Please correct me if I am wrong..

[zhuzhu]

My MIL seems to think it is perfectly OK for us to ask a long-time-no-see Aunt of DH''s to drive one hour to visit with us, at a conference where we will be staying for a few days. With just 24 hours notice.

Granted, I may not know the "normal etiquette is" for this aunt of his, I would never feel it is OK to ask someone for a meet up less than 24 hours in advance, not to mention when that person has to drive one hour to get to us (We don''t have access to driving or time to drive to visit her)!

My thought is that we should just forget it and not even call her to make her feel like she has to decide. DH is not sure but thinks his mother would be disappointed that we don''t see this aunt.

Am I crazy to feel this uneasy?

 

[choro72]

I don''t see a problem at least to just ask...

Apologize for the short notice, and say if it isn''t too much trouble for her, could she spare some time to meet.

I once went to a conference and met my relatives in a 24 hour notice too. One was 9 month pregnant, the other had a 2 week old, but they still were more than happy to pick me up for a home cooked meal.

 

[Elmorton]

Hey Zhu...I know there''s sometimes some bumps in the road with your MIL, but I think this one is something where I''d give her a free pass. If I just realized that I was only 1 hr away from the aunt I never see, I know that a) my aunt would WANT to drive up and b) I''d feel awful if I didn''t call her, even if it was short notice. In this instance, it''s etiquette for family, not the royal family. Saying "sorry this is late notice, but we''re a lot closer to you right now than we usually are, if you''re free and able to make the drive, we''d love to take you out for lunch" isn''t in poor taste.

 

[zhuzhu]

You are right. I think I am getting my nervousness get to me. This aunt, whom I have never met, is MIL''s sister.

From what DH''s cousins and sister, she is a carbon copy personality of MIL and maybe a bit worse. I will play along and be a good girl....

 

[swimmer]

Zhu, good luck.

 

[marcy]

It doesn''t hurt to give her a call and let her make the decision; just be up front it''s late notice and you know she''s probably busy . . . If she does come for a visit good luck.

 

[marcy]

Ooh I love your ring.

 

[Kaleigh]

I get where you are coming from. Make the call, say gosh this is so short notice and am sure you can''t make it, but we will be in town for a conference tomorrow.... Let it be up to her, she''ll probably not be able to make it. But at least you reached out to her..

It''s a win win!!!!!

 

[PumpkinPie]

good luck zhuzhu