Proposing with just a loose diamond?

[Moh 10]

Have any of you heard of someone proposing with just a loose diamond - either with or without one of those ring-clamps?

I know a guy who wants to pick the diamond but knows his lady wants to pick the setting.

 

[ficklefaye]

yup, my FI proposed with a loose diamond, i really loved the fact that he left the setting to me because i love rings

if you''ve read any of my previous posts, my third setting is in the works, but that''s only because the first two weren''t made very well

your friend''s FI will also be surprised how much larger the diamond will look when it is set, i swear my diamond looked tiny in the box it was in, but set, it looked a lot bigger

 

[wishinpink]

I''d try to get it at least put into one of those clamps... a loose diamond is way easier to lose than a set diamond. I do think it''s a great idea to let her choose the setting though!!!

What about a cheap temporary setting?

 

[denverappraiser]

Don’t do it. The presentation is part of the show and the ring is an important part of that. An inexpensive ring will cost you less than the dinner where you present it and you can get it reset later. If you know what jeweler you are going to use for the final ring they might even be willing to make a deal where they sell you a simple thing and take it back as a tradein on the finished piece. Ring clamps are tacky. It''s just not the same thing.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:37:28 PM
Author: denverappraiser
Don’t do it. The presentation is part of the show and the ring is an important part of that. An inexpensive ring will cost you less than the dinner where you present it and you can get it reset later. If you know what jeweler you are going to use for the final ring they might even be willing to make a deal where they sell you a simple thing and take it back as a tradein on the finished piece. Ring clamps are tacky. It''s just not the same thing.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver

Totally agree...please spend the couple hundred dollars and have the diamond set in a plain tiffany style setting. That way she can wear the ring until she finds her dream setting. I think it would be really disappointing to get engaged and not be able to show the ring to family and friends.

 

[ficklefaye]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:37:28 PM
Author: denverappraiser
Don’t do it. The presentation is part of the show and the ring is an important part of that. An inexpensive ring will cost you less than the dinner where you present it and you can get it reset later. If you know what jeweler you are going to use for the final ring they might even be willing to make a deal where they sell you a simple thing and take it back as a tradein on the finished piece. Ring clamps are tacky. It''s just not the same thing.


Neil Beaty

GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA

Professional Appraisals in Denver

i agree with neil, but to give my two cents, if my FI proposed with a setting like a inexpensive tiffany style setting, i would have kept it in there for sentimental purposes, but because i received just a diamond, i felt free to purchase the setting i wanted, but again that might just be me

if she isn''t sentimental about keeping the setting on the proposal ring, then the cheap setting is the way to go

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/22/2009 11:34:24 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006

Date: 5/22/2009 10:37:28 PM
Author: denverappraiser
Don’t do it. The presentation is part of the show and the ring is an important part of that. An inexpensive ring will cost you less than the dinner where you present it and you can get it reset later. If you know what jeweler you are going to use for the final ring they might even be willing to make a deal where they sell you a simple thing and take it back as a tradein on the finished piece. Ring clamps are tacky. It''s just not the same thing.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver

Totally agree...please spend the couple hundred dollars and have the diamond set in a plain tiffany style setting. That way she can wear the ring until she finds her dream setting. I think it would be really disappointing to get engaged and not be able to show the ring to family and friends.

Thritto

 

[Ellen]

I would agree that ring clamps don't evoke gushes and chills, but I'd have no problem being proposed to with a loose diamond presented in a pretty/clever way. If they both know she wants to pick the setting, this would not come as a letdown.

 

[ILoveDiamondsToo]

I would much rather be proposed to with a loose diamond than to think he spent hard earned money on a setting that was going to be discarded. I would also have trouble replacing the setting with one I liked for sentimental reasons. Maybe if you proposed with the diamond and some setting pictures so that she can immediately start thinking about it? Does she have friends you can ask?

 

[Moh 10]

Thanks guys for all the good input.
I''ll pass it all on to the lucky guy.

 

[Ellen]

Well now you''ve got my curiosity up, so let us know what he ends up doing!

 

[Imdanny]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:37:28 PM
Author: denverappraiser
Don’t do it. The presentation is part of the show and the ring is an important part of that. An inexpensive ring will cost you less than the dinner where you present it and you can get it reset later. If you know what jeweler you are going to use for the final ring they might even be willing to make a deal where they sell you a simple thing and take it back as a tradein on the finished piece. Ring clamps are tacky. It''s just not the same thing.


Neil Beaty

GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA

Professional Appraisals in Denver

Sign me here.

 

[MMT]

Date: 5/23/2009 6:47:22 AM
Author: Ellen
I would agree that ring clamps don''t evoke gushes and chills, but I''d have no problem being proposed to with a loose diamond presented in a pretty/clever way. If they both know she wants to pick the setting, this would not come as a letdown.

I agree. Let us know how it goes

 

[CharmyPoo]

I want to know too.

Or you can suggest your friend pick up a semi mount from eBay. There are lots of China sellers and the rings are pretty decent. You can easily get one for around $100.

 

[laurenfischer5]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:37:28 PM
Author: denverappraiser
Don’t do it. The presentation is part of the show and the ring is an important part of that. An inexpensive ring will cost you less than the dinner where you present it and you can get it reset later. If you know what jeweler you are going to use for the final ring they might even be willing to make a deal where they sell you a simple thing and take it back as a tradein on the finished piece. Ring clamps are tacky. It''s just not the same thing.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver

I agree. As soon my FI proposed I wanted to show my ring to everyone! Just tell her the setting is temporary and she can take her time picking out one she really likes...

 

[laurenfischer5]

Date: 5/23/2009 12:47:51 AM
Author: ficklefaye

Date: 5/22/2009 10:37:28 PM
Author: denverappraiser
Don’t do it. The presentation is part of the show and the ring is an important part of that. An inexpensive ring will cost you less than the dinner where you present it and you can get it reset later. If you know what jeweler you are going to use for the final ring they might even be willing to make a deal where they sell you a simple thing and take it back as a tradein on the finished piece. Ring clamps are tacky. It''s just not the same thing.


Neil Beaty

GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA

Professional Appraisals in Denver

i agree with neil, but to give my two cents, if my FI proposed with a setting like a inexpensive tiffany style setting, i would have kept it in there for sentimental purposes, but because i received just a diamond, i felt free to purchase the setting i wanted, but again that might just be me

if she isn''t sentimental about keeping the setting on the proposal ring, then the cheap setting is the way to go

If thats the case and she is really sentamental then she can put a pretty gemstone or something in the original setting so she can still keep it

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Temp setting. . .Big reason would be because it may take her a few months to find the perfect setting and in the meantime, she''ll want to wear the diamond!

 

[Adah]

I think the setting is a great idea. Either way I''m sure she''ll love that the care was taken for her to choose her own setting.

 

[D&T]

Do a Temp Setting, it think its agonizing enough waiting to get the porposal why wait even longer for the actual ring.

 

[glitterata]

Here''s a suggestion I bet nobody else will like: Set it in a sterling silver temporary setting. That way it will be safe, but she will not feel tempted to keep it in the setting since sterling silver is too soft to last for decades of daily wear. But it will be fine for the months (or even years) it takes her to find a permanent setting, way safer than a gem holder.