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Brilliant_Rock
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- Mar 11, 2005
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Hello all-
I know I haven't been on PS in a while. The new system doesn't seem to like me. I either can't log in sometimes, or can't log out!
Some may remember a while ago that I was asking if there really need to be attorneys involved when talking about separation/divorce. Finally near the end of July I had a sit-down with the husband and told him that I think this needs to end. His demeanor hasn't really changed, he's still on another planet emotionally and still never initiated a conversation about where our road is going.
He reacted completely floored, as I thought he would. He genuinely thought we were 'getting along', this was just a rought spot and things were getting better. I said to him this has been going on at least two years; this goes beyond rough spot into disinterest in being married and connecting with me. I was calm, it didn't turn into a fight since I have already gone through accepting that this is over and have mourned it. Since then, he has continued to act like all was great. We actually have been coexisting ok for the most part, simply because I'm not expecting anything from him anymore. We went to a barbecue at his sister's and her husband's place three weeks ago and his parents were asking their usual questions about when we planned on moving out of the complex. Husband went on and on, talking about how we had bounced around some ideas and were making some plans. I'm thinking how nice to lie to your parents and what wife have you been talking to?
All my plans have been shot to hell now since I got laid off two weeks ago. Being stuck in this complex everyday is making me mental. For those of you who know the general North of Boston area, the T doesn't reach that far and the commuter rail is about a mile and a half away from here- too far to walk in a town where most sections don't have sidewalks, some areas have no streetlights.
So today is his birthday. He wants to go out to dinner and make it into this fun evening, I'm sure he's expecting fun times tonight too. I just don't have it in me. The wall went up long ago and it's clear that I'm just his roommate. i can't suddenly feel romantic.
Well, that's how things stand now, hopefully I can make some need changes in the next month or so.
I know I haven't been on PS in a while. The new system doesn't seem to like me. I either can't log in sometimes, or can't log out!
Some may remember a while ago that I was asking if there really need to be attorneys involved when talking about separation/divorce. Finally near the end of July I had a sit-down with the husband and told him that I think this needs to end. His demeanor hasn't really changed, he's still on another planet emotionally and still never initiated a conversation about where our road is going.
He reacted completely floored, as I thought he would. He genuinely thought we were 'getting along', this was just a rought spot and things were getting better. I said to him this has been going on at least two years; this goes beyond rough spot into disinterest in being married and connecting with me. I was calm, it didn't turn into a fight since I have already gone through accepting that this is over and have mourned it. Since then, he has continued to act like all was great. We actually have been coexisting ok for the most part, simply because I'm not expecting anything from him anymore. We went to a barbecue at his sister's and her husband's place three weeks ago and his parents were asking their usual questions about when we planned on moving out of the complex. Husband went on and on, talking about how we had bounced around some ideas and were making some plans. I'm thinking how nice to lie to your parents and what wife have you been talking to?
All my plans have been shot to hell now since I got laid off two weeks ago. Being stuck in this complex everyday is making me mental. For those of you who know the general North of Boston area, the T doesn't reach that far and the commuter rail is about a mile and a half away from here- too far to walk in a town where most sections don't have sidewalks, some areas have no streetlights.
So today is his birthday. He wants to go out to dinner and make it into this fun evening, I'm sure he's expecting fun times tonight too. I just don't have it in me. The wall went up long ago and it's clear that I'm just his roommate. i can't suddenly feel romantic.
Well, that's how things stand now, hopefully I can make some need changes in the next month or so.