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Remodelling advice please - 3 stone diamond engagement ring

diamondhunter111

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Hi. A few years ago I organised to get a handmade platinum ring made for my partner as an engagement ring. I had already proposed with a 0.8ct (6mm) stone from Whiteflash F VS1 very nice cut. It didn't quite make their ACA range but it is a beautiful stone and we are both very happy with it. My partner really liked a design that she saw in a jewelers shop and we tried to replicate it. It had "half moon" or "D cut" shoulder stones. I sourced a pair of these of best quality I could but they are hard to come by and the size meant no AGS cert etc. They did not come from Whiteflash.

We have limited access to manufacturing jewellers where I live but I did want to deal with someone in person. I came across a freelance jewellery designer in our area who had manufacturing contacts in Sydney (Australia) where the ring was made. There were issues during the design and manufacture process where I believe the designer suffered from some severe mental health issues. We lost direct communication with him for periods of time which was quite scary as we had already paid him some money. In the end we were quite frankly happy to get any ring at all. It was quite sad on all accounts and put a damper on what I was hoping would be an exciting process for us. I was not happy with the end result. Not really due to design or workmanship but due to the side stones being quite dull in comparison to the centre stone in my opinion. This was not obvious when looking at the loose stones side by side. My partner said she thought it was fine but I think she agrees with me and was just being polite and not wanting to cause a fuss or more expense.

I understand now that these D cut stones aren't ever going to have anything close to the light performance of the centre stone. I believe that his particular pair is quite a shallow cut which makes it worse. Even a slight amount of grease/dirt and they take on a milky appearance next to the centre stone even though it is just as dirty. She wears the ring 24/7.

We now have 3 children and I am finally emotionally ready to revisit this. I want to get it right the second time.

I have gone through some pictures with my partner as well as trying on various rings in jewellery stores. She has a preference for trilogy settings over solitaires.

I have found a local manufacturing jeweller who is comfortable with handmade platinum. I feel like the manufacturing side is more his forte and he is happy to accommodate our wishes when it comes to design and this is where I need help from the forum.

He has offered 2 solutions. Either remake the setting to our requirements and keep the shank, or remake the entire ring. Obviously it is significantly cheaper to just have the setting remade and my partner likes the style of the shank so that is the direction we are heading in. This would mean having enough money to put towards a pair of nice side stones.

I have been looking at many pairs of RBC stones online and reading about the desired proportions of trilogy rings. I am thinking that the size of the setting might be a limiting factor as comfort is very important. We are active people and my partner is worried about ending up with a ring that is bulky or top heavy and might get caught on things. She is looking for something elegant, practical and conservative rather than chunky or blingy. She is size J (about Size 5 in US I believe). It seems that for a 0.8ct centre stone, side stones about 0.3-0.32ct (about 4.3mm minimum) might be about the minimum proportions to avoid the side stone appearing as accessory stones. In this size range it is possible to get ACA or similar grade diamonds. I guess I would aim to get within one colour and similar clarity with the centre stone (E-G, VS1) but most importantly a good cut.

The current setting is about 11.5mm from end to end. With 3 RBC stones 4.3mm, 6mm, 4.3mm the setting will be quite a bit longer - perhaps 14-15mm depending on how close they can be set.

Is this going to be too big for her finger size?

I would be hoping to get a fairly even profile across the setting where they are set about the same height and follow the contour of the top of the finger, rather than having the centre stone set higher. I am hoping this will prevent it from catching on things too to some extent. The style of the basket would probably be pretty much the same as it is currently (see last picture below) but he said he would put two prongs on each end rather than the single curved one. I would ask him to make the prongs as fine as he was comfortable with.

The jeweller said he can accomodate a longer setting by cutting and shortening the band at the bottom and that this would be preferable to grinding back the sides of the band where it joins the setting which might affect the look of the pinched profile. He said that he uses very high quality platinum solder and a join would not be obvious.

I would really appreciate some input regarding our current plan including any ways that others would go about it differently.

Thanks.





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There's a house up the road from me that is being renovated. They demolished 3/4 of the house and tacked on a second-storey and new rear section to the original bungalow. I can't help but wonder:
* How much of the house's design is limited by the decision to keep that 1/4 of the original house?
* Is the owner's dream design compromised by the decision to keep that 1/4, and
* How much is the owner actually saving money and time wise?

I kinda thought about this as you were describing your process sorry! I think you can get well cut side stones at a good price so perhaps a full remake is better? I would prefer to spend money on a good make/design so I'd personally be ok with a garden variety excellent cut for side stones. That's just me, though unless you're sourcing side stones from overseas, given the price of stones in Australia, you may as well go the WF route anyway?

If you're sure that your jeweller can achieve what you both want by just remaking the head/setting, by all means go for it. Has your wife looked at existing three-stone settings on Instagram etc.? 3-Stone designs can vary so widely. It also depends on whether she'd like more finger coverage across her finger or more concentrated in the centre like her existing setting. Different visual appeal :)

The sizes you mentioned sound like the stones can span quite widely but I don't think it'll look too much on a size 5 finger. It'll be very blingy without being over the top :D
 
Thanks for the input. I do take your point definitely.
If you're sure that your jeweller can achieve what you both want by just remaking the head/setting, by all means go for it. Has your wife looked at existing three-stone settings on Instagram etc.? 3-Stone designs can vary so widely. It also depends on whether she'd like more finger coverage across her finger or more concentrated in the centre like her existing setting. Different visual appeal

The thing is that I don't know whether the jeweller can achieve this or not. That is a big part of the problem. Not many independent jewellers left in Australia and not everyone is able to work with platinum so the choice is quite limited. I have thought of sending the ring off somewhere but based on our previous experience and also the difficulty others on this forum have had when trying to design rings remotely I am reluctant to.
 
Thanks for the input. I do take your point definitely.


The thing is that I don't know whether the jeweller can achieve this or not. That is a big part of the problem. Not many independent jewellers left in Australia and not everyone is able to work with platinum so the choice is quite limited. I have thought of sending the ring off somewhere but based on our previous experience and also the difficulty others on this forum have had when trying to design rings remotely I am reluctant to.

I'm not sure where you are in Australia (I thought Sydney?), but there are still a lot of good benches around that work with any material. My guy in Perth is amazing and I found him via Instagram. Bert in Sydney is super talented but she is getting very popular and had to actually hold off on further jobs earlier this year. I don't doubt there are equally talented benches but many have opted to work from home studios or independent to retail shops so they may not be obvious to find. If you do a search, there was a thread that recommended a bunch of great jewellers in Australia, and in fact, a lady in Victoria ended up getting her ring done by my jeweller here in Perth as she liked his style.

All I can suggest is to not rush the decision and see what design appeals to you the most. It took me a while to find a bench who was willing to use my old gold and use my own stone, and not charge a fortune.
 
I dont know AUS geography so forgive me if this suggestion is silly, but Alistair Kelsey is in Aus and is one of my favorite designers. I sent a stone from the US to him to set, that's how much I love his work. He is also incredibly kind. I would trust him 1000000% to make something amazing. His Instagram with pics of his work is below. He has a bunch of styles, but has some great 3 stone rings that hes made previously.

 
Hi. Thanks for the further input. I'm located on the gold coast. I looked up Alistair Kelsey and he is on the South Coast it seems. Not that I wouldn't be happy to send it down to him or someone similar (his pieces do look very nice in the photos) but I just thought it would be easier to deal directly with a manufacturing jeweller it person. I'll have a think about this some more and maybe sent an email to Alistair to see what he thinks. Not rushing in is good advice...
 
Hi. Thanks for the further input. I'm located on the gold coast. I looked up Alistair Kelsey and he is on the South Coast it seems. Not that I wouldn't be happy to send it down to him or someone similar (his pieces do look very nice in the photos) but I just thought it would be easier to deal directly with a manufacturing jeweller it person. I'll have a think about this some more and maybe sent an email to Alistair to see what he thinks. Not rushing in is good advice...

Definitely reach out to as many jeweller's that appeal to you. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised by what can be achieved remotely. Bert, who I mentioned, has a steady stream of overseas clients. I vaguely recall a few jewellers in Brissy being mentioned here who have done some work for PS'ers.

You're not wrong in that it's easier to deal with someone in person, but would you believe that I handed in my gold/stones to my guy (Jackson Tait if you're interested) and he pretty much nailed the design based on things that I drew up by hand, so the next time I saw him was to pick up the finished ring, which I loved (it's my avatar). Take your time to see what's out there. My only real advice is to start from scratch if you can. I just don't think you'll get exactly what you want if you have to worry about limitations your current band may impose.
 
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