Rant alert: I don't like unsolicited advice.

[Indylady]

From strangers, that I never talked to or said anything but "hi" to.

The end.

R-A-W-R.

 

[Karl_K]

take a deep breath, stretch, relax

There now you feel all better?


lol couldn't resist

 

[Puppmom]

I hope that made you feel better.

For the record, I hate it too...from strangers and people I'm close to. I'm VERY pregnant and that seems to warrant lots of advice from strangers.

 

[Indylady]

Thank you Karl and Puppmom, I do feel a lot better!

 

[tyty333]

I am so with you IL! If I want your advice I will ask for it. When I first got married my in-laws were full of unsolicited
advice. To top it off their advice was pretty much common sense so I really question why they thought that we needed
it (we were both college educated and in our 30s). Used to drive me nuts. I've since figured out that they think they
have to put their 2 cents in on ALL subjects whether they actually know more about it then you or not (and its usually not).
I get through it by biting my tongue and smiling.

 

[luckynumber]

ick, i hate it too.

i like to look at them blankly and then walk away slowly.....

their faces usually look like this ------>

 

[kenny]

Indy I think you need a new hair style.
And that outfit you're wearing is soooooooooo last year.

 

[lilyfoot]

Indy I think you need a new hair style.
And that outfit you're wearing is soooooooooo last year.

 

[Steel]

Kindness of strangers...

I think it is sweet. They have nothing to gain by offering advice and perhaps you will learn something of use to you. When so many are out to take advantage of the next person, I like that some will spontaneously say (e.g) I have that phone and the battery is crap, or that top looks great on you or don't queue here there is a free counter upstairs....etc

 

[risingsun]

I think it depends upon the advice. Years ago, a friend was at her tennis club and a woman noticed that my friend had a large lesion on her leg. The woman was a dermatologist and strongly urged my friend to make an appointment to see her own dermatologist. She did so and was diagnosed with having a melanoma. This woman may have just saved my friend's life. Not all unsolicited advice is a negative thing. As a therapist, I have sometimes been the first responder on the scene of a trauma. You step up when you need to, whether or not you are "on the clock."

 

[Indylady]

It wasn't quite sweet advice, but rather judgmental. Oh well. It just means I need to: 1) grow thicker skin or 2) practice my snarky retorts.

 

[MarquiseGirl]

It wasn't quite sweet advice, but rather judgmental. Oh well. It just means I need to: 1) grow thicker skin or 2) practice my snarky retorts.

I vote for "practice my snarky retorts". Nothing like a smarta$$

 

[risingsun]

It wasn't quite sweet advice, but rather judgmental. Oh well. It just means I need to: 1) grow thicker skin or 2) practice my snarky retorts.

I'm sorry that someone was judgmental to you. That's uncalled for I've used both the thicker skin and snarky response, depending on the circumstances!

 

[Tuckins1]

Ha-ha! I feel ya'.... We had a school nurse a few years back who was BIZAR-O!! She did this kind of stuff all the time, but most incidents went something like this: (Just walking down the hall. minding my own business)
Me: Achoo!
Her: Oh dear, are you sick?
Me: Maybe just a cold or something... Could be allergies.
Her: This is what you should do. Take some -----, and then do -----. You really should be taking ----, ----, and --- every day.
Me: Uh, thanks. Ya know, my mom's a nurse, so she can help me out if I need it.
Her: Mkay, well, you need to do those things I said because that will really help you....blah blah blah.

Like a 20 something year old woman doesn't know how to take a freakin benadryl for allergies!! It wasn't just that one thing, she always had a comment or instructions for everybody. No wonder she was not back the next year!!

 

[Indylady]

Marquisegirl, I agree

Thanks Marian. I'm feeling a little better now!

Tuckins, hehe! I must have been extra crabby-- as a recent grad, I've been getting tons of unsolicited "life" advice. And now, from someone that I've literally said two words to, and judgmental comments at that..gah! Icing on the cake.

 

[Haven]

My husband's family's favorite hobby is offering unsolicited advice to each other.
It makes for hilarious family get-togethers. Well, as long as they're not including me in the festivities.

I used to really hate unsolicited advice from all the adults in our community. As I get older, I am reluctantly learning to admit that I should have listened to some of them. Some of them, however, should have kept their darn mouths shut.