Pet peeves - what are yours?

[CJ2008]

This JUST happened to me (ETA pet peeve #1), that's why this subject is on my mind.

1. When people reply to an email I sent them and COPY other people. Unless it's an email to a COMPANY, where perhaps they're copying someone from a different department to handle the issue, I think it is A HUGE breach in privacy. Especially for me, since I consider myself a very private person. Do NOT copy anybody on an email I sent you, even if it doesn't "seem" personal to you - unless you check with me first.

2. People that tell you they want to get together for reason A when it's really for reason B (i.e., to ask a favor, to sell you something, etc.) - I don't like when people aren't straightforward.

3. Most social obligations

ETA2 - 4. ALL social obligations where I have to dress up as anything (i.e., themed birthdays where you have to dress hawaiian, etc.) - this includes Halloween. I don't do Halloween.

 

[asscherisme]

Date: 9/20/2009 12:07:03 AM
Author:CJ2008
This JUST happened to me (ETA pet peeve #1), that''s why this subject is on my mind.

1. When people reply to an email I sent them and COPY other people. Unless it''s an email to a COMPANY, where perhaps they''re copying someone from a different department to handle the issue, I think it is A HUGE breach in privacy. Especially for me, since I consider myself a very private person. Do NOT copy anybody on an email I sent you, even if it doesn''t ''seem'' personal to you - unless you check with me first.

2. People that tell you they want to get together for reason A when it''s really for reason B (i.e., to ask a favor, to sell you something, etc.) - I don''t like when people aren''t straightforward.

3. Most social obligations

ETA2 - 4. ALL social obligations where I have to dress up as anything (i.e., themed birthdays where you have to dress hawaiian, etc.) - this includes Halloween. I don''t do Halloween.

#1 bugs me too. I have come to learn to not put anything personal in email that I don''t want fowarded to anyone else.

I will add my own pet peaves:


1. School fund raisers where you are expected to sell things. Wrapping paper, candy etc. I hate selling stuff. And I won''t let my kids knock on neighbors doors. And I don''t want to burden family or friends.

And to the same degree, it bugs me when kids ring my doorbell selling stuff. Or friends ask me to buy things from their kids. AND ITS THE SAME STUFF MY KIDS ARE EXPECTED TO SELL!

2. Rude sales people. Or pushy sales people. Or snotty sales people.

3. Rude people in general

4. That my sons can''t seem to aim at the toilet correctly! This one really bugs me. I keep those clorox wipes in the kids bathroom and when I see pee on the floor/wall etc I won''t clean it, I call them and have them clean it! And I won''t let them use my bathroom in my bedroom but I let my daughter''s use it. And when my boys complain I tell them I need to have one bathroom in the house where I don''t have to worry about stepping in pee or dried pee.

 

[kenny]

Getting tailgated on the freeway when I''m in the rightmost lane of 6.

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 9/20/2009 12:26:39 AM
Author: asscherisme

Date: 9/20/2009 12:07:03 AM
Author:CJ2008
This JUST happened to me (ETA pet peeve #1), that''s why this subject is on my mind.

1. When people reply to an email I sent them and COPY other people. Unless it''s an email to a COMPANY, where perhaps they''re copying someone from a different department to handle the issue, I think it is A HUGE breach in privacy. Especially for me, since I consider myself a very private person. Do NOT copy anybody on an email I sent you, even if it doesn''t ''seem'' personal to you - unless you check with me first.

2. People that tell you they want to get together for reason A when it''s really for reason B (i.e., to ask a favor, to sell you something, etc.) - I don''t like when people aren''t straightforward.

3. Most social obligations

ETA2 - 4. ALL social obligations where I have to dress up as anything (i.e., themed birthdays where you have to dress hawaiian, etc.) - this includes Halloween. I don''t do Halloween.

#1 bugs me too. I have come to learn to not put anything personal in email that I don''t want fowarded to anyone else.

This email really didn''t contain anything private - so I think for me it doesn''t even have to be anything private or weird - I just think it''s nobody''s business to read an email I intended and sent to someone else.

I will add my own pet peaves:


1. School fund raisers where you are expected to sell things. Wrapping paper, candy etc. I hate selling stuff. And I won''t let my kids knock on neighbors doors. And I don''t want to burden family or friends.

And to the same degree, it bugs me when kids ring my doorbell selling stuff. Or friends ask me to buy things from their kids. AND ITS THE SAME STUFF MY KIDS ARE EXPECTED TO SELL!

2. Rude sales people. Or pushy sales people. Or snotty sales people.

3. Rude people in general

4. That my sons can''t seem to aim at the toilet correctly! This one really bugs me. I keep those clorox wipes in the kids bathroom and when I see pee on the floor/wall etc I won''t clean it, I call them and have them clean it! And I won''t let them use my bathroom in my bedroom but I let my daughter''s use it. And when my boys complain I tell them I need to have one bathroom in the house where I don''t have to worry about stepping in pee or dried pee.

 

[Haven]

Unhappy people. They always seem to want to spread the unhappiness around.

 

[oddoneout]

People peeing on the toilet seat...and me using it next (so gross)
Rude/snotty/bitchy people
Tuneless whistling
People who don''t let you into a lane when you''re coming onto a road from a ramp
People who don''t let you change lanes
People who talk to much and try to have conversations all the time (e.g. when you''re just trying to get work done or do some reading)

 

[Deelight]

Date: 9/20/2009 12:39:26 AM
Author: CJ2008

Date: 9/20/2009 12:26:39 AM

Author: asscherisme

Date: 9/20/2009 12:07:03 AM

Author:CJ2008

This JUST happened to me (ETA pet peeve #1), that''s why this subject is on my mind.


1. When people reply to an email I sent them and COPY other people. Unless it''s an email to a COMPANY, where perhaps they''re copying someone from a different department to handle the issue, I think it is A HUGE breach in privacy. Especially for me, since I consider myself a very private person. Do NOT copy anybody on an email I sent you, even if it doesn''t ''seem'' personal to you - unless you check with me first.


2. People that tell you they want to get together for reason A when it''s really for reason B (i.e., to ask a favor, to sell you something, etc.) - I don''t like when people aren''t straightforward.


3. Most social obligations

ETA2 - 4. ALL social obligations where I have to dress up as anything (i.e., themed birthdays where you have to dress hawaiian, etc.) - this includes Halloween. I don''t do Halloween.

#1 bugs me too. I have come to learn to not put anything personal in email that I don''t want fowarded to anyone else.


This email really didn''t contain anything private - so I think for me it doesn''t even have to be anything private or weird - I just think it''s nobody''s business to read an email I intended and sent to someone else.



I will add my own pet peaves:



1. School fund raisers where you are expected to sell things. Wrapping paper, candy etc. I hate selling stuff. And I won''t let my kids knock on neighbors doors. And I don''t want to burden family or friends.


And to the same degree, it bugs me when kids ring my doorbell selling stuff. Or friends ask me to buy things from their kids. AND ITS THE SAME STUFF MY KIDS ARE EXPECTED TO SELL!


2. Rude sales people. Or pushy sales people. Or snotty sales people.


3. Rude people in general


4. That my sons can''t seem to aim at the toilet correctly! This one really bugs me. I keep those clorox wipes in the kids bathroom and when I see pee on the floor/wall etc I won''t clean it, I call them and have them clean it! And I won''t let them use my bathroom in my bedroom but I let my daughter''s use it. And when my boys complain I tell them I need to have one bathroom in the house where I don''t have to worry about stepping in pee or dried pee.

My boss has done that on a couple of occasions when I have asked questions and posted the response back to the whole team - I don''t get the point it is so RUDE

Can I also add people who think it is okay to judge how I spend my money, especially when it comes to my wedding - none of your concern buddy

 

[Lynn B]

1. Pure and simple laziness. Egads, that sends me up the flagpole!

2. Rudeness, of course, but also *thoughtlessness*. These people are not necessarily all the way to the top on the RUDENESS scale

, but are people who are just unconcerned about the feelings of others.

As in tactless and insensitive. I don''t have much time for people like that.

3. People who are real fussy about their own stuff, but don''t take care of other people''s things.

4. Buying something at the store and getting it home and seeing that it is out of date!

I''m sure I can think of more!!!

 

[MissGotRocks]

People that make me wait.

This includes friends for dinner, company, dinner checks at the end of a meal, plumbers. You name it - I hate to wait on someone. I can wait a reasonable amount of time but anything beyond reasonable makes my blood boil! I try to plan ahead to be on time and I expect no less. People that are chronically late to everything make me crazy!

 

[gemgirl]

1. People who live without boundaries, who do whatever they want to do in the moment without regard for right, wrong or consequences. The "anything goes" people.

2. People who you haven''t seen in a long time and when you do, they have an "it''s all about me" attitude. I saw a cousin of mine this summer who I hadn''t seen for almost twenty years, and when we had a chance to spend a few hours together, she couldn''t stop talking about herself, her kids, her husband, her house, her motor home, her extra property, her dogs, her friends, etc.etc.etc. I was nauseous after a while. I had bought a home, met a man, gotten married, but she didn''t care..... Not a single "so how are you doing?" I couldn''t wait to go home.

3. People who are never ever on time. My one girlfriend who I shop with the most is never on time. After almost fifteen years of her being late, I finally said (when she arrived twenty minutes late), you''re lucky I''m here, I was just about to leave. SHE got pissed off!

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 9/20/2009 2:04:16 AM
Author: Haven
Unhappy people. They always seem to want to spread the unhappiness around.

Ditto!

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 9/20/2009 11:34:31 AM
Author: gemgirl
1. People who live without boundaries, who do whatever they want to do in the moment without regard for right, wrong or consequences. The 'anything goes' people.

2. People who you haven't seen in a long time and when you do, they have an 'it's all about me' attitude. I saw a cousin of mine this summer who I hadn't seen for almost twenty years, and when we had a chance to spend a few hours together, she couldn't stop talking about herself, her kids, her husband, her house, her motor home, her extra property, her dogs, her friends, etc.etc.etc. I was nauseous after a while. I had bought a home, met a man, gotten married, but she didn't care..... Not a single 'so how are you doing?' I couldn't wait to go home.

I hear you on this one...or even if you meet someone for the first time, and they show zero interest in getting to know you but will talk about themselves the whole time.

3. People who are never ever on time. My one girlfriend who I shop with the most is never on time. After almost fifteen years of her being late, I finally said (when she arrived twenty minutes late), you're lucky I'm here, I was just about to leave. SHE got pissed off!

And, I agree with Haven and Thing about complainers or negative people...

A lot of mornings I go out to get coffee and once in a while there will be somebody who is rude to the girls behind the counter...for no reason...it always bothers me so much, because these girls are always so nice and upbeat, and they're young...so most of the time you could just see in their face that it bothers them.

 

[violet3]

Date: 9/20/2009 2:04:16 AM
Author: Haven
Unhappy people. They always seem to want to spread the unhappiness around.

Ditto to haven here - misery loves company and i really hate that.

 

[BlueSki231]

I absolutely cannot STAND it when charities/churches send people to collect money during red lights at busy intersections.

 

[Hera]

People who love drama. They will say they don't like it, but they obviously don't mean it.


The movie theatre: I have decided I don't want to go to movies anymore because people have no consideration for others. It used to only be teenagers, but now it seems a whole new section of the adult population has regressed into 13 year olds.


People who take 500 pictures at an event. Is that really necessary?

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 9/20/2009 2:04:16 AM
Author: Haven
Unhappy people. They always seem to want to spread the unhappiness around.

Aw, I always kind of feel sorry for unhappy people - like maybe if they got the help they needed, they wouldn''t be so miserable. (Unless, that is, the unhappy person is someone like my SIL, whose unhappiness takes the form of disparaging everyone around her. Maybe that''s my pet peeve? Cutting down other people to make yourself feel better.)

 

[princessplease]

When people don''t hold doors open for you at the market/store/etc.

Is is that freaking hard???????!!!!!!!

 

[purselover]

people who walk slow, especially when they take up the entire sidewalk so you can''t get around them
people who invade personal boundries and stand way too close to you
loud chewing/slurping

 

[D&T]

Strangers touching my babie''s hair

(yes I know she has lots of hair for a 10 month old, but looking doesn''t involve touching) and invading my personal space

 

[dragonfly411]

Smacking- Chewing with mouth open- I mentioned this in a thread about my SO''s friend. Last night SO did it in jest and the friend was there and actually noted it to SO!!!

But he ALWAYS does it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Inviting yourself to something/somewhere - huge personal pet peeve, it is something that I was raised to view as very rude. We had two people do this last night "We''re on our way to come check out your new place." I really don''t understand this. When I''m ready to invite you, I will invite you.

People who drive over 3 miles under the speed limit. Drive !!!!!!!!

People in the grocery who ride on your butt when you''re walking down the aisle. Esp when you aren''t walking slow, but at a reasonable pace.

People who block things at the grocery for long periods of time and see you standing and waiting but don''t even acknowledge it.

Loud people at movies.

People who talk in class. I have two girls that whisper all through class and it is extremely distracting.

 

[CJ2008]

It's so funny that things that can be pet peeves for one person are not for others at all...

I identified with many of them...others I never thought about...like heraanderson's taking too many pictures, that would never cross my mind...but that's what makes them "pet" peeves!

-Continuing with my email theme, I thought of another one...when people don't respond to emails...I don't expect a reply within a few hours, or even a few days, but I do expect a response. Especially if someone asks me a question and I go out of my way to answer it/give them information.
-TheBigT - thank goodness I don't have anybody like your SIL in my family, because we can't CHOOSE family...I love that I'm a time in my life where I get to choose each and every person that I spend time with. I avoid anyone who's passive aggressive, throws indirect comments, or looks for trouble/drama.

 

[TooPatient]

My pet peeves?

Rude people -- being considerate of other people isn''t that hard. Hold the door open, don''t interrupt, respond when asked a question

people who barge into the middle -- If I''m talking to the guy in the tool department, don''t shove in the middle to just ask a quick question.

People who pee on the toilet seat or floor -- I hate it. I''m so sick of having to clean the toilet seat. If you pee on something, clean it up. I don''t care if you are tired. When I walk in to use the bathroom I shouldn''t step in a puddle. (and I don''t care if it is because the toilet is short and it is "just" water that splashed out)

overly negative people -- I get that bad stuff happens. (just look at the last few months of my life). But forgetting everything else is just not an option. Would it really hurt to try to see the good in a situation?

eating noises/sites -- keep the mouth shut, don''t slurp, don''t gulp, don''t talk with food in your mouth, don''t set stuff you don''t want on my cloth placemats, don''t drink with a mouth full of food (don''t leave greasy, crumby mouth prints all over the glass and don''t leave a layer of half chewed food in the bottom of the glass), don''t eat half a cow in a single bite, don''t bulge your eyes out while drinking

 

[TooPatient]

How could I forget?

people who do strange stuff in the car (especially if they are supposed to be driving) -- shaving, tooth brushing, make-up, breakfast

women who wander around public half nude -- I should be able to go to the grocery store without some dyed blonde in a skimpy bikini wandering by.

Men who look at the above mentioned women (you know, with the half glassy eyes and the blank expression while the head turns to follow) and then get offended and deny it when you mention it.

people who can''t be on time -- If I''m cooking dinner and asked you to be there at 5 with dinner served at 5:30, don''t call me at 5:20 and say you''ll be "a little late". And don''t show up at 4:30 and get in my way while I''m trying to cook

people who are ignorant or just choose to act stupid (especially women) -- The helpless act just makes us all look bad. I have a brain. I know stuff. If you know stuff you shouldn''t hide it and if you don''t, then LEARN SOMETHING.

people who treat me like a helpless young woman -- I may be young (24) and I may be a female and I may even have hair that is nearly blonde BUT I HAVE A BRAIN. I can think and take care of myself. I don''t need to be talked down to.

 

[Skippy123]

Rude people at the grocery store; I hate when people are on the phone and grocery shopping and stopped in front of a product I need but they are too busy yapping to move out of the way!

Texting while driving, ummm, super dangerous to everyone around that person.

Unhappy people; they love love love to tell you how miserable they are but yet don''t want to do anything to fix it. Simple you wake up each day and choose to be happy, no magic pill, no seeking some magic place or anything, just you making up your mind. LOL

 

[goldenstar]

People talking on their cell phones at the gym or on the train. Geez, everyone can hear you!

When people text or email me with a question that they could have just as easily found online. For example-- someone emails me to ask for a link to a certain website. I have to Google the site and paste the link to their email. They could have just as easily Googled the site for themselves. This type of thing happens a lot for some reason and I don''t want to be snarky about it so I do it, even though I think its silly.

 

[misskitty]

Date: 9/21/2009 11:07:24 AM
Author: dragonfly411

Inviting yourself to something/somewhere - huge personal pet peeve, it is something that I was raised to view as very rude. We had two people do this last night ''We''re on our way to come check out your new place.'' I really don''t understand this. When I''m ready to invite you, I will invite you.

This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. When people do this to me, I''m suddenly extremely busy.

 

[TooPatient]

People who let their kids run wild -- How hard is it to keep their slimy hands out of the bulk bins in the grocery store, or from ripping my grape vine out of the ground?

People so focused on their kids that they forget about the rest of us -- like in the grocery store where they ALWAYS block the aisles and walk So SLOW.

Bad drivers.

Politicians.

Sales people who show up during dinner and won''t go away.

People who don''t bother to cover their mouths when they cough & sneeze. (often right in your direction)

People who decide the bathroom is all theirs. (office building) The ones who set up their make-up and tooth brushing supplies across the whole counter and stay there for 15 or 20 minutes and won''t even move long enough to let other people wash their hands.

People (usually sales people) who show up uninvited and insist on shaking hands even when I''m in the middle of kneading bread or something.

People who call just to chat at 10:00 when we have to get up in the morning for work.

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 9/23/2009 2:02:46 PM
Author: goldenstar
People talking on their cell phones at the gym or on the train. Geez, everyone can hear you!

When people text or email me with a question that they could have just as easily found online. For example-- someone emails me to ask for a link to a certain website. I have to Google the site and paste the link to their email. They could have just as easily Googled the site for themselves. This type of thing happens a lot for some reason and I don''t want to be snarky about it so I do it, even though I think its silly.

I''m always amazed that people CAN talk on their cell phones at the gym...while they''re jogging!

 

[CJ2008]

TooPatient, I see you coming up with new ones! haha

 

[tlh]

People that don''t know the rules of the road. This includes cyclists and pedestrians.

People that pay more attention to gadgets or people in there car, instead of drivers, and people outside their car.

People that walk their dogs on the owner''s lazy retractable leashes and aren''t midful of cars, cyclists, or other people. Companies that make these leashes for any dogs over 15-20 pounds... come on now, your little fine print reading that these leashes can cause severe burns or REMOVE fingers really isn''t marketing a responsible product - and YES - this does happen.

The nasty people that treat a public restroom like they are better than everyon else, and then proceed to urinate all over the seat and floor - or leave their butt doileys on the seat after they are done. 1) These things are not for multiple uses and 2) that toilet wasn''t nasty before your gross self PEED all over it! ......and when you unsuspectingly put a butt doiley over someone else''s pee and then the thing sticks to your butt... OMG SOOO FREAKING GROSS... come ladies, we don''t have a sprinkler system or have to work on AIM!

Crop dusters.