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AllieGator

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Hey, all! I''m going to my cousin''s wedding next wedding. I''m a cash-strapped college student, and I really only have one dress right now that would work for the wedding (I have another, but I wore it to his sister''s wedding a few months ago).

The dress is black, which I''ve read/heard is considered a faux pas for guests. It''s not somber at all--it''s knee length, with a cowl neck line and short sleeves. As far as formality goes, it''s the right level of proper-ness (I just made up word, sorry), and it''s conservative enough for the wedding, which will be held in a baptist church. I''m planning on wearing it with sheer hose and a pair of silver flats, with silver jewelry.

As a bride, would you be offended if someone wore black? If you think it''s a problem, I still have plenty of time to get another dress, I''d just prefer not to.
 

Lynny0780

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i wouldnt offended at all. i wore black to my cousins wedding. actually a lot of people did..
 

CNOS128

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No, I would not be offended.


I do, however, live in New York City -- and if I were offended by people wearing black to any occasion I think I''d have to move.
 

enfianced

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Everyone wears black now. I wouldn''t worry about it at all. I actually thought some of the best dressed at my wedding were wearing LBDs!
 

Cleopatra

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The little black dress is a classic look - I don''t see how it could ever offend someone...I love wearing an LBD! And believe me, I''m never the only one wearing a black dress at a wedding!
 

musey

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I know that it''s supposed to be a less-than-best choice, but I wouldn''t personally be offended at all
I''m pretty sure there were some female guests in black at our wedding, but I don''t remember for sure. I guess that just shows how concerned I was about it
 

galvana

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i would never be offended. i wear black all the time to weddings!
 

Tacori E-ring

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I wear black all the time to weddings! I think that "rule" isn''t really current anymore. Have fun at the wedding!
 

Hudson_Hawk

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Nope, I have no problem with it. I would, however, have a problem with you wearing white! That''s still a current no-no.
 

AllieGator

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Thanks for the replies, everyone! I''m glad it turns out that I''m not planning on committing a huge sin...and don''t worry, hudson hawk, I have no plans to upstage her! Thanks again!
 

diamondgirl4382

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I think at the last three weddings I''ve been to, two thirds of the female guests were wearing black. It''s definitely not a faux pas anymore!
 

Winks_Elf

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Not at all, sounds perfect!
 

Clairitek

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I think dress sounds just fine! I don''t see anything wrong with wearing black to a wedding, especialy in the form of a tasteful dress.
 

tlh

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How sweet to ask!

I''d be offended if you wore white. I like black, it is slimming. Maybe you can rock it out w/ colorful accessories! Have fun... as long as you are having a great time... and keep your clothes on... most brides don''t care what you wear.
 

elrohwen

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I would absolutely not be offended. A lot of bridesmaids actually wear black now, so I think it''s much more acceptable than it used to be. Heck, I even tried to get my mom to wear black to my wedding, but she''s still totally against it
 

FrekeChild

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My MOH is wearing a LBD. I''d have no problems at all...
 

mrscushion

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When I was younger I was told you couldn''t wear black to weddings, but plenty of people have worn LBDs at the weddings I''ve been to, so I think that rule, if it ever existed at all, is outdated now.
 

Haven

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I would just be sure to make the dress a bit more festive by adding colorful accessories. The silver shoes are a great start!
 

Rhea

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I don''t think you can ever go wrong in black. It sounds cute.
 

lucyandroger

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I think the dress sounds lovely but...

I would check with someone closer to the bride and groom. My mom bought a classy black dress to wear to my brother''s wedding and he flipped out about it. We were shocked but last minute my mom ran out and bought a nice wine colored dress. We never would have guessed he was so old-fashioned ( he had a DW in Vegas) but people randomly hold onto some ideas...

then again, this was the mother of the groom not just a regular guest...
 

honey22

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Absolutely not, it''s fine to wear black. Just steer away from white or any other ''bridal'' colours!

maybe you can post a pic of your dress, just for fun
 

Deelight

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It is fine :).

I went dress shopping with a bride who helped me pick a dress to wear to her wedding as a guest and it was black, I don''t think people care anymore.
 

Gypsy

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Nope, wouldn''t offend me at all.
 
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