I''m hoping someone here can help with figure out a course of action. I have FINALLY picked out a stone, and setting and am working on getting the ring sized and what not. I thought that was the hard part...but I guess it''s ALL the hard part. So I have two more problems.
1. Asking permission from her father. This is complicated. She lives at home with her father (her mother passed away recently), and in a city about 100 miles from me. I know she wants me to ask her father for his blessing (and I want to as well), however the fact that she lives at home with him makes this really difficult to pull off. I would love to call him and take him out to dinner, but she always answers the house phone..and if she doesn''t happen to be there..she checks the caller ID. So she would know that I called the house...which I never do because I always call her cell. I could drive by to hope to see him when she wasn''t there..but they both work the same hours..and if she isn''t at work..or here with me..she is at home. I really have no way that I can think of to get in touch with her father without her knowing. I don''t know his cell...don''t know his e-mail. ...nothing. Any suggestions?
2. After I get the father thing taken care of (see above), I need to figure out how to do this. I don''t have a lot of money at the present time. But above all else I want it to be a memorable surprise. I thought about the first date ..and could do it there ...but it was raining BUCKETS that night..and it''s 70 miles from my house and 30 miles from hers..we never go there..so if we went there..she would know what was up. I thought about the first kiss..but that was at my house and nothing really romantic about that. I can think of other romantic things to do..but nothing that would completely surprise her. (going to the beach 150 miles, mountains 100 miles...etc..). does anyone have any ideas that wont break the bank. I really would rather not do anything very public or at a restaurant..though dinner afterwards would be fine.
I''m desperate...HELP!
1. Asking permission from her father. This is complicated. She lives at home with her father (her mother passed away recently), and in a city about 100 miles from me. I know she wants me to ask her father for his blessing (and I want to as well), however the fact that she lives at home with him makes this really difficult to pull off. I would love to call him and take him out to dinner, but she always answers the house phone..and if she doesn''t happen to be there..she checks the caller ID. So she would know that I called the house...which I never do because I always call her cell. I could drive by to hope to see him when she wasn''t there..but they both work the same hours..and if she isn''t at work..or here with me..she is at home. I really have no way that I can think of to get in touch with her father without her knowing. I don''t know his cell...don''t know his e-mail. ...nothing. Any suggestions?
2. After I get the father thing taken care of (see above), I need to figure out how to do this. I don''t have a lot of money at the present time. But above all else I want it to be a memorable surprise. I thought about the first date ..and could do it there ...but it was raining BUCKETS that night..and it''s 70 miles from my house and 30 miles from hers..we never go there..so if we went there..she would know what was up. I thought about the first kiss..but that was at my house and nothing really romantic about that. I can think of other romantic things to do..but nothing that would completely surprise her. (going to the beach 150 miles, mountains 100 miles...etc..). does anyone have any ideas that wont break the bank. I really would rather not do anything very public or at a restaurant..though dinner afterwards would be fine.
I''m desperate...HELP!