Right hand ring "outshining" wedding/e-rings?

[Logan Sapphire]

My husband has made it clear that he doesn''t believe in upgrading, although he has hinted that in the future, there could perhaps be additional diamonds. While I''m not as sentimental as he is, I totally respect his feelings.

My e-ring is a .78ct stone in a simple tiffany-style crown head on a plain shank and my wedding ring is a .27 thin channel set ring. To satisfy (or stoke) my diamond lust, I would love to get a Jubilee or an Asscher (set in the Daniel K boxter style) for my right hand. However, would it look funny or odd to have a "nicer" or bigger right hand ring than my wedding/e-ring? Will I always be limited to stones around the same ct weight so that they don''t compete with my left hand?

What do you people think?

 

[diamondlil]

I have a few colored stone and diamond RHRs (tanzanite, pink tourmaline, peridot), and all are significantly larger than my diamond but not "nicer" or more expensive. Until I got the halo on my pear diamond, it was set in a plain gold setting too, and I wore it with a wide pave wedding band. That helped a little to give my left hand a bit more bling so things were not so off balance. I doubt the regular observer has even noticed the size/balance issue at all. Us PS-ers tend to analyze things to the extreme.

Now my problem is, my new pear halo is platinum, and I only own one white metal RHR (Simon G 12 mm wide band). Not that I mind wearing yellow and white metals at the same time (I mix in my 2-tone watch and bracelet so it works), but I NEED (yes, I said NEED) more selection than that!

Better start saving my pennies.

DiamondLil

 

[ame]

get something that can be worn on either hand, maybe one of his awesome bands? That way you can wear it either way

 

[kaylagee]

I agree that bands are an excellent idea! You can get away with a lot of carats without challenging your wedding/erings.

Personally I wouldn''t mind at all if a RHR dwarfed my e-ring. I think most people assume the left-hand rings are the everyday, workhorse ones. The right hand is perfect for something out-of-the-ordinary.

We need more hands!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Hi,

I'm not planning to change my wedding set but have been looking at a few rings with center stones larger than my eng. stone and personally I don't think it's any big deal. This is mostly an issue of cultural conditioning. Do you care what other people think? I don't think we should get too hung up in the stereotypical left hand, big solitaire; right hand, whatever else. . .

Pick out a RHR that you like!

 

[bluedawg]

I agree with the PP who said that it shouldn''t matter at all.

But for me, I definitely want my wedding set to be the biggest deal. I recently upgraded to something larger and more sparkly and the set is the only jewelry I wear-- my ears are pierced but I don''t like the feel of earrings anymore, I wear a silver chram bracelet only sometimes, and I only wear a necklace on a dressy occasion. My wedding set has been my only everyday stuff for years now... so I''m not used to anything on my R hand.

I was planning to have a custom setting made for my inherited 1.67 pear-- even began working with a jeweler-- but decided that I don''t want anything to take away from my wedding set. I do eventually want a EC w/sapphire sides RHR (perhaps by Leon Mege

) but that''s several years down the road...

It boils down to my own comfort level and lifestyle-- I''m traditional and dress very casually and feel strange with bracelets, earrings, etc. just as I feel uncomfortable wearing lipstick!

But again, I think there are NO rules and you should get what you want!

 

[researcher]

I think a great option is to wear your e-ring as an everyday ring, and the bigger one for when you want that extra BLING. My mom is sentimental and therefore never wanted to upgrade her original e-ring, but she does have a SIGNIFICANTLY bigger ring that she wears when she wants to sparkle more (and wear her other big jewelry). If you go this route you won''t have to worry about one ring competing with another--you''ll just have options

 

[Kaleigh]

Or what about wearing your eternity band from signed pieces and the new ring on your right hand for special occasions??

 

[Logan Sapphire]

Kaleigh and Researcher, great ideas, but the only thing is that I would hate to only wear the bigger ring on occasion. I want to wear it all the time!

Another option is to keep upgrading the Signed Pieces eternity ring I wear on my right hand till it looks something like Kaleigh''s amazing ring!

 

[researcher]

What about getting a diamond pendant, or turning your original e-ring into a pendant? I know I will never upgrade my diamond, but I am not against using it to make a gorgeous pendant (it will be even closer to my heart then

). If that''s not an option, just get the bigger RHR--it will not look weird.

 

[MINE!!]

Logan, I am having a similiar thought and issue as well. I really REALLY want to wear one of those yummy 14+ carat Blue Topaz cushion/emerald/ oval cut rings on my right hand for my wedding. But I am so afraid that it will take away from my E-ring. Although not entirely the same, keep us updated on what you plan to do!

 

[Dancing Fire]

L S
go for it,there's no rule saying that your e-ring must be bigger than your RHR. i know the rules.

 

[partgypsy]

I have never heard the rule that a right hand ring should be same size or smaller than the engagement ring, in fact I''ve seen the reverse (a bigger non-engagement ring) more than the other way around. If you think about it, it makes sense. Many people married when they were younger, had less money, and the later rings are the upgrades. For example, my boss has a respectable wedding set but also wears a large trillian tanzanite ring on her right hand.