Opposites or Alike?

[CrookedRock]

Very different. He tends to be more laid back than I am. I think we actually really balance one another out.
What''s important to us is that we both have the same goals for our future and our family.

 

[gemgirl]

We "thought" we were so much alike and had so much in common when we started dating, but that turned out to not be the case. We''re actually pretty much opposites of each other. That''s how we got to Retrouvaille (which has now helped us to blend together a little more towards the middle in some areas of our lives).

 

[Miranda]

In some respects very alike and in others very different. Our priorities are exactly alike (except for diamonds

) but, our personalities are very different. I''m a total neurotic, hyper, spaz, with a terribly dirty mind and often confrontational. He is mellow, good-natured, and non-confrontational (unless it''s with his very very very very very very liberal brother)! We work perfectly together.

 

[KimberlyH]

I am much more outgoing than my introvert of a hubby. We are both extremely hard workers, but I am a work until I''m through person, he likes to take lots of breaks. He''s a procrastinator, I''m a get-it-done-now girl. He is brilliant (no joke) while I am average intelligence. He is science and math minded, I am dumbfounded by both of them. He''s a business guy, I''m a people girl.

We both love to read, listen to music, go to concerts and plays. We share a love of travel. In most cases when someone says "What would you do...?" we give the same answer. We are both extremely hard workers. We both prefer to be busy and active. We have similar beliefs about what it is that makes a marriage good. We share the similar values. We have the same ideas about parenting. And most importantly we are both very respectful of our differences, and try to learn from one another.

We are, obviously, both opposite and alike.

 

[Tuckins1]

Alike. We love and hate the same things, (like beer and stupid people) so it all works out!!

 

[Sha]

Interesting topic! DH and I are different in some ways, alike in others. But I think overall, more alike than different.

We're similar in personality - we're both more shy and introverted, than outgoing. Our sense of humour is very similar. We're also similar in the way we treat our relationship, and in our conflict resolution style (hardly argue). We both like reading and quiet activites, but I love going to the beach and basking in nature and he could care less.

We're different in political and world views, and religion - I'm more religious than he is. He is also very straightforward (and sometimes tactless!) and I'm very diplomatic and accommodating at times.

I'm more organized than he is - he tends to leave things on the backburner and then forget about them.

 

[snlee]

Date: 8/20/2008 12:35:37 PM
Author: Lorelei

Date: 8/20/2008 12:07:38 PM

Author: iwannaprettyone

We are a happy mixture...similar in many regards and opposite in others.

Same here. Our interests are different, but our life goals, values and priorities are very much the same.

Ditto. Our personalities are different but we share the same life goals, values, and priorities.

 

[Hera]

Definitely more alike, but we do have some differences:

I am much more patient and don''t get upset while driving, waiting in line, and crowds. They seem to really upset him. We both like to laugh but he likes to joke around all of the time and I have to tell him sometimes that I want to talk about serious issues. His taste in music is dreadful but that''s okay, I still love him. The biggest difference is that he''s a morning person and I''m a night person and that can be challenging. He''s all burnt out by the time I''m waking up which can sometimes be around noon

.

On the bigger issues like politics, religion and ethics, we are very similar as we share many of the same viewpoints. Good thing, though, because those are the subjects we can get quite passionate about.

 

[Tuckins1]

Date: 8/20/2008 1:46:21 PM
Author: InLuv101

Date: 8/20/2008 12:42:32 PM

Author: Pandora II

Almost identical...


Same likes/dislikes, similar hobbies and interests. He''s more into photography and I''m more into bling, but we take more than a passing interest in each other''s hobbies. We both love shopping, interior design and playing board games/poker.


The only things I can think of that we disagree on are the monarchy (I''m pro, he''s anti) and Inheritance Tax (he''s okay with it, I think it''s immoral & evil).


In over 4 years we''ve never had a single fight or argument.



He''s a Scorpio, I''m a Leo.

People always think I''m lying when I say that DH & I don''t fight. We just don''t. Glad to know there are others like us!

We don''t fight either... And we rarely even have disagreements!

 

[Lynn B]

Fun thread!

DH and I have the same important goals/values/belief systems, but our personalities are quite different. He''s a classic Type B, laid back, very quiet (unless he knows you WELL) and I am a total Type A, one-shade-shy-of-neurotic spaz.

I deal with a problem best by hashing, rehashing, secting

and dissecting, and taaaaaaaaaaaalking endlessly about it... he is not like that... although he will humor me to an extent! But after about Hour 2 his eyes glaze over and I know I''ve lost him!!!

 

[AprilBaby]

Very Opposite, both 1st borns and both Taurus! Somehow its works most of the time.

 

[princesss]

We''re both! We have very similar sense of humour, very similar taste in things, similar desires, but different values and vastly different life experience (which colours the way we view EVERYTHING). It keeps life entertaining, and keeps me on my toes. Perfect.

 

[Elmorton]

We''re a mix of alike and opposite. DH''s mom is a lot like my parents - really liberal with a pretty liberal approach to parenting, so I think that accounts for a lot of our similarities. We''re also both writers, so we read a lot and, I didn''t really realize this until one of my students made a comment about how since my husband is a writer, we must have the lots of dry, grammatically perfect conversations at home (ha!), but DH and I absolutely love playing with words. Seriously, if someone was a fly on our wall, it would probably sound like another language. I think that''s the weirdest similarity that we have.

DH is a typical oldest though and I''m mostly a typical only child, so he''s very organized, does things by the book, extremely responsible, where I''m...well, not those things the majority of the time. It makes life interesting

 

[LuckyTexan]

We are alike in many ways, but do have some differences where it''s a good thing that we are different or we would butt heads!!!

I am very literary and logical, I over analize everything. DH is mathematical, methodical, and very linear. He is stubborn, willfull and the kind of funny that is silly and goofy. I am flexible, easy to teach, and I''m sarcastic.

We both love outdoor activities... but he is much, much, much more competitive than I am. We played city league softball together in CA and I played catcher and did it because it was something to do with him that was fun, and he LOVED it... he hit home runs all the time and it was nice to get out with other adults for something other than drinks! LOL!

We have exactly the same goals for our future, and agree completely on how our children will be raised. We have the exact same religious and political views, and have the exact same family values.

So... like I said to start... we have similarities in places that make us get along really well, and differences that keep us from fighting over stupid stuff!

If we were exactly the same we''d fight all the time, and if we were exact opposites we''d fight about everything we talked about!

We''re perfect, just the way we are!