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Murr4168

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Ok, I''m running out of time and I have to make a final decision so my boyfriend can actually know what to buy :)

I''ve finally decided to stop second guessing myself and go with my first instinct of a cushion cut. I''m a little worried that they can be hit or miss but I guess I''ll just have to really trust the jeweler. Unfortunately there is this little voice in my head telling me to just go with a round b/c it''ll be easier.

So that brings me to the setting.....ugh. We''ve decided that the most important thing is the stone and that we should put the majority of our budget into that. I had originally wanted to go with a matching shared prong round ering and wedding band setting. I think though I''ve decided on a solitaire with shared prong round band (probably half eternity).

Now, white gold or platinum??? This is the hardest choice at this point! I had always thought I''d go with platinum hands down....no replating, stronger, no lost metal with polishing, etc. However, since our budget is small, I''ve been loving the fact that white gold is so much cheaper than platinum. I guess I can deal with having it replated but how safe is it for the stones? A jeweler I spoke with recommended a white gold setting for the solitaire but having a platinum head. Do most white gold solitaire settings have a platinum head or is that something that has to be custom done? That''s fine for the solitaire but what about the half eternity band. Is white gold safe enough for those stones?

The only downside to platinum that I see is that it scratches easily and gets dull. How does the price of replating white gold and having platinum polished compare? I believe it was Diamondseeker''s post that had a jeweler recommending white gold for solitaires due to platinum looking dull.

Oh and there''s the fact that we may be upgrading my solitaire setting to match the half eternity band in 4-5 years. I really don''t want to spend the extra money on a platinum setting that we''ll be changing eventually. But a white gold solitaire can''t be worn with a platinum diamond band right?? I won''t be changing the diamond band so I should just go with platinum to start with right???

Ok everyone, as you see I''m desperately in need of making a decision. So put yourself in my shoes, given these options what would you do??? Thanks so much!
 
Ironically I went to another jeweler today who told me the same thing. He said that if the ring was to be engraved, platinum is okay because you are pre-scratching it. He said today''s platinum is softer than "your grandmother''s" and they see a lot of platinum rings dented and dinged. He said that the 18K wg is harder and seems to hold up better. He prefers the 18k wg with palladium for white gold.

So I really have the same quandry and do not know which to get. The wg with palladium is new enough that they don''t really know how long it lasts without replating. He said the rhodium plating is about $20.

If you plan to upgrade your e-ring setting, then by all means get white gold. But I''d get the wedding band in whatever metal you want forever, even if you''re wearing two different metals temporarily. I saw white gold plain solitaire e-ring settings for $200 today. So that is the best way to go if you plan to upgrade the e-ring setting.
 
Does anyone know how much (if any) damage the platinum ring will do to the white gold ring? If I''m only wearing them together for 4-5 years will they be ok? How bad is a white gold head on a solitaire? The jeweler said something about if a prong gets bent, you can''t just bend it back into place with white gold like you could with platinum. This is so helpful. Thanks!
 
Date: 9/2/2006 4:11:48 PM
Author: Murr4168
Does anyone know how much (if any) damage the platinum ring will do to the white gold ring? If I''m only wearing them together for 4-5 years will they be ok? How bad is a white gold head on a solitaire? The jeweler said something about if a prong gets bent, you can''t just bend it back into place with white gold like you could with platinum. This is so helpful. Thanks!
I think the damage issue has a lot to do how the rings are made. If they are both smooth on the sides, then there is nothing to bang up against the other and scratch it. The white gold is going to be harder and it will more likely scratch the platinum if anything gets scratched. The platinum will turn grayer, though.

As far as the head issue goes, that is not true. I have had a 14k gold ring for 29 years and I did knock my ring once and bent back a prong and they very easily fixed it. I have heard that the wg can be more brittle since it is harder, but that has not been a problem with my ring at all. I have had my prongs retipped once after about 25 years. So you are completely fine with white gold for a few years until you upgrade your setting.
 
Thanks so much for your replies!!

Since my platinum band will be a half eternity band....will it really be noticeable that the platinum will be grayer? I don''t really mind that it''ll look a little different on the bottom of the rings.
 
Date: 9/2/2006 4:42:08 PM
Author: Murr4168
Thanks so much for your replies!!


Since my platinum band will be a half eternity band....will it really be noticeable that the platinum will be grayer? I don''t really mind that it''ll look a little different on the bottom of the rings.

you really won''t notice the platinum on the eternity band where the diamonds are. I agree with Diamondseeker to get your wedding band in the metal you''ll want to wear forever and if you need to do WG temporily then do that.
 
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