Hey all,
I've taken the plunge and bought a ring for my girlfriend of 2 years. Now it's time to propose...
This is a pretty low pressure proposal. We've lived together for a year and now are considered Common Law spouses. We started talking about marriage at least 6 months ago and she's been bringing it up almost daily for the last month or so. Her family lives on the other side of the country, so I had "the talk" with them face-to-face when they were in town over Easter.
We head overseas on vacation at the end of next month. Originally, my plan was to propose while on vacation. I have since had a change of mindset.
Our "first date" anniversary was last week. Our "exclusive couple" anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks. I had the idea to propose on this anniversary date at the location of our "talk", and to combine a few aspects of our first few dates. I think this has a few benefits:
1. The date and location are more meaningful.
2. We have time to make sure the ring is properly sized before heading on vacation.
3. I won't spend the vacation eagerly anticipating the date, time, or situation of the proposal.
4. It will turn the vacation into the perfect pseudo-honeymoon.
The date of the proposal will be a workday week, so we'll be working during the day. The day before will be a day off work.
Some background:
- On our first date, I took her to the local zoo. We were both new to town and hadn't been, so it was a good way to see something new and gave quite a bit to talk about! When I picked her up, I brought a small bouquet of flowers.
- On our 3rd date, we went to dinner and a show (and by show, I mean a Broadway show). It was the first time we dressed up for a date and we went to see one of her favorite musicals, so it was very memorable.
The 2nd date was at a roller rink. The distances involved will make this hard to sneak in.
Day before (day off work)
- Visit the zoo to partially recreate date #1.
Day of proposal
- Subtly hint for her to wear a dress (she wears a dress to work once a week during the summer, so this isn't a long stretch.)
- Book the restaurant we went to on date #3 (already booked!).
- Send a bouquet of flowers similar to date #3 to her work, to be delivered in the afternoon, as a "Happy Anniversary" to recreate the start to that date.
- Surprise her at her office building as she leaves work.
- When she comes down, tell her that we have dinner plans as a surprise anniversary and suggest we go for a walk before dinner because "the only availability was fairly early, the restaurant is nearby, and we don't have time to go home" (only the availability will be a lie ).
- Walk to the area we first met (few blocks away!). Chat for a bit.
- Walk to the place were we had the "exclusivity" talk, which is also only a few minutes away. After a tear jerking speech, pull out the ring!
- Dinner at the restaurant from date #3 to celebrate. This is booked with what I think is sufficient time for us to compose ourselves before heading there.
She may start suspecting something with the flowers, though I've sent flowers to her work a few times in the last couple years. She'll definitely get suspicious when I surprise her at work and suspicion will continue to rise based on where I take her for a walk.
Note that I definitely do not want to propose at a restaurant.
Thoughts? Is this too simplistic, too corny, too predictable?
I've taken the plunge and bought a ring for my girlfriend of 2 years. Now it's time to propose...
This is a pretty low pressure proposal. We've lived together for a year and now are considered Common Law spouses. We started talking about marriage at least 6 months ago and she's been bringing it up almost daily for the last month or so. Her family lives on the other side of the country, so I had "the talk" with them face-to-face when they were in town over Easter.
We head overseas on vacation at the end of next month. Originally, my plan was to propose while on vacation. I have since had a change of mindset.
Our "first date" anniversary was last week. Our "exclusive couple" anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks. I had the idea to propose on this anniversary date at the location of our "talk", and to combine a few aspects of our first few dates. I think this has a few benefits:
1. The date and location are more meaningful.
2. We have time to make sure the ring is properly sized before heading on vacation.
3. I won't spend the vacation eagerly anticipating the date, time, or situation of the proposal.
4. It will turn the vacation into the perfect pseudo-honeymoon.
The date of the proposal will be a workday week, so we'll be working during the day. The day before will be a day off work.
Some background:
- On our first date, I took her to the local zoo. We were both new to town and hadn't been, so it was a good way to see something new and gave quite a bit to talk about! When I picked her up, I brought a small bouquet of flowers.
- On our 3rd date, we went to dinner and a show (and by show, I mean a Broadway show). It was the first time we dressed up for a date and we went to see one of her favorite musicals, so it was very memorable.
The 2nd date was at a roller rink. The distances involved will make this hard to sneak in.
Day before (day off work)
- Visit the zoo to partially recreate date #1.
Day of proposal
- Subtly hint for her to wear a dress (she wears a dress to work once a week during the summer, so this isn't a long stretch.)
- Book the restaurant we went to on date #3 (already booked!).
- Send a bouquet of flowers similar to date #3 to her work, to be delivered in the afternoon, as a "Happy Anniversary" to recreate the start to that date.
- Surprise her at her office building as she leaves work.
- When she comes down, tell her that we have dinner plans as a surprise anniversary and suggest we go for a walk before dinner because "the only availability was fairly early, the restaurant is nearby, and we don't have time to go home" (only the availability will be a lie ).
- Walk to the area we first met (few blocks away!). Chat for a bit.
- Walk to the place were we had the "exclusivity" talk, which is also only a few minutes away. After a tear jerking speech, pull out the ring!
- Dinner at the restaurant from date #3 to celebrate. This is booked with what I think is sufficient time for us to compose ourselves before heading there.
She may start suspecting something with the flowers, though I've sent flowers to her work a few times in the last couple years. She'll definitely get suspicious when I surprise her at work and suspicion will continue to rise based on where I take her for a walk.
Note that I definitely do not want to propose at a restaurant.
Thoughts? Is this too simplistic, too corny, too predictable?