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Personal style vs actual e-ring preference

Alexiszoe

Alexiszoe

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We get the occasional poster looking to surprise their other half, and typically if he doesn't know what she likes, we ask them what's their girlfriend's style / ring size to provide clues on what to suggest.

I am wondering how many of our actual e-ring preferences differ from our personal style. For example, given my no jewelry, minimal make-up and ring size of 3, it's likely to assume that a simple, small to medium-sized round solitaire would be a good fit. However, IRL a honkin EC with traps is my thing. A couple of my girlfriends are like that too - where their personal style differs greatly from what they want in their e-ring.

I am curious how many of our rings actually "fit" our perceived style - or does it differ greatly?
 
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You're a size 3?!!:o I am now a 3 3/4 and thought that was very small already! lol

Nah, my jewellery and my ering fit me perfectly, ie. Glam Queen!!:lol: Seriously though (I was serious before too, haha), I like high end jewellery and larger more showy pieces. IRL and style-wise, that's also my motto, I prefer more high end stuff (even if it means shopping in the sale to get the best deals, actually I LOVE deals).

I don't believe in being discreet, as in tiny pieces (no offence to anyone who likes or has these). I hope though I am not too "loud" or vulgar in my taste. I honestly used to think bigger bliing pieces were vulgar, but have since then completely changed my mind.
 
I don't wear a lot of makeup or jewelry either unless I'm getting dressed up for something special. And our relationship included a lot of outdoorsy adventures, so my now-husband was surprised when I was drawn to bigger rings / stones. I remember him asking a couple of times while we were looking if I thought I'd be comfortable wearing something like that. Yes, because if I have to have something on me pretty much every day, I want it to be something I love looking at. And I might not wear jewelry often but the pieces of nicer jewelry that I have are classy imho but not "shy." I'm glad he didn't try to surprise me, because I think he would have picked something that matches my most casual style instead. :lol:
 
Alexiszoe said:
We get the occasional poster looking to surprise their other half, and typically if he doesn't know what she likes, we ask them what's their girlfriend's style / ring size to provide clues on what to suggest.

I am wondering how many of our actual e-ring preferences differ from our personal style. For example, given my no jewelry, minimal make-up and ring size of 3, it's likely to assume that a simple, small to medium-sized round solitaire would be a good fit. However, IRL a honkin EC with traps is my thing. A couple of my girlfriends are like that too - where their personal style differs greatly from what they want in their e-ring.

I am curious how many of our rings actually "fit" our perceived style - or does it differ greatly?
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I've read it 3 times but your post still is confusing to me, so I can't answer.

What exactly are you asking?
 
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Yea, I’m pretty extra so my jewelry taste matches well.
 
My e-rings suit me... note I said plural e-rings lolololol. I need a variety for different moods and occasions. Besides varying sizes, I'm apparently into 3 different shapes and 3 different colors... maybe I should change my username to fickle pickle
 
I guess I don't know what suits me yet. I have reset my stone three times and am working on a fourth. Maybe it is a sickness. =)2
 
No matter what your taste or style, no gal I know of would be “disappointed” with a large size diamond solitaire. I think taste comes into play with diamond shape, metal choice and whether you like Halos, 3 stone, micro pave bands etc. I think It would be a brave “other half” to take a punt on a pear shape cluster ring in rose gold. While I love the concept of “surprise” no gal wants to love a ring that isn’t her “dream ring” so I’m a firm believer in the surprise proposal with a “stand in ring”. Then he and she can plan that fabulous ring she always dreamt of. That’s my 5 cents worth.
 
@kenny , what I meant was do people's general style (e.g. simple, fuss-free) match what they want in their e ring as well. For example, one of my girlfriends is a cargo pants and tees kinda girl and hates drawing attention to herself - but she wanted an e-ring with a large round center stone. So given her usual style, this may appear "unusual" - which is nothing right or wrong at all, just personal preference.

I am curious how much does personal style "fit" what we actually want in an e-ring. Obviously the best bet is to always ask the lady in question - but sometimes posters here don't want to (or their girl wants a complete surprise). So on PS and IRL we typically try to guess what the individual would like based on their style of dress and what they generally like in other jewelry etc.
 
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@PintoBean , that's the best - different rings for different moods and occasions!

@redwood66 , all the more reason to keep looking and changing things up! Besides taste changes with time ;)2

@Phoenix , one man's vulgar is another man's elegant, so long as it makes YOU happy wearing it, the haters can buzz off! You have a phenomenal jewelry collection that I continue to drool over - and Holly and HGD are such perfect complements to your jewelry =)2
 
Yes my personal style is consistent and my OEC solitaire ER matches my aesthetic.

Having said that I think there are a variety of ERs that would fit my aesthetic and it wouldn't be limited to OEC solitaire. I could go for any old cut big beautiful diamond solitaire and it would fit right in with my preferences...big chunky old cut pear solitaire, large antique emerald cut solitaire, chunky, big and beautiful are my main requirements in a diamond ER and probably set in a solitaire. Though there are other settings that would also fit in with my aesthetic so not just limited to the solitaire either.
 
I follow your question to the T as I feel a bit of inconsistency with myself as well. I am a bit bashful or rather not confident/bold as other women. With purses, I feel conscious carrying things with logos so I might carry a branded purse but one recognized more by style than the logo. Even with cars, I avoid certain brands that might give off too much of a luxury vibe. More power to those who go those route but for some reason, I just don't feel like I can pull it off or it feels like me. With those statements, you would assume I would want an modest ring but I can't help myself! I love that proportion of a well sized stone with a thin band. However, not too big where I feel like it's gaudy or embarrassed to wear it.
@Alexiszoe - Just curious has anyone ever questioned your ring choice given the disparity? Or is this just an internal question you struggle with?
 
I like unique and interesting jewelry. For clothing/shoes/purses I am more about comfort and functionality so if DH had to guess at what I wanted for an ering it could’ve been a problem. I’m glad he asked bc we were on a really tight budget and I would’ve rather had a well executed non-diamond ring than a diamond that I felt was too small on my hand. There are always compromises and it is good to talk through the priorities.
 
I wish I could have more choices, but I am limited at my stage of life. I am going to reset my everyday diamond, which is .76ct. I have NO IDEA what I'd like. If budget weren't a big issue, my hypothetical ering would definitely NOT match my personal style which is tshirt and jeans and comfortable shoes. I could go huge and blingy and not care one iota what other people thought. So that's my answer. No, the two things don't match for me, if I am interpreting the question correctly.
 
I’d say yes and no. I’m a pretty casual person in terms of everyday dress and hair/make-up, but I do really enjoy “putting on the dog” when the chance arises. So my more peripheral friends would think that a large ring was a strange choice for my persona, but my close friends know that I love me some good sparkle! And when I get on my mountain bike or go bouldering/kayaking,etc, I will take off my e-ring and just wear my bands.

Also, in general I tend to choose things that aren’t common/trendy/seen everywhere which is why I’d hate a classic solitaire; it’s much too simple for my taste (though interestingly enough I really like some of them on other people). For myself, I like intricate and small details. In that sense my ring fits me perfectly.
 
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I'm pretty plain jane overall, but LOVE me some bling. Maybe that's why I can be so plain jane, because I have my bling to make up for it :lol:
 
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@kenny , what I meant was do people's general style (e.g. simple, fuss-free) match what they want in their e ring as well. For example, one of my girlfriends is a cargo pants and tees kinda girl and hates drawing attention to herself - but she wanted an e-ring with a large round center stone. So given her usual style, this may appear "unusual" - which is nothing right or wrong at all, just personal preference.

I am curious how much does personal style "fit" what we actually want in an e-ring. Obviously the best bet is to always ask the lady in question - but sometimes posters here don't want to (or their girl wants a complete surprise). So on PS and IRL we typically try to guess what the individual would like based on their style of dress and what they generally like in other jewelry etc.
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Thanks, I get it now.

Speaking for myself I love my rather expensive 1.5 ct very sparkly diamond.
But in some ways it's the polar opposite of my 'style'.

The diamond was expensive but the setting was cheap, and not even a precious metal.
No status symbol there.

My style of dress is cheap cheap cheap.
Besides undies, sox and shoes all my clothing in the last 10 years has been from thrift stores.
I like the higher quality you often get with 'designer' brands.
But they refuse to mail me monthly checks for using me as one of their billboards so I won't wear logos on clothes, like that guy on a horse playing Polo.
I'll meticulously remove such stitching of logos with a tiny X-acto blade.

So while I like nice things, I don't care to be perceived as someone who gets a worth-boost from status symbols.
 
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Oh Kenny, we are the same person. Except for the part where I don't have an Octavia ... or an amazing eye for photography ... or any musical talent.

Haha okay but I'm with you on the thrift store clothes and am an anti-designer billboard theorist (sans payment). :mrgreen:
 
@PierreBear , the way I see it is, I am low-key and easy going for most things, but I do have a few things in life that I am really particular / picky about - and the e-ring is one of them. I get comments about how it might be a better idea for the money to be spent on a house / car than on a ring. To that I say, I am just glad I am the one with the big ring fetish!

I am sure others would consider my taste gaudy - we saw a 7 carat EC a few days ago and he thinks it's gaudy. But I don't care because it's what makes me happy. And even though he finds it gaudy, he knows that is what makes me happy, so all is good ;)2
 
@telephone89 , that is exactly how I feel about it!

@ILikeShiny , your asscher is one of my favorites on PS - it looks absolutely stunning, plus the fluorescence makes it even more interesting to boot! Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!
 
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@PierreBear , the way I see it is, I am low-key and easy going for most things, but I do have a few things in life that I am really particular / picky about - and the e-ring is one of them. I get comments about how it might be a better idea for the money to be spent on a house / car than on a ring. To that I say, I am just glad I am the one with the big ring fetish!

I am sure others would consider my taste gaudy - we saw a 7 carat EC a few days ago and he thinks it's gaudy. But I don't care because it's what makes me happy. And even though he finds it gaudy, he knows that is what makes me happy, so all is good ;)2
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Can't wait to see that 7 ct baby on your finger! Think Beyonce should make a new song that says put a house on your finger. haha : )
 
@PierreBear , when you said that I had an image of a Monopoly house on my finger, lol!

To paraphrase a song, I like em big and I cannot lie ;)2
 
@Alexiszoe , I am soooo excited for you and cannot wait to see you show it off in SMTB. I guess you know big honking ECs hold a special place in my heart.
 
@Phoenix , this is definitely part of our bling plan, still working our way up to it! So, unlikely to have a SMTB soon, although if we win the lottery...who knows? :twisted2:
 
Alexiszoe, A big honking EC.... say no more, I completely understand!!!
 
My style changes a lot from minimal to crazy colors/crazy shapes (like culottes or harem pants). I don’t even really know what I want in a ring haha. I love everyone else’s rings! I do know I want a forever ring. My current set is a rose gold twig band solitaire but I admire CvB’s Jovyn setting in two-tone RG and WG a lot. I love her geometric halo settings and that dahlia setting! She is such an artist. To upgrade I’m hoping to keep the twig band and chop off and re-design the head, so maybe I can have tiny claws like CvB’s pretty claws but sides that look like petals. I think that’s still simple enough to match everything I wear. I’ve never seen anyone else in person with a rose gold e-ring setting and people have told me they wanted RG but got talked out of it because they were told WG was more classic and “matched” better with everything.

I think halos are really pretty too. Wish I could have everything!
 
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