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Dancing Fire

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did you ever regret having kid(s) too early?
 
Nope. I had my son when I was 26. My mom had me at 18 and I can''t imagine having a baby at that age!
 
Nope. Had DD at 26, DS at 28. It wasn''t too early. It was right for us.
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Don't have kids, planning on number 1 in a couple of years - so late 25, early 26.



A friend is now 6m prengant with her first at 24, and we're all worried for her: her now-husband didn't believe monogamy was part of the engagement promise, and we're just hoping he takes his marriage vows more seriously
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Nope. I had my kids at 23, 26, and 29. I wouldn''t have done it any other way.
 
Nope, had my first at 26 (seems to be a common age here!) and second at 31...perfect for us!
 
I don't have kids. If we do have them...it won't be for another 2-5 years yet - I am 31 in a few months; DH will be 36! While many years ago I certainly did not plan it this way....I don't regret having not had them yet either or how life has turned out. DH and I just got married and we want to spend some time just the two of us for a while. If it turns out I squandered my time and fertility away and can't have them I think (at this time) I will be okay with that. I want them but I have never felt my life would not be complete without them either. DH and I are both open to adoption routes as well.

My mum had me when she was 21 (and my siblings at 26 and 28 - she had a lot of trouble carrying a healthy pregnancy between me and them). There are times she has said she wishes she had waited a bit longer (for marriage AND kids....her marriage to my dad ended when she was 7 months pregnant with my baby sister whom she had at 28). And she vacillates between being glad it happened as it did as she had us...and believing even if it had not she would still have had us in some form....
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. She has definitely *never* put the pressure on me to have them though (or even to get married for that matter) as she does think she was very young and always encouraged me to take my time. Though.....she may at this point desire something other than grandcats and granddogs!
 
Nope, never a regret. I had them at 25 and 28. I''m so glad I had them earlier because I certainly don''t have the energy in my 40''s that I had in my 30''s!
 
Date: 4/30/2010 5:01:13 PM
Author: lyra
Nope, never a regret. I had them at 25 and 28. I''m so glad I had them earlier because I certainly don''t have the energy in my 40''s that I had in my 30''s!
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that''s the way i see it too.
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Not really too early (we're 27), but I've sometimes questioned choosing to start our family at the point where we are. Dh was in med. school when we started ttc and then would do his first year of residency at a Navy hospital, then do 4 years of active duty Navy time, then will finish his residency at a civilian hospital.

We didn't want to wait 5 years until dh was out of the Navy to start our family, so we ttc the last year of med school and had ds this year during dh's intern year of residency. We moved to the area and he started working 2 months before ds was born. Honestly, it was INSANELY hard to be away from family and friends when ds was a newborn and dh was working insane hours. It's gotten a little easier as ds has gotten older (he's 9 months now), but I still get really homesick and feel bad that our family doesn't get to see him. And now we're moving again in a few months and won't be really settled in a permanent home till ds is almost 5.

I *think* that even if we knew how hard it was going to be, we still would have had ds when we did, but we're going to wait until dh is done with his Navy time before ttc #2 even though we're starting to feel ready for a second child now.
 
I was also 26 with my first and I''ll be 30 with the second. Definitely not too early, we had been trying for quite a while.
 
I always say that I prefer being a young parent because I''m not sure I would have the energy in my 30s, but more than anything, I knew I was ready at 22 - 23.
 
I was 2 months shy of my 37th birthday when Daisy was born.

Perfect timing... wouldn''t have wanted to do it any earlier, I was too busy being irresponsible!
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No, never. I had my kids at age: 27, 30, 33, 34.
 
I don''t have kids yet, but I''m 26 and feel so immature compared to all of you who had your first kid at my age! I can''t even fathom having a kid any time soon. I''m planning to wait as long as I can (with 35 as the cut off). Maybe I''ll feel ready a few years earlier, but I doubt it''ll be in my 20s.
 
No, had twins at 26 perfect for us
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We would really like to have kids before we turn 35. Figure ... we get married next year at 31 (almost 32) and start trying?
 
Well, I definitely didn''t have mine too early. I wouldn''t have wanted to have a baby in my 20s, but I bet if I did have one, I would have thought it was the best thing ever.

I started a thread awhile back for the "older" moms (maternal age 35+) and I think the consensus was the "magic" age was 32. I would not have minded having Amelia 3 years earlier. My career was already established then and I would have liked to be a youngerish mom. Energy is definitely a factor, but I think I would have been a sloth in my 20s anyway.
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Now that I am an empty nester, I will say I was the youngest mom in both kids classes. Not a bad thing at all. But after just having my 30th reunion from HS, everyone was envious I was at the end of the spectrum. I said no, you have soooo much fun ahead...

But was thinking, good for you cause I am done!!!!!
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kids at 30 and 32. they are now 18 and 16. I think I''m as emotionally and physically ready for them. Physical was important early on, now the emotional and rational are being put into play. And hubby and I still have some time to make eyes at each other.
 
No, never. I had my DS at 25 and baby #2 will be born when I''m 27. I wouldn''t have it any other way. It was perfect for us.
 
I don''t have munchkins yet, but we are trying now. I am 28, DH is 27. I don''t think I was ready for them earlier, as I was getting things done for me. I have traveled, lived abroad, got a bachelors and masters degrees, and feel like I have done most of the major things I wanted to do for me. DH has also done his fair share of traveling/living. We have been together for 3 years and married for one, and feel like we are really ready for LO''s. We can''t wait to be parents!
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First child at 36, definitely not too early but like TGal said, 3 or 4 years earlier may have been the magic number. Not complaining though...
 
I''m probably the exception here. I had DD at 17 and sometimes feel guilty about what I couldn''t give her.
 
I feel like I had my first at a great age (just shy of 26), and I'm glad to hear many of you feel the same way.
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I'm hoping to have our second at ~28.
 
Date: 5/1/2010 5:05:25 AM
Author: Pandora II
I was 2 months shy of my 37th birthday when Daisy was born.

Perfect timing... wouldn''t have wanted to do it any earlier, I was too busy being irresponsible!
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Lol, me too! DD was born 4 months before my 37th birthday. I just wasn''t ready before that. My mom had me at 36 too, but that was considered rather advanced maternal age back then. It seems a lot more common now.

I worry about having the energy to deal with a teenager in my 50''s, but, on the plus side, people think I am younger because I have a toddler.
 
nope...had my first at 26 and my second at 28. i''ve always wanted kids and DH and i had been everywhere we wanted, we did the things we wanted to do...we were ready for a family.
 
Nope. I married DH at 18. I had my babies at 20, 22, 24 (we lost him) and 25. I wanted babies young.
 
I must say, I''m surprised (& glad) to hear from so many young-ish moms out there. I''m 23 & DH is 27, and while we''re not planning on TTC for a few years, I feel quite a bit of pressure to wait until I''m in my 30''s. We''re often told that having kids pre-30''s = wasting our youth and freedom. I can''t say that I feel the same. Certainly I want to cherish my 1-on-1 time with DH & plan a few big pre-baby trips... and enjoy some more late nights out
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... but we''re financially, emotionally & physically healthy.
I DO need to finish grad school & establish my professional career, but I don''t feel like waiting ''til I''m 30 is necessary- in fact, I don''t want to. Can''t say I''m looking forward to the, "Was this planned? Did you WANT to get pregnant at 26/27/28?" comments, though
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Date: 5/6/2010 2:41:28 PM
Author: puppmom
I''m probably the exception here. I had DD at 17 and sometimes feel guilty about what I couldn''t give her.
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You gave her life, that is pretty good, even if it didn''t come with all the bells and whistles
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