Opinions on setting (Is it doing too much)

[MustangGal]

The plain temp. setting is a great idea. Then she can choose what she wants, but will still be able to wear it while you look.

 

[rainydaze]

Date: 7/17/2007 2:12:51 PM
Author: AJ
Okay, this question is for all my ladies....from a woman''s perspective, is it bad to propose with a simple solitaire even though you know she doesn''t want that and then take her to find whatever setting her heart desires (of course with a limit...hehe)

What I was thinking was to set this diamond http://www.whiteflash.com/aca_princess/A-Cut-Above-Princess-cut-diamond-336515.htm , in the WF Tiffany Style for Princess Cut then let her pick out her actual ring...I want to make it romantic and memorable but I would much rather her have something she absolutely adores...any thoughts on this ides?

Oh, and my mom says she thinks she (my gf) would love the Verragio and her mother (future mother-in-law) is going to check it out today and let me know her thoughts...but what are your thoughts on a simple solitaire and then going ring shopping, and then maybe even making a trip out of it...we live in Louisville (well, I''m relocating there next week, she is already there) and theres not a lot of options but Chicago is 4 hours away, or we can even go to DC where we met and go to Georgetown to ring shop or maybe NYC where she absolutely loves 5th Ave...just some random thoughts...my concern is not putting enough thought into this and not giving her that ultimate engagment surprise expereince that all women have dreamed about...HELP!

well, every woman will be different but personally i think this is a great idea. the diamond is the symbolic part and you know what to get her there - you''ll surprise her with the most important parts, the diamond and the proposal. and then she gets to add the icing by choosing the setting that makes her swoon.

my husband did a surprise proposal knowing only that i liked princess cut and platinum, and had it put in a simple solitaire setting. after 6 years, i am now choosing a new setting for my diamond. it''s fun and i would rather be doing it this way than to have had a hand in picking it out when we were getting engaged. he did a great job with the diamond and the most important part, for me, was the surprise which he nailed! i wouldn''t personally trade that for having had the perfect setting at the time of the proposal. plus, i am picky about settings so it''s probably a good thing he hadn''t done something more intricate. i may not have liked it but felt i could never say something and change it. however, i definately wanted to be presented with a ring with his proposal, so it could not have worked out any better.

 

[jaz464]

I think setting the diamond in a temporary setting so she can pick out the permanent setting is the best idea of all. Most of us here would love that. Then there will be no doubts that she will love what she gets!

 

[jayreneepea]

I think that''s a perfect idea!!

 

[Lynn B]

OK, couple of opinions... (since you asked!

) Just am not loving the channel set stuff. With rare exceptions, channel set seems "dated" to me. But that could just be me.

With that out of the way, I think that a temporary setting is a very good idea. Not un-romantic at all! BUUUT, just throwing this into the mix... why not save the $$$ and just have the diamond set in a simple fishtail pave or Aramis-type band right from WF??? I don''t think you could go wrong with that. Simple, classic, contemporary and timeless.

JMH 2 cents!

 

[lizardofaz]

I say go for the WF solitaire and let that gorgeous diamond be the star of the show - at least for the short term! You never know, she may decide that is the look she prefers. Nothing classier when paired with an eternity band.

 

[Nicki]

I think getting a plain solitaire band and going setting shopping is a perfect one! I wouldn''t be disappointed by that in the slightest.

 

[AJ]

Okay, just spoke with Verragio and they said all the settings are made to order, so the prongs will be different for princess cut so the corners will be protected...also, they will set it a tad bit lower...so if I go that route, then I''m good with those concerns..

Which simple setting is suggestions do you guys have for my 1.04 ct princess cut?

By the way, I love all the comments! I really appreciate it!

 

[BriBee]

Date: 7/17/2007 2:12:51 PM
Author: AJ
Okay, this question is for all my ladies....from a woman''s perspective, is it bad to propose with a simple solitaire even though you know she doesn''t want that and then take her to find whatever setting her heart desires (of course with a limit...hehe)

What I was thinking was to set this diamond http://www.whiteflash.com/aca_princess/A-Cut-Above-Princess-cut-diamond-336515.htm , in the WF Tiffany Style for Princess Cut then let her pick out her actual ring...I want to make it romantic and memorable but I would much rather her have something she absolutely adores...any thoughts on this ides?

Oh, and my mom says she thinks she (my gf) would love the Verragio and her mother (future mother-in-law) is going to check it out today and let me know her thoughts...but what are your thoughts on a simple solitaire and then going ring shopping, and then maybe even making a trip out of it...we live in Louisville (well, I''m relocating there next week, she is already there) and theres not a lot of options but Chicago is 4 hours away, or we can even go to DC where we met and go to Georgetown to ring shop or maybe NYC where she absolutely loves 5th Ave...just some random thoughts...my concern is not putting enough thought into this and not giving her that ultimate engagment surprise expereince that all women have dreamed about...HELP!

I was actually going to suggest that you propose with a simple solitaire setting and let her pick the final setting. This is what I wanted my boyfriend to do. I even told him to propose with a loose stone

However, it turns out I''ll be picking out the ring entirely, and I''m OK with it. I told him that he can propose with a piece of costume jewelry in the meantime, or else when the ring is done my mom will hold onto it until he is ready. This way, the time and place of the proposal can still remain a surprise, and that''s what is most important to me.
I admire men that are able to go out and pick a ring...I''m having a terrible time with it! The more I see, the more confused I get. On the other hand though, I''m glad that I''ll be able to pick exactly what I want and be taking pressure off my (soon to be) fiance.
I would definitely say to go with the solitaire and then make a trip with her like you mentioned.

 

[tangoecho]

I prefer all the Vatches over the Verragio ring. I like the style of the Verragio ring but it is too high set for me.

I would either propose with the diamond in a simple solitaire and let her choose her setting or go in person and look at both the Vatche and Verragio settings before I chose one. Sometimes it''s not 100% about styling - sometimes practicality has to be a consideration. And a lower set diamond ring is probably what I would want starting out knowing I was going to have babies, etc, and my ring might see some serious banging around before they entered grade school. Heck, I''ve managed to poke/scratch a few of my kids with my lower set diamond ring while in the process of daily life and I can only imagine if it was higher set with V prongs!

That''s only me though. I''m sure others feel differently.

 

[AJ]

Okay, the confusion mounts...my mom and my future mother in-law went down to see the Verragio and absolutley loved it with a princess cut center stone, they think she would love it, her mom said, and I quote, "...that is very nice, you did good, she does not need to be involved with the engagment ring because anything you do from the heart she should love. And if not give it to me" LOL, she is hilarious

she cracks me up all the time... but seriously, heres what I''m going to do, I will have Whiteflash set my ACA princess cut in the Tiffany Style solitaire, its only $200 for white gold, that way, if I decide to let her choose I already have my enagement ring ready to go, because regardless of my choice, I was not even ordering the Verragio for a couple weeks anyway, and it will take 3 weeks to come in (Verragio makes it to order and will adjust the height per the Verragio rep, and prongs to fit princess cut)

Okay, so thats the plan...have my diamond from WF set by WF in a solitaire setting, that way, I still have this as an option as I ponder my final decision on the Verragio...thats pretty telling when her mom and my mom love the ring, and I will tell you this, it is dang near scary how they have similair tastes, seriously....all three of them, now all I need to do is have a daughter and have 4 monsters to deal with...

Pray for me

Thanks everyone, you guys will be on my mind as I ponder this decision, BIG Group hug

 

[jstarfireb]

I love the idea of letting her pick the setting. We did a similar thing...except I actually picked out the setting before he proposed. I found "the one" at Costco, and we had a replica custom-made by WF. But if we hadn''t done that, my preference would have been for him to propose with a cheap CZ and let me pick out everything!

It''s funny how different people''s tastes are around here. Someone mentioned that pave is antique-looking, another that it''s the new big thing and channel-set is what is dated. Here''s where I stand on the matter: Both are beautiful, but I prefer channel-set, in part because I think it''s a much more modern look than pave. For example...my ring is very modern-looking, and when I tried on pave wedding bands with it (and shared-prong for that matter), they just didn''t look right together. Channel-set bands, on the other hand, were absolutely perfect with my ring. I LOVE the Vatche X-prong channel-set rings posted earlier. I don''t love the Verragio, but that''s because I don''t like high settings at all. Even if they can alter it slightly, it will still be a higher setting than I would be comfortable with. But as we''ve all been saying, it''s her taste that matters, not mine!

 

[Nicki]

Date: 7/17/2007 9:15:41 PM
Author: jstarfireb
I love the idea of letting her pick the setting. We did a similar thing...except I actually picked out the setting before he proposed. I found ''the one'' at Costco, and we had a replica custom-made by WF. But if we hadn''t done that, my preference would have been for him to propose with a cheap CZ and let me pick out everything!

It''s funny how different people''s tastes are around here. Someone mentioned that pave is antique-looking, another that it''s the new big thing and channel-set is what is dated. Here''s where I stand on the matter: Both are beautiful, but I prefer channel-set, in part because I think it''s a much more modern look than pave. For example...my ring is very modern-looking, and when I tried on pave wedding bands with it (and shared-prong for that matter), they just didn''t look right together. Channel-set bands, on the other hand, were absolutely perfect with my ring. I LOVE the Vatche X-prong channel-set rings posted earlier. I don''t love the Verragio, but that''s because I don''t like high settings at all. Even if they can alter it slightly, it will still be a higher setting than I would be comfortable with. But as we''ve all been saying, it''s her taste that matters, not mine!

Everything old is new again! It''s so true for jewelry. Styles come and go, but one thing''s for certain...lovely rings never go out of style.

AJ, it sounds like all of the ladies in your life are lucky women. Congrats on the decision...I think it''s a good one.