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minousbijoux|1360859278|3379980 said:Every day remember that we here on PS are all surrounding you, wrapping you up in a huge hug of warmth and security and calm. It sounds like you already know that you are making it through. You must miss her terribly. Would it help to talk about her and what you loved about her?
Okie_girl|1360968397|3381223 said:minousbijoux|1360859278|3379980 said:Every day remember that we here on PS are all surrounding you, wrapping you up in a huge hug of warmth and security and calm. It sounds like you already know that you are making it through. You must miss her terribly. Would it help to talk about her and what you loved about her?
Minou, I've never known anyone like my beloved. She had a big personality. Was always the life of the party. Never met a stranger. Every workman that came to the house, every store clerk, every fast food server was her new best friend. When I walked the dogs, I'd be home in about 30 minutes. If she went with us, it was at least an hour, because she had to stop and talk to all the neighbors. One neighbor told me, "she was the spark of our neighborhood." She was generous to a fault. She'd give away her last dollar. It broke her heart to see anything suffering, be it animal or person. She tried to take on everyone else's pain so they wouldn't feel so badly. She would help anyone, but would not allow anyone to help her. She brought home strays, or found good homes for them. She was funny as hell, and had the best laugh. When she'd smile, her eyes would twinkle. She was a very good musician, played the guitar and sang, even wrote her own songs. She said I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I felt the same way about her. In the end, I think the pain of living just became too much to bear.
I do miss her terribly. Any time I go anywhere, I just want to come home and tell her all about it. I want to hold her hand while I drift off to sleep. I want to tell her how much I love her...just one more time.
Thank you all SO much for your thoughts.
Okie_girl|1360890204|3380401 said:...to add insult to injury, one of my kitties passed away about 3 weeks after my partner did. He had been sick for several months, but the vet couldn't pinpoint what was going on with him. Towards the end, the vet was thinking he had some kind of blood cancer. He died very peacefully at home, and I know she was waiting for him.
For those of you who suggested professional help or groups, I am doing both. I've been attending the local Survivors of Suicide (dear lord, I never thought I'd type those words) support group, and i've been seeing a counselor. Both have been invaluable. Here's what I know: I didn't have a lot of control over the circumstances that led me to this place in my life. The only thing I have control over is my actions and my reactions. I can let this event define me, and I can become bitter and miserable, or I can pick myself up and take what lessons I can from this. I've always been a silver lining type of gal, and while at this very moment it's tough to see a silver lining, I choose life. I choose love.
Yssie|1360971398|3381270 said:Okie_girl|1360968397|3381223 said:minousbijoux|1360859278|3379980 said:Every day remember that we here on PS are all surrounding you, wrapping you up in a huge hug of warmth and security and calm. It sounds like you already know that you are making it through. You must miss her terribly. Would it help to talk about her and what you loved about her?
Minou, I've never known anyone like my beloved. She had a big personality. Was always the life of the party. Never met a stranger. Every workman that came to the house, every store clerk, every fast food server was her new best friend. When I walked the dogs, I'd be home in about 30 minutes. If she went with us, it was at least an hour, because she had to stop and talk to all the neighbors. One neighbor told me, "she was the spark of our neighborhood." She was generous to a fault. She'd give away her last dollar. It broke her heart to see anything suffering, be it animal or person. She tried to take on everyone else's pain so they wouldn't feel so badly. She would help anyone, but would not allow anyone to help her. She brought home strays, or found good homes for them. She was funny as hell, and had the best laugh. When she'd smile, her eyes would twinkle. She was a very good musician, played the guitar and sang, even wrote her own songs. She said I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I felt the same way about her. In the end, I think the pain of living just became too much to bear.
I do miss her terribly. Any time I go anywhere, I just want to come home and tell her all about it. I want to hold her hand while I drift off to sleep. I want to tell her how much I love her...just one more time.
Thank you all SO much for your thoughts.
Oh Okie, it's been an awful couple of months I'm so sorry about your darling kitty, too, I guess the silver lining is that she's keeping your partner company now
Thank you for sharing that - she sounds like an incredible person. The sort of person who couldn't help but change your life. I really do believe that every time you think about how much you love her, she knows.
More HUGS, Okie.
Okie_girl|1360968397|3381223 said:minousbijoux|1360859278|3379980 said:Every day remember that we here on PS are all surrounding you, wrapping you up in a huge hug of warmth and security and calm. It sounds like you already know that you are making it through. You must miss her terribly. Would it help to talk about her and what you loved about her?
Minou, I've never known anyone like my beloved. She had a big personality. Was always the life of the party. Never met a stranger. Every workman that came to the house, every store clerk, every fast food server was her new best friend. When I walked the dogs, I'd be home in about 30 minutes. If she went with us, it was at least an hour, because she had to stop and talk to all the neighbors. One neighbor told me, "she was the spark of our neighborhood." She was generous to a fault. She'd give away her last dollar. It broke her heart to see anything suffering, be it animal or person. She tried to take on everyone else's pain so they wouldn't feel so badly. She would help anyone, but would not allow anyone to help her. She brought home strays, or found good homes for them. She was funny as hell, and had the best laugh. When she'd smile, her eyes would twinkle. She was a very good musician, played the guitar and sang, even wrote her own songs. She said I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I felt the same way about her. In the end, I think the pain of living just became too much to bear.
I do miss her terribly. Any time I go anywhere, I just want to come home and tell her all about it. I want to hold her hand while I drift off to sleep. I want to tell her how much I love her...just one more time.
Thank you all SO much for your thoughts.
TooPatient|1362501515|3396855 said:Okie -- I'm sorry you are going through this. I don't have any great words of wisdom and don't know how to make it better -- I wish I did! Just know that you remain in my thoughts.
Probate and all that sucks. I'm no good at the legal paperwork side of things, but I did all of the paperwork stuff for investment accounts (retirement, individual, joint, trust, etc). If you've got a generic question about the process or anything I'd be happy to try to answer. I know all the paperwork and switching of stuff can get overwhelming.