Question about thank you notes

[bee*]

The thank you note thread just got me thinking this. We received two wedding presents this week. We''re not getting married until the middle of June. Should we send thank you cards now or should we wait until after the wedding. Is there some sort of etiquette on this?

 

[mimzy]

i think etiquette is to send them now, so that they will know that they arrived. That''s what we did up until like two weeks before the wedding, and we only had that cut off because we were having wedding picture thank you cards made up and wanted the majority of people to get them. in that case we mentioned the gift and thanked them personally at the wedding prior to sending the thank you card

 

[EmptyLeftHand]

I plan to send my thank you notes out as soon as I get a gift. I did that with the engagement gifts and it seemed to go down ok.

My theory is that it is never to soon to thank someone, but people notice if a thank you card is a bit late.
Also I figure that I have lots going on pre-wedding to write about in a note, so it should make writing them a bit easier.

When my sister got married she had most thank you''s out before the wedding day, and it was really useful with the people she didn''t know so well from her husbands side. They felt that they her a bit better and were able to chat about soemthing rather than the standard "oh your dress is gordeous".

However.... I do realise I''ll be pretty busy over the next few weeks so letter writing will be tough despite my best intentions!!

 

[bee*]

That''s great to know-thanks! Better get those cards out now then!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I believe you should send the notes when you receive the gift. Just don''t use the gift until after the wedding. This lets the person know you got the package/card and you''ll have less TY notes to write later. If it''s a monetary gift, deposit it but don''t spend it until after the wedding.

 

[LadyBlue]

Date: 5/1/2009 8:36:19 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
I believe you should send the notes when you receive the gift. Just don''t use the gift until after the wedding. This lets the person know you got the package/card and you''ll have less TY notes to write later. If it''s a monetary gift, deposit it but don''t spend it until after the wedding.

This sounds like a really good plan.

 

[bee*]

Cool, thanks all. Just popped them in the post now.