proposal / permission question

[MikeVI]

Hey All,

I have a small dilemma and hope you guys can help me out.

In the past my gf has told me that since she isn't very close to her father it would mean a lot to her if I got her mother's blessing before proposing. She has also stated on multiple occasions that she would like the proposal to be a total surprise. I'm in a situation where I feel stuck between the two.

Asking for her mom's blessing is something I feel needs to be done in person. I was raised to never just show up at someone's house unannounced so I've tried calling her mother a few times to arrange a meeting. Unfortunately this simple matter of arranging a private meeting between the two of us has turned into a comedy of errors.

My gf and her mother live together. When I call their home phone her mother sees my number on the caller ID and assumes I'm calling for my gf. Since my gf isn't there her mom will let the call go to voice mail and then call my gf to let her know I called the house.

My dilemma. Should I....
A) Keep calling and hope her mother finally picks up the phone.
B) Give up on calling mom before hand and just show up one afternoon, knock on the door, and ask if we can talk. (I'm not really sure if this would piss mom off or not.)
C) Let my gf know what I'm trying to do and ask her to have her mom to return my calls.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. I've purchased a beautiful ring through a PS vendor and it's burning a hole in my pocket. So I'd like to resolve this as soon as I can. LOL!

Thanks in advance.
Mike

 

[missjae]

Does your girlfriend's mother have e-mail or a cell phone you can call or text? I wouldn't tell your girlfriend because she wants to be surprised so I would either try contacting her another way if possible or just show up and tell her you'd like to talk and if she isn't able to do it at that time just let her know you'd like to talk and that you could come back when it's convenient for her. Good luck!!!!

 

[Amber St. Clare]

Well, I'm comuter illiterate, so I was going to suggest sending mom a letter {have someone else address the envelope}, and ask her to call you when she is alone..................good luck!!!!

 

[AprilBaby]

I would go for option B asap. I am sure she would be THRILLED to find out thats what you want and to give permission

 

[slg47]

hehe this is really funny if you think about it! i would e-mail or text the mom. or stop by

 

[Tuckins1]

I would just stop by. I'm sure once mom knew why you were coming over, any irritation from the unexpected visit would melt away. Good luck!