Parents may ruin proposal surprise ... thoughts? suggestions? recommendations?

[AvusM5]

Although I''ve been told many times by the gf that her mother can keep secrets - being that my gf is he only daughter and they''re VERY close - I''m afraid by asking both her parents, that her mom will spoil it for me and what I have planned.

I am hoping she won''t since it is the best time for her daugther to be asked to marry someone, but at the same time, if she says something ... it''ll be ruined. I am planning on telling her brother what he thinks I should do (though he doesn''t know I''m gonna propose yet either, maybe he''ll can come up with a clever plan to keep her parents from ruining it).

ANY IDEAS?!?!?

THANK YOU

 

[sparxs111]

I would keep as many people OUT of the loop as possible. The less people that know the less that can go wrong. The only other consideration I would suggest is ask her parents just prior to your engagement plan so the cat isn''t let out of the bag, and it can''t be ruined by accident. Ex, day before if possible. Or I guess just trust in her knowing that she wouldn''t want to ruin her daughters experience, and PROMISE to call her as soon as it happens to share the news. That way she is still a part of the experience, and knows what transpires, and she won''t jump the gun by asking whats new and exciting...

 

[debzy103]

Mothers do not want to ruin this surprise for their daughters. My mom can''t keep secrets from me, but kept my proposal a secret, and she knew for at least a month! This is one surprise I think most people can keep. At the same time, I wouldn''t broadcast this to the universe. But I think parents (both dads and moms) appreciate being asked permission to marry their daughter.

 

[neatfreak]

I would let very few people know if possible. Do you know the outcome of this asking? If you know they will say yes, what about asking them right before you leave to go propose? Or at least at the last possible time so that there is less time to spoil it?

I would think that they wouldn''t spoil it especially if the mom isn''t known for spoiling secrets. My mom and I are very close, but that doesn''t mean she would ruin a big surprise for me ya know?

 

[Haven]

My husband didn''t ask for my parents'' permission until the day before the proposal. He knew that it wouldn''t fly if he didn''t ask permission, but he also knew that my parents cannot keep a secret. It worked. They avoided my calls for the day and text messaged me back saying they were busy.

Good luck!