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Hi,

It is quiet. We had a large variety of people in the past to enliven the group. Controversy is good on platforms such as pricescope. So many topics have been discouraged, so of course its less interesting for people. Our world in the US is perhaps failing and no discussion of it is allowed. . But, the business model here is about diamonds and hangout is not important to the business model.. The loss of people has nothing to do with hangout, although I suspect that when visitors to the site dropped, they looked to hangout and the political threads as a scapegoat.
Only the diamond board will bring back the people so that Admin has a viable business. There are many reasons for the drop in visitors. PS focus has been on advertising revenue, They have had free labor all these years without recognition or reward. to their laborers. Its too late now. The business model works only if you get the people there. Then you have to keep the people there. Nothing to do with hangout.

Annette

I can't see a way out, but hopefully there is away.
 
It is super quiet, and I hate that. There are so many wonderful people here.

Seems that the lab board is still going strong, so I wonder how much of what we’re seeing is the rise in lab diamonds.
 
There was a phase where certain posters seemed to really judge people harshly. I’m not even talking about politics, but threads with negative comments about anything from pop culture to clothing to how people choose to spend their money. If you didn’t live by their standard you were deficient in some way. There were a few threads essentially bashing millennials like we’re not all adults trying to navigate a broken system the best that we can.

I don’t spend time in spaces with that kind of mentality so I rarely come here anymore. I doubt that I was the only one turned off.
 
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chemgirl said:
There was a phase where certain posters seemed to really judge people harshly. I’m not even talking about politics, but threads with negative comments about anything from pop culture to clothing to how people choose to spend their money. If you didn’t live by their standard you were deficient in some way. There were a few threads essentially bashing millennials like we’re not all adults trying to navigate a broken system the best that we can.

I don’t spend time in spaces with that kind of mentality so I rarely come here anymore. I doubt that I was the only one turned off.
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Hi,

I think some of your comments hit right on due to the homogenous nature of the posters. Mostly white wealthy women, rather conventional in thought and action who think their views are righter than others views. There is no question we need these younger views on here. But single voices cannot withstand the group think. I want to be clear, these women are or have been the bedrock of our society for many years, but innovative and non-conformist in any way, they are not. I believe they think they are, but alas, they are not.

Its why the mix and variety of people are necessary on here. I want younger peope here. They are usually more fun and tell me whats happening in the world outside my realm.

Annette
 
Some threads are going pretty strong—like the grumpies—and I do wonder if most people are finding that they would rather just post a quick complaint there rather than starting a new thread. There is also a rule in that thread that no replies are necessary, if I recall correctly, which I think makes for a safer space to vent about anything. Finally, with the like buttons and such—there seems to be no need to make further comments on many topics.
 
Every year for 20 years threads pop up on how slow it is around this time of year.
People have a lot of stuff going on around now and other than birthdays and proposals no real big diamond buying days.
 
There will never be a quiet forum where the self-righteous roam, all it takes is the right topic and we are off to the races!
 
chemgirl said:
There was a phase where certain posters seemed to really judge people harshly. I’m not even talking about politics, but threads with negative comments about anything from pop culture to clothing to how people choose to spend their money. If you didn’t live by their standard you were deficient in some way. There were a few threads essentially bashing millennials like we’re not all adults trying to navigate a broken system the best that we can.

I don’t spend time in spaces with that kind of mentality so I rarely come here anymore. I doubt that I was the only one turned off.
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that doesnt sound very friendyl, but i have genrally found the entire forum quite friendly
i dont always read all the threads in hangout though

you know i belong to only two internet communities, both who have other topics not relating to their main focus and both banned politics,
i detect a strong liberal bias most of the time but im still interested in their views even if mine are different
im not an academic, im not a white collar worker, i dont have thousands to spend on diamonds but its nice to see what others are buying

i just wish there were a few others posting their more modest purchases right now
 
Karl_K said:
Every year for 20 years threads pop up on how slow it is around this time of year.
People have a lot of stuff going on around now and other than birthdays and proposals no real big diamond buying days.
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the thing is its winter down here and i dont want to go out to the beach this time of year :lol-2:
its like the entire northern hemisphere is on or just finished their summer holidays when we are hunkered down for the durration
 
Hi.

Karl puts a good spin on any complaint. Take a look at how many views some threads are getting. I have loosely calculated the number of people who are viewing the threads, keeping in mind the fact that the same posters are viewing several times.
I hate to tell you the number and will not, but its bad.
I am not advocating to re=open the P>T>, but things have never, ever been like this.

Annette
 
Calliecake said:
@chemgirl, If I’ve ever done or said something to hurt you I sincerely apologize. I loved reading your posts and miss you being here.
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No need to apologize! I always appreciate your opinion.

There are a few threads that stick out in my memory where some commenters were insulting groups of people. For example a thread about millennials being entitled and lazy (apparently we shouldn’t go to brunch). There was another about a VMA performance that turned into a conversation shaming strippers.

I found myself debating with people here and it wasn’t worth it. I still check in from time to time, but I don’t tend to engage much.
 
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@chemgirl, I hope you and your family are doing well and completely understand how you feel.
 
Daisys and Diamonds, I'm with you on the modest purchases.
Coming my way is a portuguese cut peridot brooch set with blue topaz baguettes above, I'll send pics when I have it.
 
Ibrakeforpossums said:
Daisys and Diamonds, I'm with you on the modest purchases.
Coming my way is a portuguese cut peridot brooch set with blue topaz baguettes above, I'll send pics when I have it.
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my favourite post today !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :appl:
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Daisys and Diamonds said:
that doesnt sound very friendyl, but i have genrally found the entire forum quite friendly
i dont always read all the threads in hangout though

you know i belong to only two internet communities, both who have other topics not relating to their main focus and both banned politics,
i detect a strong liberal bias most of the time but im still interested in their views even if mine are different
im not an academic, im not a white collar worker, i dont have thousands to spend on diamonds but its nice to see what others are buying

i just wish there were a few others posting their more modest purchases right now
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Hey I make modest purchases once in awhile with labs lol. I just think because it's not mined not many are that interested since its not particularly fancy or expensive. So I mostly just lurk.
 
MeowMeow said:
Hey I make modest purchases once in awhile with labs lol. I just think because it's not mined not many are that interested since its not particularly fancy or expensive. So I mostly just lurk.
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i'm keen for a look =)2
 
FornasettiLover said:
I will stick to my vacuous bling posts
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@FornasettiLover said something that struck me. I used to love browsing PS for beautiful dream pieces.

But increasingly even vacuous bling posts can go off-tangent which frankly then makes the whole forum experience a turn off rather than a happy/relaxing experience.

Plus there are now many more options for vacuous bling. Just go on Instagram or other social media and you can get lots of blings minus the drama.
 
I found that certain subforums on PS (Not Hangout) to be nothing but a push for certain vendors. The advice and/or criticism given is often not authentic. Any criticism of a favoured vendor is likely to be met with pitchforks.

I still visit because there's a few people that I'm very fond of but the joy of posting and showing off one's new bling is not really there anymore.
 
mellowyellowgirl said:
I found that certain subforums on PS (Not Hangout) to be nothing but a push for certain vendors. The advice and/or criticism given is often not authentic. Any criticism of a favoured vendor is likely to be met with pitchforks.

I still visit because there's a few people that I'm very fond of but the joy of posting and showing off one's new bling is not really there anymore.
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Yup that as well. I usually wince at the prices mentioned or wonder if I’m just being cheap but have stopped commenting on prices in general. Like yeah, ok if you think paying X times over market prices is fair go ahead.
 
icy_jade said:
Yup that as well. I usually wince at the prices mentioned or wonder if I’m just being cheap but have stopped commenting on prices in general. Like yeah, ok if you think paying X times over market prices is fair go ahead.
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It's not even just a few thousand over market (which is bad enough). I'm seeing prices in the high tens of thousands (up to a hundred thousand once) for REALLY dubious pieces and stones.
 
It definitely goes up and down through the years. It seems like no one thing, but lots of smaller things. People not posting photos of their unique pieces so that others can't just copy. Hesitation to post due to a period that felt judgemental to many. Not wanting to unintentionally turn a conversation political at a time when much has been. So many things.

There are a number of posts I start to create then change my mind and delete all I had typed. Countless comments go the same way. There are days I will type a comment for half a dozen different posts only to delete without ever posting. I am trying to work on that, but I expect others have been doing the same.
 
I left ps for a couple of months because of virtue signaling. I checked in yesterday, posted, and once again, my ethics were attacked. Threads in HO often lead to such negativity and judgement that I can hardly stand to read them, much less participate. Debates over almost anything often turn into personal attacks. I even recall a thread about a jewelry auction running awry! I am not particularly thin-skinned either but I think anyone would be upset at their spouse being called a voracious predator because someone here didn't approve of his career. I loved ps at one time and had grown very fond of many members. But in the 6 years I have been here, lots of long time posters seem to have left. The ones that quickly come to mind were also victims of the HO mob. People are so damn mean these days that sticking to Instagram fulfills the jewelry need while avoiding the hornet's nest. I hesitated to post anything but I do think there is validity to my thoughts on how quiet it is.
 
mellowyellowgirl said:
I found that certain subforums on PS (Not Hangout) to be nothing but a push for certain vendors. The advice and/or criticism given is often not authentic. Any criticism of a favoured vendor is likely to be met with pitchforks.

I still visit because there's a few people that I'm very fond of but the joy of posting and showing off one's new bling is not really there anymore.
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@mellowyellowgirl, I’ve noticed some of what you are saying about criticism. Everyone has different experiences With vendors. Sometimes people have genuinely not great experiences with a vendor and should be able to discuss what their experience was without being told they are wrong or feel criticized for saying so. Everyone should be able to discuss how they felt freely.
 
mellowyellowgirl said:
It's not even just a few thousand over market (which is bad enough). I'm seeing prices in the high tens of thousands (up to a hundred thousand once) for REALLY dubious pieces and stones.
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I know… and for itty snot sized ones. But maybe that’s how prices are like in the US? I don’t know. They seem to be very happy with what they got despite us thinking they way overpaid. So usually I avoid those threads and peace out. But I draw the line at making newbies pay a shit load of money for a snot sized stone and that’s why I sometimes jump into those threads.
 
Gussie said:
I left ps for a couple of months because of virtue signaling. I checked in yesterday, posted, and once again, my ethics were attacked. Threads in HO often lead to such negativity and judgement that I can hardly stand to read them, much less participate. Debates over almost anything often turn into personal attacks. I even recall a thread about a jewelry auction running awry! I am not particularly thin-skinned either but I think anyone would be upset at their spouse being called a voracious predator because someone here didn't approve of his career. I loved ps at one time and had grown very fond of many members. But in the 6 years I have been here, lots of long time posters seem to have left. The ones that quickly come to mind were also victims of the HO mob. People are so damn mean these days that sticking to Instagram fulfills the jewelry need while avoiding the hornet's nest. I hesitated to post anything but I do think there is validity to my thoughts on how quiet it is.
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Your thoughts are very valid! I see and have experienced much of the same. It is hard to see and also makes it difficult to want to comment. That fondness of members and the amazing community that had been is what keeps me hanging around and trying. I loved how welcoming it was and really saw everyone here as friends. I hope it can be that again. It isn't just here. I'm seeing the same in many places.
 
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