Wedding Please help me with wedding invitation wording!

[onvacation]

I''m finalizing my wedding invites, and oh my the wording is hard!

This is what I have so far:

Helen and David Carter
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Lana Elizabeth
and
Ryan Anthony Christianson
son of Lisa and Anthony Christianson
on Saturday, June twenty-eighth
Two thousand and eight
at one o''clock
Grace Presbyterian Church
Address
City, State


Does it matter whether it is an "and" or a "to" that joins our names? I would think "to" is proper, but so many samples online seem to use "and."

Is there anything else that you see wrong?

(Oh, I know it''s totally not kosher to use first names for the parents, but the groom''s parents are separated and the MIL doesn''t want to be Mrs. C, so my parents are going by first name, too. Then it would be weird to just have Mr. fullname for the groom, so we''ve taken that out too. This is so much more complicated than I wanted it to be.... Oh, it doesn''t help that my parents think they are paying for the wedding, while the groom seems to think that his folks will pitch in a bit, and the MIL to be thinks they''re paying for half, though I wouldn''t know who "they" is anymore, since the parents aren''t too amicable thesed days. *sigh* But those quirky issues aside, assuming my folks pay for (at least most of) the wedding, does the invite look okay?)

 

[iwannaprettyone]

"to" is correct, "and" doesn't make sense.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

You are missing your last name right?

 

[onvacation]

Thanks iwanna! It was originally "to", but then all these sites had "and" so I changed it. But the more I read it, "to" sounds better to me... I want to know if there''s a difference, like giving the daughter away would be "to" or something.

Some sites say that if the parents of the bride are paying, then the last name should be left off. Is that not true? I thought it was because the parents are inviting, and the daughter would of course have the same family name.