Removing your ring - Would you get angry?

[kenny]

I want to take more pics of the Octavia so I asked my SO if I could use the ring.

He allowed me but now he's angry I've had it so long.
We swapped rings for what has now turned into two days.
I admit I've procrastinated and tried some ideas which didn't work well enough to be satisfied.
He said he did enjoy wearing my 2.26 asscher and showing it around at work.

Oh, then during our little argument I made the mistake of saying, "I gave it to you". Then he got really mad.
I guess I'm such a guy, an insensitive meathead.

He says married people do not remove their rings because it is such an important symbol and he feels terrible without it.

I don't think that way.
I'm much more the rational type but I have to respect his feelings.

How would you feel about removing your ring and handing it over to your SO for a photo session?

 

[princesss]

I don't have a ring yet, but I can't imagine I'd give it to him for more than an hour, and even that would be under close supervision...

 

[Clairitek]

I wouldn't have any problem with that. My DH takes off his ring for sleeping and sports. I don't get offended if he accidentally leaves it at home for the day when he is at work. I feel naked without mine on but if I had to relinquish my ring for a little bit for repair or if my DH wanted it I wouldn't have a problem. As long as I know it is in safe hands, or a safe place at home, it doesn't bother me.

 

[Rhea]

I don't care. It's just a symbol and I usually don't wear it anyhow. I suppose I'd like to know where it was and when he thought he'd return it. If I were wanting to wear it then I'd ask where it was. If I weren't wanting to wear it I probably wouldn't even notice that it had gone.

 

[MissMina]

Two days is probably stretching it.
And when you gave it to him it became his.

My mom has been wearing her ring nonstop since 1942
Me not so much

 

[movie zombie]

i'm with your SO, kenny...sorry.

you may have given it to him but it is now HIS. once a gift is given, its given....... i'd be tempted to give it back if my hubby ever said that to me re my spess.......

and 2 days is pushing it. i do give you some points though for allowing him the use of your ascher; however, it still doesn't negate the fact that octavia has a special meaning for your SO. my wedding ring is a simple 2mm 18k gold band and i'd never let anyone else wear it or try it on....not that they'd want to! my spess e-ring is almost as sensitive an issue for me.

on a positive note: making up can be such fun

mz

 

[sctsbride09]

I wouldnt be angry with DH, but I would be b*tching and whining "where the hell is my ring?!) I wear my ring all the time, I only take it off when I do dishes or cook something greasy, so 2 days without it would stink. Give him a break, at least you know he LOVES his ring and the symbolism behind it. If that is the ring you made your commitment with, its understandable why he is so attached to it. I know alot of people on here do upgrades and such (which is great if you want it) but alot of us on here are sentimental like your SO. For people like us, only "our" ring will do.

 

[PinkTower]

I advise everyone, every time some version of this question comes up, to only think of a ring as a symbol. My husband and I were robbed of our rings at gunpoint five months after we were married. I had to get over my prior feelings about the ring or I would have lost my mind, I know now that I suffered from PTSD over the event for probably a year or more. The guilt was an especially heavy burden because the stone was a family heirloom that his grandmother had worn for over fifty years, and I managed to lose it after five months. Please, see your ring as what it is: a symbol that is a material object, and nothing more.

 

[packrat]

I used to tease JD after we got married when he didn't have his on "So, you don't want to be married to me today or what?" He just wasn't used to wearing a ring. Now he doesn't take it off and it's ratty looking and needs to be replaced. It will be replaced w/out a second thought-and that's the ring we were married with.

The ering he proposed to me with, wasn't a good one, but all he could afford. I don't wear it and the little chip came out of it somewhere. Bought a new one, and that was the one we got married with. Then, I had a new one made several months ago. NOW, the stone in that one is at some point probably going to get replaced.

I don't have the emotional attachment to the ring that some people do I guess. I have the emotional attachment to my husband. If he wanted to borrow my ring for whatever purpose, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest to wear a different ring or just my wedding band for a few days. A week. Whatever. Even something as magnificent as the Octavia, yes.

The "But I gave it to you" thing..well, yeah, I think I'd be giving JD the narrow eye if he said that to me, but I prolly would just say, "Yes, however.." and point to regions SOUTH, and say "But I give you THIS and if you would like me to give you THIS again, I best be getting my ring back"

 

[Nashville]

I don't think I'd get mad... but I don't know. No one's ever given me the oh so amazing Octavia before

 

[that_someone_special]

Photo session would be fine. But when you're not actively shooting it, I'd want it back

Two days is a lot when you have bright, shiny bling

 

[Imdanny]

The plaintiff states that Kenny had his ring for two days for the purpose of photographing said ring. The plaintiff states that defendant borrowed plantiff's ring during said time. The defendant further admits to making an insensitive remark.

It seems reasonable to this court that defendant's ring may be borrowed for a reasonable amount of time to photograph said ring limited to a period of one day and a number of hours as may be agreed upon by defendant and plaintiff.

This court finds in favor of the defendant. This case is returned to defendant and plaintiff to arrange situations not incompatible with this ruling. It is so ordered. (BANG!)

 

[Amber St. Clare]

My husband hasn't taken his ring off in 27years of marriage. He had major surgery and asked them to tape the ring to his finger so it didn't "get lost" during surgery.

I wear a different ring every day. Sometimes it's a wedding ring, engagement or "significant birthday" ring.

It is what it is and it aint what it aint.

 

[Kaleigh]

No I wouldn't get angry. Annoyed maybe?? Kenny you have had it for 2 days.. He misses it.. I can understand that...


I hope you got some great pics. I always look forward to your pics.


Next time, have him be the hand model, so he doesn't have to give up his ring for sooo long... Yanno?? Sounds like a nice compromise to me??

 

[Imdanny]

I don't have my ring yet but when I do I'm not taking it off. Then again my ring is going to be a plain gold band and after pictures for you all of opening the box and seeing the ring for the first time nobody would want to photograph it.

 

[Imdanny]

I mixed my metaphors. I'm sorry. I meant to rule in favor of HIM.

Please post more pictures when you can though! I'm very interested in how you said the Octavia traps the light/ color inside it. It reminds me of seeing the Cullinan I. It did that. It was unforgettable to say the least.

 

[kenny]

The plaintiff states that Kenny had his ring for two days for the purpose of photographing said ring. The plaintiff states that defendant borrowed plantiff's ring during said time. The defendant further admits to making an insensitive remark.

It seems reasonable to this court that defendant's ring may be borrowed for a reasonable amount of time to photograph said ring limited to a period of one day and a number of hours as may be agreed upon by defendant and plaintiff.

This court finds in favor of the defendant. This case is returned to defendant and plaintiff to arrange situations not incompatible with this ruling. It is so ordered. (BANG!)

Hahaha.

Well he got the Octavia back now, and all's well.
He gets really unreasonable and grumpy for a few days every month.
No joke.

 

[Imdanny]

Well he got the Octavia back now, and all's well.
He gets really unreasonable and grumpy for a few days every month.
No joke.

Hahaha.

BTW, you know who taught me how to write a post like that- I have to give credit where credit's due- David B wrote a long post like that for me and at the end he ruled that I should go to Hell!

LOL!

 

[radiantquest]

I am glad that all is well now. I would be annoyed that you had it for so long, but I would like having something beautiful like your asscher to look down at in the meantime.

I say lesson learned and Remember: engage filter between brain and mouth especially when talking to SOs

 

[kenny]

I say lesson learned and Remember: engage filter between brain and mouth especially when talking to SOs

Yeah I have a disease, Justsaywhatyouthinkitis.

 

[kenny]

Well he got the Octavia back now, and all's well.
He gets really unreasonable and grumpy for a few days every month.
No joke.

Hahaha.

BTW, you know who taught me how to write a post like that- I have to give credit where credit's due- David B wrote a long post like that for me and at the end he ruled that I should go to Hell!

LOL!

What a windbag HE was.

 

[Cehrabehra]

I cannot fathom a world in which my husband would want to photo my ring, but I'd have no problem with it. I sometimes take his ring and it's not an issue.

I think the underlying issue here may be JEALOUSY Kenny - you covet the ring you gave him and it is HIS ring. You admit procrastinating lol I think look around that topic to seek your answers

 

[Imdanny]

Yeah, you can imagine why he thought Hell was the best place for me. I can laugh about it now (and some of it was really beautiful writing, at least the part before I got sent to Hell) but it wasn't funny at the time. OT: I quit both those places. C'est la vie.

 

[doodle]

Personally, I feel naked without my ring, so if my DH put me in that position, I'd simply refuse to wear ANYTHING until I got my ring back. Then I'd make it a point to tell him I desperately need to get something at the store and start walking toward the front door. My husband knows I'm just nutty enough to go out the door with no clothes just to prove a point, so that'd be right about the time where he'd go, "Okay, okay! You can have it back, now put on some pants, woman!" Problem solved.

 

[marcy]

Glad to hear all is well now but I'd be freaking out and hovering over my husband if he had my ring.

Sorry for the Threadjack - Pink Tower how awful to be robbed at gunpoint! Very scary.

 

[yssie]

Nah, not at all. FI doesn't particularly care what I do, and he'll hardly ever wear his - which is fine so long as he's got it on for social engagements

 

[lknvrb4]

The plaintiff states that Kenny had his ring for two days for the purpose of photographing said ring. The plaintiff states that defendant borrowed plantiff's ring during said time. The defendant further admits to making an insensitive remark.

It seems reasonable to this court that defendant's ring may be borrowed for a reasonable amount of time to photograph said ring limited to a period of one day and a number of hours as may be agreed upon by defendant and plaintiff.

This court finds in favor of the defendant. This case is returned to defendant and plaintiff to arrange situations not incompatible with this ruling. It is so ordered. (BANG!)

Hahaha.

Well he got the Octavia back now, and all's well.
He gets really unreasonable and grumpy for a few days every month.
No joke.

I swear men get PMS every month.

 

[y2kitty]

I guess the lesson here is you can't give someone a stone as phenomenal as an Octavia and then expect to have extended visitation with it.

 

[elrohwen]

Every once in a while, DH takes off his ring and puts it on my lap. I take it and put it on my thumb and wear it around for a while. Haha. Sometimes I even give him my ring and he puts it on his pinky. So no, we don't have any issues with swapping rings, but we never do it for long because we miss wearing our own rings.

 

[zoebartlett]

I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.