sales rep that "all diamonds have freckles", and not to be concerned, with no further explanation or information. I was very aggravated to have my concerns dismissed. I asked to view the ring under a microscope and was told it wasn't possible. Frustrated, I simply left the ring at the store for resizing and left.
While the ring was gone for resizing, I brought up my concerns about the customer service, again about the integrity of the diamond, and how I was nervous the ring wouldn't last my lifetime as it should. He was angry, accused me of hating the ring, and suggested we return it. Long story short, we returned the ring (the sales rep took 20 minutes to find it, apparently it had been placed in the wrong spot and not in the security box. Certainly didn't help my opinion of their professionalism) and I found out he paid $6000 for a 1 carat i2 diamond in a plain 14k white gold band.
With the $6000 budget in mind, I began research on diamonds, ring companies, metals, you name it. Eventually I found a 1.00 carat SI1 eye-clean I colour with fluorescence (making it appear G), ex ex vg cut 1.0 hca diamond. It will be set in a platinum Gabriel band with a flower design and .3 ctw diamonds in the band. I stayed within budget with the same size stone in a superior cut with GIA cert and a platinum band with diamonds.
I guess where I'm mainly sad and concerned is that after we returned the ring he had very little interest in helping me pick the new one, "the one", the perfect ring I've always had in mind. In his eyes I think the entire proposal has been ruined forever. He's embarrassed about the ring being returned, so I have to contain my excitement and pride over the ring I picked and love. He gets defensive when I share pictures of the new diamond and band with my family and friends. I want to share my enthusiasm in the near perfect angles of the diamond's cut, in how I think the fluorescence is the coolest thing ever, in how I love how the band reminds me of a family heirloom ring my grandmother wears.
The whole situation is sad and though I'm very happy with the ring, I'm afraid I won't be able to enjoy it as much as I wanted. I feel all of this is my fault since I couldn't be satisfied with the ring he picked. I'm also a bit disappointed that he didn't put more effort into the ring. I wish he would've found Pricescope and HCA and done all the research that a purchase of this magnitude should require. He says all of his friends' wives were happy with their rings, no questions asked. They didn't "nitpick" the stats. I'm a very thorough person, though. I enjoy the stats and charts and research. I'm sad this had to be so difficult. This isn't the way I wanted to start my engagement.
Sorry for the long post. Thank you for reading and hope to get a bit of advice on what to do.
). Let him know that you view this as a huge purchase that you take seriously and you felt he should be getting the best possible diamond for his money. I would approach it as though you liked the first ring but were very concerned about the stability of the diamond. 
Tell him that you appreciate the patience he has shown for you during all this and give him a little something... baked brownies, something for his car, a beer in a frosted mug etc. 
(since he mentioned that none of them "nit picked")
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