beadchick
Shiny_Rock
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- Jan 26, 2010
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Okay, so, I am going to go ahead and bring up what I think will likely be an unpopular topic (and will probably post this in the Newlyweds area too): Prenuptual agreements. Does anyone have one? Is anyone considering doing one? Most of my friends seem to feel that either a) it makes it too easy to get out of a marriage or b) if you are really in love, you wouldn''t have one.
I am a product of divorce, thank GOD my mom worked and was able to take care of us, but you hear so many horror stories, you know? I love my fiance, I think we are fairly well-suited to each other, but when most people get married (even those with pre-nups), I am pretty sure they weren''t planning they would be getting divorced one day. I work in a field where one day, I will do very well financially; he is in the same situation. Plus, I will be marrying the oldest son and inheriting family jewelry. I would want HIM to know that he will get family belongings back, and I want to know, for the both of us, that we will be bound to do the best we can for our children if something horrible were to happen. If there are legal documents mutually agreed to, then there is no point in arguing over things.
I am also wondering how people manage finances. We tend to keep things separate, just works better that way. I''m a saver, he''s a spender. So, he''ll do the mortgage and I''ll be responsible for the retirement funds. We just thought it would be easier to go towards "type" and work with it.
So, thinking on the marriage, what kind of long-term financial preparations are you all making?
I am a product of divorce, thank GOD my mom worked and was able to take care of us, but you hear so many horror stories, you know? I love my fiance, I think we are fairly well-suited to each other, but when most people get married (even those with pre-nups), I am pretty sure they weren''t planning they would be getting divorced one day. I work in a field where one day, I will do very well financially; he is in the same situation. Plus, I will be marrying the oldest son and inheriting family jewelry. I would want HIM to know that he will get family belongings back, and I want to know, for the both of us, that we will be bound to do the best we can for our children if something horrible were to happen. If there are legal documents mutually agreed to, then there is no point in arguing over things.
I am also wondering how people manage finances. We tend to keep things separate, just works better that way. I''m a saver, he''s a spender. So, he''ll do the mortgage and I''ll be responsible for the retirement funds. We just thought it would be easier to go towards "type" and work with it.
So, thinking on the marriage, what kind of long-term financial preparations are you all making?