Ring dilemmia/ Need Feedback on Asscher

[Need_Advice]

I would like some feedback on this stone. The GIA Report is attached.

My SO purchased this in the plain, 4-prong BN solitaire. I never liked asschers for myself, but he liked them. In fact, I told him this, and gave him plenty of advice (links, styles, VERY specific) as to what I do like. Although I am a little miffed he went for his preferences rather than mine, I am trying to educate myself. I predict that we will change the ring somehow. It's not my style and it clashes with other jewelry that he's given me, that I wear everyday. It's not my taste at all, but I am trying to educate myself to see if I can set it in a way that I like. I am sure he wants me to have what I want, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. If I could do something beautiful with the stone he chose, it would be that much more meaningful.

Alternatively, is it wrong to swap the ring out for something else, if he seems okay with it? I never thought I would be in this situation, but I am truly, truly confused as to why he bought a ring that is exactly the opposite of everything I told him I liked.

I'm a long-time reader and would appreciate any advice you all might have.

 

[Enerchi]

Re: Ring dillemia/ Need Feedback on Asscher

oh my -- sticky situation.

I think if it were me, as sensitive as it is to bring up the issue, YOU are wearing the ring not him. If you are trying to 'teach yourself' how to love it, then it is not going to work - you will not love it the way you wish you could.

Talk it over, maybe go back to a store and try on all sorts of styles with him and then show him (again!) what it is that you prefer? My guess is he'd prefer for you to be happy, so a frank and upfront conversation may need to be had.

Good luck.

 

[kenny]

I think you two need to have a long talk.
Tell all, that you want to wear what YOU like but you also don't want to hurt his feelings.
Tell him he is buying things that he likes but you don't like.
Just because he likes it does not mean you like it.
People vary.

Don't tell him this . . . It is immature, selfish and arrogant of him to assume the recipient will share his "superior" taste.

Hopefully he will put 2 and 2 together and discover the solution is to learn what you like and buy that.
Keep talking till you get there.

IMHO, you two need to be able to talk about this kind of stuff if you are going to be together.

 

[Amys Bling]

Hmm, I would talk to him about it. Tell him you love him but the ring isn't your style an that you want to live the ring he got you and wear it everyday- you would prefer a different style.