omg omg mini freak out what do i do help!!!

[Smurfysmiles]

So
I grew up with my dad''s secretary''s children. Dad wants to invite them, not a problem I had figured they were coming anyways. It doesn''t bother me that they have tattoos or piercings, because I love them just as they are.
HOWEVER
What I do not love is that dad has asked them to play a set at the wedding with their HEAVY METAL ROCK BAND
I do not like this kind of music, in fact I loathe it. And fi does as well. His grandmother will probably have a heart attack and I don''t think it has even been mentioned to the DJ or the venue to have set up what they need to have set up.

HELP! WHAT DO I DO!!!

**side note: am glad I was informed of this now and didn''t have it sprung upon me as a surprise.

 

[absolut_blonde]

What?!? Hale no!

Are your parents contributing to the wedding financially? If so, that makes it a bit trickier... But I would hope that even then, they wouldn''t want to add something to the wedding that you absolutely do NOT want.

I would politely explain to him that the wedding reception programme is already set in stone and there''s simply no room for the band to play.

Could you maybe - if your dad is totally set on this and/or stubborn - compromise and have the band play at the rehearsal dinner or something? Eek!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

My parents are practically paying for everything. The rehearsal dinner is just at bennigans so i dont that would work

I was stressed out enough, ugh and now this?!

 

[charbie]

i''d just straight up tell your dad that you''ve already arranged for the music/entertainment at the wedding and don''t think it will be feasible to have the set-up of a band along with the dj. that with all of the electronics there is a good chance that a fuse will blow or something.

i would just be honest and say it''s not something you really envisioned for your wedding and it would mean the world if you could just keep things they like are. you appreciate the gesture, but it just won''t work.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I wish I could but I think he already asked the band without even mentioning it to me

 

[charbie]

i still say you''ve got to tell him. as "daddy''s little girl"- he should want to make you happy for your special day. if he has asked them, let him know you really appreciate it, but don''t want it and ask him if he''d prefer you to cancel it or if he wants to. don''t give him a way out.

sorry- i tend to be pretty stern with my dad. he expects it out of me though.

 

[decodelighted]

Tell Dad he''ll need to take over the logistics of this "performance" ... with the venue, the rental of extra equipment, the coordination with the d.j., selection of songs, a rehearsal ... CLEARLY there must be a rehearsal!!! etc etc etc.

I bet he cancels the band ... quickly.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

THANK GOD!

If someone types you this in an email
"xxxx''s daughter xxxxx is a member of a Heavy Metal Band, and they are performing the night of your wedding at 8:00."

You would assume it meant they will be performing AT your wedding. Apparently they have a gig that night somewhere else and he didn''t bother to read what he wrote. THANK GOD THERE WILL BE NO HEAVY METAL BAND!!!!

If you are writing to a bride about her wedding night, you CLARIFY things like this, I almost had a heart attack in my cubicle!

 

[swingirl]

Never mind. We were writing at the same time.

 

[charbie]

hahahaha- whew! so he was meaning to tell you that they can''t come, i assume?

glad that was fixed! see- easy as pie!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Well they will be wearing their clothes they are wearing for the gig and he asked if that would be ok. That doesn''t bother me at all, there will be almost 300 people there, I''m sure no one will notice and/or care lol

 

[rhbgirl24]

Hey! Our whole wedding will be rock and heavy metal.... there is nothing wrong with it!

OK, now that I've got that out, its not your thing, understood! Glad you dont have to deal with it at your wedding if you dont like it!

Whew!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

oh i love rock and what not I''ll go to all sorts of rock concerts, it''s just when you can''t understand the words that I don''t like it. And even at a bar I''d still listen to it, just don''t envision it as part of the wedding like you mentioned We will be playing lots of ska though. That''s our thing. Either way, I got an email from dad saying play whatever music you want lol

 

[rhbgirl24]

Date: 9/24/2009 2:43:52 PM
Author: Smurfyimproved
oh i love rock and what not I''ll go to all sorts of rock concerts, it''s just when you can''t understand the words that I don''t like it. And even at a bar I''d still listen to it, just don''t envision it as part of the wedding like you mentioned We will be playing lots of ska though. That''s our thing. Either way, I got an email from dad saying play whatever music you want lol

I was only playing with you. We listen to a lot of hard stuff, but are toning it down to mostly classic rock for the wedding! Ska is great! Sounds like fun!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

slightly off topic rhb but off the top of your head can you think of any reel big fish songs that wouldn''t offend older folks? Almost every rbf song has swearing or something about b88bs or something in it lol

 

[tlh]

WOW, that is a HUGE SIGH OF RELIEF! Glad that mini freak out is over!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

lol you''re telling me
i need a massage in the worst way!