by crossmyfingers » Nov 9, 2009 You ladies want to put all our complaints into one big mean thread? I want to write up a big rant, so if anyone else wants to groan with me in here, knock yourselves out! Here goes for me... As I''ve said on here a couple times, my BF will graduate this December and has told me that as far as getting engaged/married goes, to be patient till then and to trust him. I''m trying to be patient, and I''ve been *really* good about it, but finally yesterday I asked him what that means. He basically repeated himself, pretty much, "Just wait till then." So I asked what I''m waiting on: him to start thinking about the future, him to really give me an idea of when he wants to get married, him to start ring shopping with me, what? He said wait till then and we will really talk. I think I''m going to kill him. I''m supposed to still wait around with no idea of when he wants our relationship to move forward? I''m supposed to wait another month (at least) just to talk about it? He wants to get married, and I am overjoyed that he is open about that, but I don''t want to date like this for much longer. I am so afraid that when he graduates he still won''t bring it up and I will have to, and he will *still* tell me that he''s not ready to talk about it. This is the part I feel bad about: I''ve already decided on the day (a few weeks after school is over for him) that I will put my foot down and tell him it is time to talk, since I figure he won''t bring it up himself. And I''ve decided on the day (a couple weeks after that) that if he still hasn''t discussed it with me, I''ll tell him we can discuss it today or I''m not waiting any more. I really don''t want to leave him and I feel terrible for thinking like that at all, but this is so unfair to me, to not even talk about it with me at all when he says he wants to get married "soon." I don''t want to sit around and wait forever and feel more like a fool with each passing day that I''m still in the dark about our future. He says he might want to get married early next summer. Summer 2010! But he can''t even talk about it yet? When does he plan on discussing all this with me - the day before he''s ready to marry me? I don''t really think I''m asking anything. Just felt like posting this to get it off my chest. I keep trying to tell myself to be patient, but I only have so much patience, you know? I know he loves me, and he isn''t going anywhere, and I am glad that he wants to marry me. I just wish he would come up with a plan for when he might start making that happen, so that I would *really* know he means it.