Who okay FrekeChild....lets hear your life story...

[diamondfan]

Hey there my adopted daughter!

I too have a great asparagus recipe from the Barefoot Contessa. It is yummy.

How goes it lately?

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 7/18/2008 8:10:29 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Ok, I''m about to eat dinner, so I''ll post a pic here...and then later I''ll create a thread in CS...

PRETTY!!! I love purple--it''s my favorite color.

 

[Anna0499]

Freke - I wanted to quit threadjacking the other threads and let you know that although we disagree on a bunch of stuff I always love reading your opinions because they are based in logic and reason and help to show me the other side of issues!

I figured you''d check this and no one would mind me posting it here.

 

[FrekeChild]

Miranda I wouldn''t eat raw chicken--perhaps undercooked-like medium-but salmonella is a bit of a risk, and I happen to know a bit too much about that stuff to be TOO stupid about it....

One time an ex and I went on the Tram up to the top of the mountains and I had two glasses...Yeah, high altitude + Liz + wine =

pukey

diamondfan Hi adopted mom!!!

I love Barefoot Contessa''s recipes!!!!Ina makes some fabulous food!!

It goes ok. I failed a test the other day, so I have to start working harder on my class stuff. I''m getting tired of the heat, humidity and rain. We get a thunderstorm everyday somewhere in the city, and last night it was our turn-only we were in a car, with me driving, when the lightning and thunder decided to be right over head. We were going to the grocery store, and the street lights went out, and then the lightning hit the grocery store. Sheets of rain with lightning and thunder and lights going out and a hungry BF is not my idea of a good grocery shopping trip. And then when we were leaving and my dumb @$$ biffed it right into a puddle.

I love the rain. When I can enjoy it from the comfort of my living room.


LP Thanks!!!!It''s so gorgeous in real life, and I can''t capture it on camera. Poo.


IndyGirl22 Yay for logic and reason!! I don''t ever mean to offend, or heat things up (and if I do want to heat things up, you''ll know about it, because I''m pretty upfront about that!!!) I''m perfectly happy to help show you the other side of the issues.

I''m around here every few days, but not everyday. Feel free to post to me whenever you want!! I enjoy and welcome questions and random stuff from anyone who gets bored, or just wants to say something!!! So feel free to drop by any time!!

 

[FrekeChild]

One of my boy hamsters died today.

 

[choro72]

Oh no...

((*hugs*))

 

[miraclesrule]

Boo.

I''m so sorry Freke. Especially if he was sick and you were trying to save him. That is especially hard.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((( Freke ))))))))))))))))))))))))) <---------big hugs.

 

[FrekeChild]

Thanks guys. I got home from school and he was in the corner he''s normally in when he''s sleeping, but they always sleep in a ball and curled up, and he was lying face first in the bedding with his ears out-which is obviously unusual. His brother was running around and when one is awake and the other is sleeping, I''ll take the awake one out so the other one can sleep better (they had no idea about personal space) and he didn''t even move when I got his brother out. So I touched him and he didn''t move. So I grabbed some paper towel and picked him up, and his lips were blue and his breathing was labored. So I sat down on the couch and held him...I checked him over for any wounds or anything...and then after a while he started squeaking when he breathed out and then he straightened out and that was it.

So I cleaned the cage and put his brother back in there, and now he''s in there running around looking for his brother and it''s so so sad. They sleep curled up together all the time.

He was my favorite. I only got them about 8 months ago, and they were babies then. His brother liked to beat up on him a lot, and as a result he had 2 holes in his ear. He warmed up to me before his brother, and he bit me a lot less, which is always a good thing.

doesn''t even begin to describe how I feel.

It seems so silly to get so upset about a goofy little rodent who I haven''t even had for that long of a time. Anyway...

I don''t mean to be so depressing, I''m just sad.

 

[miraclesrule]

It is NOT silly to get depressed over a rodent. It is a living species and you loved him. There is nothing to feel silly about. Eight months is a long time too.

I once had a guy bring me a day or two old kitten that he had found alone but alive, because he knew I loved cats and I was trying to save it. I was doing really well for the few three days, but I knew I needed to mimic everything the Momma cat would have done, and I did it. But at night, I knew the newborn needed to feel the heat that it would of felt with it''s Momma cat and so I pulled out an old heating pad to place it on while it slept.

Either I didn''t notice it, or the stupid thing malfunctioned, but it was on high all night and killed (cooked) the kitten. I was inconsolable for two weeks. It sounds nonsensical, but people who care deeply never seem nonsensical to me.

I can only imagine how you must feel after having him for 8 months. And his brother is missing him.

Big Big Big Hugs.

 

[choro72]

Would it help if you talked more about him here? I''ve seen pictures of your boys in another thread. He sounds like a darling...

I once had a bird die in my hand. I cried, couldn''t let go, and it wasn''t even a bird I owned. Nothing silly about it. Your story made me ache...At least you got to hold him.

 

[ladypirate]

*hugs* I''m so sorry to hear about your hampster, Freke. I''m glad you were there to hold him at the end, though--I''m sure he knew he was loved.

 

[diamondfan]

Oh Freke, I am sorry, even a tiny hamster can be so special. I am sorry you had to see it, do you know what it might have been?

We too have had torrential rains and crazy thunder and lightning. Driving to Kennebunkport from Rockport Sunday night it was horrendous too, the sky was lighting up like day light.

It is oppressively hot here, and moist and gross. And the rain and dark clouds are so miserable. People are dying from heat here, and losing power. I am freaked to be out in it but happier if I am in my bed cozy with my son and puppy girl. She is chill about storms, my son is not so chill!

It will all be okay...

 

[FrekeChild]

I''ll be back here tomorrow guys. It''s been a rough day and I don''t want to think about it anymore today.

 

[ladypirate]

*Hugs*

I hope you''re feeling a little better today, hon.

 

[FrekeChild]

So Kahn (the brother to my other hamster Genghis) has been pretty mopey, and has been sleeping a lot. He''s normally running around most of the day instead of being asleep, and has been eating a lot.

So with the sleeping and the eating more, he and I have a lot in common.

miracles that is so sad about that kitten. I would have been inconsolable for a long time afterwards too.

Choro I don''t think so. He''s got a special place in my heart and I think about him most of the day, and it''s so hard to see his brother wandering around looking lost. It sucks to witness an animal die. Any animal. My parents had these birds that would always nest at their front door, and whenever you had to go through the front door, you had to make sure they didn''t fly in. Well once my mom had to leave in a hurry, and a bird flew in. I spent an hour chasing him around, and then had to go to work. When I got home from work, he had thrown himself into too many walls and windows and has collapsed on the floor. I had to witness him die too, and it was so sad.

LP Thank you. I''m glad I was there too instead of it happening while he was alone, and I hope he knew he was loved. I''m glad I was there to say goodbye instead of finding him after the fact.

DF I have no idea what it might have been. I think that if I knew, I would feel better about it...
I''m sorry you guys are getting such crap weather. We''ve had Dolly''s cast off rain all day today, and we''ll have it all day tomorrow too. It''s been nice because it cools everything down, but dang it, it makes wearing heels complicated. It''s good that your puppy is chill about storms. What kind of dog is she? I wish I had a puppy to cuddle with during storms, or really all of the time.

Here is a pic I took tonight of my natural hair (with the mostly natural hair color too) and more natural makeup. Aka, makeup I''d wear out to hang out with my fam and BF''s fam. Which is actually where I wore it. Lol. With my new pink heels, which garnered attention only from FSIL.

OH! And while I''m thinking about it, yesterday afternoon, BF randomly starts talking about getting married in Vegas instead of here in town, and letting whoever wants to and can afford it, go, and then have a reception when we get home for all family and friends. I have no idea what prompted this, but when I looked up various hotel wedding packages, he was actually interested. I wasn''t really paying attention when he talked about it at first, so later (before I started looking into it) it clicked, and that''s when we actually talked about it. I mentioned that I didn''t want to do a traditional wedding here anyway if my mom wasn''t around, and that she likely wouldn''t be in two-three years, so the Vegas idea was fine. But I made a point of saying that this wouldn''t happen any time soon obviously, because we still aren''t engaged. So he came back with a comment about "Well it''s not going to happen this month."

Say what?! Could this mean that it could happen BEFORE his self-imposed timeline of "after Comps" in March-April-May?

I should also mention that I got a 77 on my last exam-while not great, it''s about what I expected for the hardest test of the semester, if not a little bit better than what I was expecting. And it turns out that I got an A in my Classical Sociological Theory class-he FINALLY posted the grades 3 weeks after the class was over.

It''s been one wack @$$ week.

Anyway, here''s my pic...

 

[FrekeChild]

Having technical difficulties...

 

[ladypirate]

Ooooooooh!!! Sounds like a proposal may be coming sooner than you think!

I told one of my friends that she, another friend and I should all get married in a triple ceremony in Vegas, with triplet Elvises escorting us down the aisle. Unfortunately, she has since broken up with the guy she was seeing and I highly doubt Kris would go for it (although he seems to like the idea of renewing our vows in Vegas??? I told him not to get ahead of himself.

)

Any word on whether you''re going to be heading up to Portland with Dale?

 

[miraclesrule]

How''s Kahn?

 

[FrekeChild]

LP
Hahahaha!!!The Elvis thing is fab!!!What a cool idea!

I don''t know about the proposal, he was all gung ho for a while, and now he''s like, "Whatever." Although I did go through the saved ering pics I have on my comp and he perked up and was looking at them and even said something about finding the one that was photographed in the dirt. Like, "finders, keepers, losers, weepers." Yeah, he''s about 5.

He''s also told me though that if I see something suitable for an ering stone, that I should send it to him, but tell him it''s for the ering, otherwise he won''t really look at it. I don''t know what that says about his reading of my emails, but whatever. (I feel like I''ve said that somewhere on here somewhere already.)

As for Portland, it doesn''t look like it''s going to happen. My parents are NOT enthused about paying for me to go anywhere, even to the wedding I''m in next summer. So poop on them. (Not really. They have enough going on.)

Speaking of my poor parents, they have an influx of relatives coming to visit. My brother, his wife and their three kids are coming in a week or so, Friday-Sunday and I''m worried about how to avoid going up there. Then in September my other brother is coming with his four kids, and his wife is staying home. These are the people I specifically don''t want at my wedding. Why, you ask? You were in their weddings, why don''t you want them at yours?
Ahem, it''s because anytime my brothers come visit or do anything my dad wants them to do, my dad has to pay for it. So if they were to come out here (or Vegas) that would be 6 plane tickets from Mississippi and 5 plane tickets from LAX. And THEN, hotel rooms for everyone. And THEN, all of their food. Did I mention the ones in Cali are Vegan? So not only would that be costly, it would DOUBLE the FREAKING ENTIRE WEDDING BUDGET!!!!!!

So not only are they coming and taking over my parents house, but my parents are paying for it--ALL OF IT. Suddenly, this is not striking me as fair that they will pay for my brothers to fly out here, but a flight for me (ONE PERSON-NOT TEN) is a NO?! Then again, they are paying for my tuition, room, board, and books, so I shouldn''t really complain.

More on my brothers later.

Miracles
He''s adjusted. His temperament has completely changed. He still sleeps all of the time (before, one or both of them were awake pretty much the entire time) and he''s gained weight-he''s a little fatty now. I should put him on a diet. I don''t think he''s realized that he doesn''t have to fight for food anymore, so he''s still shoveling it in. So he weighs about 7/8 of an ounce instead of his lean time which is around 5/8 of an ounce. Yes I weighed them. On my *druggie*/baking scale. So he''s adjusting. D lets Kahn crawl around on him now, which he didn''t do before. D actually took it really hard when Genghis died. I was really surprised. He was kind of sad for about a week afterwards. And we ate like 3 pints of ice cream each that week. Yay comfort food!

BTW, I own some skanky shirts, and I promised a friend that I''d take some pics of them and show them to her, and I''m willing to bet you''d want to laugh at them too, so I''ll probably post them here tomorrow.

In other news
I got an A in my Classical Sociological Theory class. And a B in my Psychological Research Techniques. Thanks entirely to Dale. My grades were as follows: test 1-78.5, test 2-57, test 3-77, test 4-75, papers-72 out of 75, quizzes-20 out of 25. So basically she dropped the lowest test grade (each out of 100) because I did well with the papers and the quizzes even if I didn''t take the last test, I would get a C. D made me take the last test which resulted in a 80.65% (I think-I don''t remember) and my teacher didn''t believe in pluses or minuses, SOOOOO, I got a B. Dude. Totally thrilled.

August 25th I start school again, I''m taking: Astronomy 101, Astronomy lab, Psych of Family, Psych of Women, Intro to Stats, and Sociological Research Techniques.

Recently D and I have started playing tennis. My mom stuck me in lessons from age 2, and I played until about 19 or so. Lettered in it all 4 years, and was captain my senior year. Plus I taught it at public courts all summer from ages 16-19. So I''m teaching BF how to play. Which is actually pretty exciting because he can get his racket on the ball because of his baseball/softball training. YAY!

No news other than that really. I''m just being a bum.

Back to brothers...
My dad was married at 21ish. He was still in law school. His first son was born around 1960 or so, but passed away from brain cancer when I was 2. The second was born in 1962 (20 years older than I) and the third in 1964. In the 70s, my dad and his first wife got divorced. LOTS OF DRAMA. The result of all the drama was that my dad decided to specialize in divorce law. A few years later he met my mom, they got married (NO bling or proposal). In 1979 or so they started thinking about kids, and then discovered they couldn''t conceive, and decided to adopt. So in 1982 I was adopted 2 days after I was born. To this day, my mom still has the dress she brought me home from the hospital in. So, I have two older half/step/adoptive(?) brothers who really weren''t a part of my life for the most part.

The middle/oldest one is pretty fiercely protective of me, and the younger has a really bad attitude towards me and my dad. He is the only person my dad will not try to dominate, and I think that is a result of the messy divorce my dad and his mom went through. Truly, truly awful things happened there, and the youngest was really too young to know my dad when the first wife got up and took the kids away. She actually took the kids out of state, and then married someone who was about 10-15 years older than my oldest brother, and told all of my bros that my father was NOT their father and to treat her new husband as their real father. The middle and oldest ones didn''t buy that, and fought to see my dad, but the youngest didn''t know any better. Anyway. More later. Something opened a faucet in me about them today, so I''ll probably rant more about them tomorrow, but for now, bed.

 

[FrekeChild]

And if choro happens to read this, here''s a little Freke sappiness for you:

When D got home from work today he laid down on the couch, and asked me to come lay with him. So I did and we were just lying there talking and laughing about whatever stupid shiz we laugh about and he looks into my eyes and says, "Wow, I am so in love with you."

And then there I was, a melted puddle on the couch.

 

[FrekeChild]

For miracles.

The only place I think I can wear these and get away with it is Vegas. To a bachelorette party.

Black-on sale from $120 to $15. Remember that I have those pesky DDs. The black one has really no back, and the front is...slit open. No undergarments can go under this. I think the picture really speaks for itself. I should mention that this was bought at Dillards. In the formal section.

Pink-bought in Vegas. Can''t wear any undergarments with it, and it goes straight across the back. I think that''s really all I can say about that.

Green-all lace. No seriously, all lace. The only part that has lining is the front top part. And even that is separated by a huge gap. No undergarments with this one either.

Um. I should mention that the only time I''ve worn any of these, would be in try them on. hahahaha.

Also, I''d like to get an opinion on this dress: Bari Jay, Fall 2008, 814, look at it in the "shadow" color, but I''d want it in silver

And these shoes: Stuart Weitzman "Sashay" Dyed a periwinkle With crystals glued on to look like this: Stuart Weitzman "Hotspots".

So yeah, I need opinions on the dress and shoe stuff (for my wedding, I''m pretty non-traditional, obviously). I already know the shirts are skanky. Hahahahaha!!!

 

[ladypirate]

OMG, Freke. I have to post a picture of this shirt my friend sent me from China (she teaches English there). It is literally a square of silk. That you are supposed to wear as a shirt.

I think it was designed for someone a bit less well endowed than myself. LOL.


I haven''t been to Vegas since I was about 16...I think I need to go and bring that shirt to wear.

Maybe you and Miracles could join in (but only if you wear one of those tops).

 

[miraclesrule]

We are going to have rename you sappyskank!

You are so going mushy in

on us. I think it''s adorable.

I''m glad Kahn is acclimating. So sad.

Before I talk about your dress, I just wanted to give you a big hug on the Family History. When I was sitting in court last year waiting to talk to the judge who refused to set aside my default dismissal during her lunch hour and just denied the request on my ex-parte petition, I had to sit through an entire afternoon of the most ridiculous custody battles. Some of the couples were still fighting after 11 years and it was clear that the psychological evaluations that were being done on the child should have been ordered for the parents. Many of the parents were remarried or one of the parents was and the other one wasn''t. the parents wree literally creating the psychological issues for their child and each other. There was so much drama being conducted by the parents and I just found myself thinking "Sweet Jesus, everyone who is contemplating marriage or having children should be forced to sit all day in this courtroom to learn What Not to Do". It was pathetic. It angered me because it was a waste of my taxpaying dollars and I was even more annoyed at the end of the day when the judge flippantly tossed my file to the the side and said "It''s too late, you have to refile" The bailiff then refused to let me speak and in no uncertain terms escorted me out. I tried to yell at her, but I had a bad case of lyrangitis, which was funny, because I kept telling her that I paid $40 to have my voice heard in court and that justice may be blind, but she sure as hell isn''t deaf!! The bailiff just raised her eyes at me and I told her "Don''t worry I will make sure I spell your name correctly in my expose"

My point was that I can understand why your Dad would want to go into Family Law after having experienced such a traumatic divorce. It sounds like your Dad''s first wife was acting a lot like some of the families I witnessed that day in court. At least you have one brother that isn''t a total flake. That''s good, eh? It''s beats my score.

Now the dress. You already know that I love it!! I think this dress is FABULOUS!! The link for the periwinkle isn''t getting me to periwinkle. I love the shoes and the crystals, but I am not sure about periwinkle. It would have to be the right shade for me to feel where you are going with that color. Is the silver dress a lot lighter than the shadow? If so, then I can picture the periwinkle working.

What are you planning to do with your hair? Were you going to tie in periwinkle through other accessories or are your shoes the accessory? I just picture you with some exotic Sex in the City headpiece ala Sarah Jessica Parker.

As for your Vegas wear. I love the green shirt!! I have an affinity for that color because my daugher wears it a lot and she wears it well (it matches her eyes). I am not feeling the salmon, but with your hair and your eyes, I bet it looks amazing on you. It is acually a good color on me too, but it looks a little sad next to the sassy green and black shirts. Yet, everyone in Vegas seems to wearing black band short mini-dresses, so I vote for wearing some color!! You are already blessed with everything you need to keep your shirts up so who cares if you can''t wear undergarments with them? It''s Vegas, you are young, you are supposed to allow yourself to be risque. If you can''t do that in Vegas, then what''s the point????

I swear that over half of the girls at my daughters Vegas gig looked identical. At least on her one night, she wore a Betsy Johnson tiered poofy mini-skirt and the girls put some color on, because the first night, they all reminded me of back up singers in an old MTV video.

You will look smashing in Vegas. Skank it up I say......

 

[FrekeChild]

LP!
You HAVE TO post a pic of it!!!!OMG!!!I want to see this shirt!! I think you and miracles should come to Vegas for my bachelorette party and we can all have a "who is wearing the skankiest shirt" contest. Heck, open it up to all PSers. Lol. I''ll wear whatever shirt. I don''t care! Lol. And I''ll wear super tall skanky heels too (we all know I have a ton of those!)

miracles
I''ll see what I can do with photoshop...Ok, so I uploaded a pic with the dress and the color swatch, I would want the silvercee. And this is kind of ridiculously girly but I want this for my hair. And I''d want my hair long and wavy/curled kind of Jennifer Aniston-esque. Simple. Simple with a tiara. YAY! Good lord, I''m going to look so disjointed and thrown together. Anyway, the pic of the flowers was sort of a quick pick, but they are too purple-y. More like icy soft blue- with a little violet added to sky blue.

As for the rest of my ensemble, I''m pretty open. I have this weird mix of minimalist and ornate going on. I love them both, but they are SO HARD to mix. I just know I have to have blue shoes. Maybe silver if I found the right ones.

I think I''d have my BM wear a short dress-probably black and I don''t think I''d want her to wear a BM dress. They just look like BM dresses. So something more like a LBD. With silver strappies.

Having said all of that, I''m totally open to suggestions. So, please, feel free.

The Vegas Shirts.
The pink is actually more of a slightly darker Barbie pink. Very bubble gummy. The color of both it and the green ones got a bit washed out and funktified. The pic was taken at night, so that may have something to do with it. Those are my three most skanky shirts, for sure. Next, I''ll take a pic of my 3 skankiest shoes.

BF actually said that one of the requirements for getting married in Vegas is that I have to have a bachelorette party at "Thunder From Down Under". Isn''t that sweet?

Yes I''m getting sappy again. We went to play tennis today and we got caught in a thunderstorm (that flooded the rest of the freaking city, but whatever) and then we drove to the grocery store and sat in the car for 30 minutes and talked about if I''ll change my name, when I do and don''t want to get married, when he''ll get his PhD, and how he thinks that waiting for me to graduate before a wedding is a good idea (mine-I don''t want to have to change my name while I''m still at school, his-he doesn''t want me to stress out planning while I''m in school) so all kinds of sappy talk while it was pouring down rain.

I have to tell you that I''ve bought one black item of clothing since my birthday (April). I think that''s pretty impressive. My wardrobe is getting really colorful. Although I have found out that I''m lacking with black shoes. I have all kinds of cool ones, but no black strappies or black peep toes. I don''t know how that happened since I have about 20 pairs of black shoes. So I need to do something about that. I guess I bought the pink and black dress the other day, but it''s maybe 10% black and the rest pink.

Family Crap.
Dude, I don''t want to get started, and who knows who could come across this later, but my oldest brother, the one who passed away when I was two (brain cancer) was forced by his mother to stand in a courtroom in front of my dad, her, and her new husband, and tell the judge that he didn''t want anything to do with my father and wanted to change his surname to his mom''s new husband''s surname so he could be rid of his dad completely. He didn''t want to do this. After dealing with that through the next 8 or so years of his life, he left the state she moved them to, and moved here for school, met his wife, and changed his name back to my dad''s. And then he cut off his mom almost entirely.

My dad''s ex-wife is a...garden tool. She pretends my dad doesn''t exist. When both of my bros were married, she completely ignored me, my dad and my mom. Really horrible messed up woman. I should mention she cheated on him throughout their marriage, and then she left him because he was a poor lawyer who didn''t win the political races he had run in, as well as leaving him for her lover. Funnily enough, as soon as my dad met my mom, his firm really took off, and he became really successful, and he''s made quite the name for himself. Screw her. There is plenty more, but it''s hard to think about it for so long.

In Other News...
My dad''s secretary found out today that her breast cancer has not only gotten worse, but has moved to her brain. Her oncologist basically told her today that he''s going to try to make her as comfortable as possible, but there isn''t anything he can do. This woman has worked for my dad for over 35 years. She is one of the nicest people I have ever known, and I really think my dad will be lost without her. She has known my dad longer than my mom has. And I''m only 26, so she''s known him longer than I have too. Such horrible news for him. I''m sure he''s completely shell shocked, because she''s been his closest ally, and a friend to him for so long. Heck, I''m totally shell shocked over it, because she was my closest friend when I worked at his office. It''s like she''s family...

I need some good news.

 

[miraclesrule]

OMG, that''s horrible news about your Dad''s secretary/assistant. I am sooooo sorry. Cancer is so brutal.
My heart goes out to you and your Dad and her family. I suppose this is why I am so passionate about enjoying as much of my time with my loved ones as I can. It''s also why I can''t seem to change my MySpace song from the Alicia Keys song about that same thing. Kiss me like you''ll never see me again.

It''s also why I am such a huge advocate of a Dept of Peace and/or Non-Violence. Is is tragic enough when we lose loved ones to acccidents and illness...there is not reason for us to be such a violent society as well. It''s so unnecessary. Love her up. Love your Dad up...love as much as you can while you can.

I am so proud right now. I own a pair of Guess peep toe shoes and almost all my shoes are black, so I finally got something on ya!! I have two pair of Steve Madden''s and my BCBG''s that stink like hell, but I try to change out a foam cushion so I don''t need to fumigate when I take them off. Peeee-ewwwwww Stinky feet girl....that''s me.

I love the dress in silver. Tiara perfect!! I still want to put some other shoe colors against the dress. Periwinkle definately better against the silver as the shadow is more of a dark shade and it would look "wonky" in my opinion.

See, you proved my point that I was trying to make in another thread today. Many adults think kids are stupid. They are not. They are smarter than most adults. I never did understand a parent who would risk losing the respect of their child or not anticipate it based on their actions. It''s mind boggling to me. It kills me when parents act all indignant or surprised when their kids don''t want anything to do with them. One of my friends and I got into this discussion because he hates Eminem. I happen to think the guy is brillant....twisted yes...insulting yes...revolting to some people yes...but still a genius lyrically speaking. I prefer Elton John, but admire Eminem for taking that risk...sort of an opposite Tiger Woods in the sense that he was a white boy in a black man''s world. That was a huge risk. My girlfriend hated him because of the song he wrote about his mother. My devils advocate argument was...Man, can you imagine what a horrible mother she must have been for your kid to hate you so much that he has to vent with such venomous lyrics??? It said more to me about the mother than Eminem. I know i would get flamed for that, and I don''t own any of his CD''s but I loved 8 mile, the movie. I can understand why people disassociate from their twisted parents.

I am a fan of the black top too! I tried to access the 178 pictures form one of our friends at the Vegas party but I keep getting an error message. I need to contact Costco to fix that. I wanted to show you my pink shirt. I don''t really skank it up anymore as I am too old and have chicken arms, but I would like to get some boots this year because I bought a nice pair of AG jeans that are skin tight all the way down to the ankle....perfect for boots. I need some cute boots.

I look forward to helping you plan out your wedding attire. I don''t think D should wait until after school. Do it now!!! Vegas is a very short and cheap flight for me. I can''t believe I will be there so many times this year. I am wearing my green dress tonight. I also bought a long casual dress that I wore to La Jolla for lunch today. I took pics so I could post for you, but I haven''t downloaded them yet. I bought a white sundress that ties up the back, so it fits nice. I am wearing it when I go to lunch with SDL on Tuesday so she can help me accessorize it with shoes and purse perhaps. I am not really a purse girl, I am too lazy to load and unload everyting.

Bring on the skank shoe pics.

 

[FrekeChild]

You''re awful! What copper, silver, pink, purple, green, gray, red, gold, yellow and blue shoes do you have there missy? We need to get you some other colored shoes. I decided when I was working at the shoe store that women should really try to invest in metallic heels. Because even if your clothes aren''t metallic and you''re a matching freak, you can still match your shoes to your jewelry. So this is how I *explain* my 12 pairs of silver shoes, couple of copper and one gold.

Seriously though, a metallic shoe is a neutral. (Perhaps this is just in my head.) And because it''s shiny, it already lends itself well to dressing up. Ok, I''ll stop my tirade on my metallic shoes.

I sill state though that I still have plenty of pairs of black shoes. My favorite is a pair of Chinese Laundry that are covered in black glitter, Chinese Laundry "Dagger" that I bought to wear on BF''s birthday, and they are SO HOT on. Love them!

I''m watching sculling on the Olympics right now. An American woman came in second in one of the singles heats...The double guys came in last.

T, my dad''s second-in-command, was diagnosed not long ago. The problem was that she only got to do a couple rounds of chemo because she had a bad reaction to it. So she didn''t really have any treatment besides some radiation, which I guess is going to continue. I''m honestly surprised she didn''t have lung cancer. She smoked like a chimney until she was diagnosed with breast cancer. It''s so sad.

I''m glad you like the dress. I really love the skirt. The top doesn''t really matter that much-just so it covers me up. I''m really liking the idea of a silver gown just because it''s not traditional, but also because it''s not to far away from white that it''d be like, is that a wedding gown? My next choice would be blue. lol. But that''s a little bit too far from what I''m thinking. I''m glad you like the tiara. I found that a long time ago-like a year ago.

Since we''ve been talking about my brothers...the oldest one''s wife started a *piggy* bank for me (it''s really a big plastic duck) with a silver dollar, a 50 cent piece and a few quarters. My mom always told me that I should use it for something for my wedding, maybe the dress or something like that. I always wanted a tiara, and I figured that could be something that I could pass down to my female relatives. That duck is now supported by the wall because the plastic feet cannot support the weight of over $200 of quarters, dimes, nickels, that 50 cent piece and that silver dollar. So that''s the $$$ that will buy my tiara. And go towards my Stuart Weitzman shoes, or other jewelry.

I don''t want a veil. I know that. So the tiara is going to be the only sign that I''m not just some chick walking around in a fancy dress. And I''m open to shoe colors. Not to say that I''m getting that dress for sure, but it''s certainly got pretty much everything I want in it.

I know what you mean about the kids. They are not stupid. Now, the youngest brother punishes both my dad and his mom for everything that happened when he was little. He''s not doing well financially-3 kids, him and his wife, 1 bedroom apartment- and his mom offered him a free 5 bedroom house on a lake in the state she lives in, and my dad offered them a huge down payment on a house here in NM. He won''t take either of them up on it. When he''s here, he screams at my dad, and my dad totally takes it. He doesn''t fight back with him. He won''t do that with anyone else. I''ve heard of the issues between him and his mom, but I haven''t witnessed them-obviously. Apparently he abuses her much more than he does my dad. So yes. Kids know. I think he was about 6 when his mom took them away. He knows and he''s making them pay. I think the older one had a better idea of what was going on, and he''s been able to let it go.

Although, both of them have some weird relationship issues, that the Psychologist in me would attribute to their parent''s relationship, and the resulting mess.

It was funny. My mom was thinking about it the other day, and she figured out that when the youngest son was born that my mom was only 17. She exclaimed, "I could have been their baby sitter!". She is 8 years younger than my dad.

I also like Eminem. And I agree with you completely on everything you said on that subject.

I want to see your pics from Vegas! We''ll find you some boots for sure. And you do not have chicken arms!

I''m looking forward to everyone''s help with my wedding attire! I can''t wait to hear all of the BS! I''m probably going to trust my eyes and my peeps (my mom, her best friend, my fashionista friend, and my shoe fiend best friend) pick out my own stuff, and then post what I picked, and the ones that looked really awful on me, so it''s a given. Heh.

Oh I won''t wait until he''s done with school. And I don''t think he wants to either. We were just talking about reasons for me to wait until I''m out of school. It''s possible that he won''t be done with school for another 4 years, and I''m not going to be 30 when I get married. Heh. Here''s the school timeline.

Dale does his Comprehensive exams in March/April 2009.
Liz graduates December 2009.
Liz gets a job January 2010.
Dale graduates in Spring of either 2011 or 2012. (Spring for ease in getting a job in the Fall.)
Liz and Dale move to another state.

Wedding timeline:
Dale proposes.
Liz and Dale get married in October of 2010. Hehehehehehehe.

Ok, so that''s my ideal timeline, but whatever.

Are you going to take pics of you in your green dress? What shoes are you wearing with it? i can''t wait to see the other dress too. And to see what you and SDL come up with. You''d better keep her away from the Jimmy Choo store. lol. and you guys should totally take a picture together! Are you going to look at any bling while you''re out? I''m not a purse girl either. I actually found a beautiful simple off white purse from Fossil at the beginning of the summer, and I got really upset when I went back to get it and couldn''t find it immediately. I''ve figured out that if I get upset (or dream) about something, I need to go back and get it. That sounds weird, but it''s only happened 3 times. Two pairs of shoes and that purse. Hahahah.

Ok. Going to watch Beach Volleyball now...post those pics!

 

[miraclesrule]

I know, I need to get some more shoes. Especially flats. I were a lot of flip-flops...ugh.

Yeah, adults can be pretty messed up. I feel sorry for the families who have to deal with them. But that''s cool about your piggy bank. It will buy you a beautiful tiara. I wouldn''t wear a veil with that dress either. I hope D doesn''t wait that long. Maybe he is just trying to throw you off so he can plot a ring and stuff. I hope so anyway.

I didn''t get to wear my green dress for the reunion. As I was getting the directions, I noticed that the announcement said that the dress very casual, so I panicked. I almost didn''t go because I don''t have much cute casual that isn''t at the dry cleaners right now. So, I decided I would do the unimaginable. I got dressed in my 70''s overalls with my seventies leather purse, and weggies and went dressed like I was back in high school.

Of course there was an eclectic mix and some girls did dress up, so I should have brought back up and had another outfit in the car. I could have done both. I didn''t want to look too good, most of the girls and I never got along in high school, I had more fun in Jr. High and knew more people then. I sure everyone would have thought I had tons of plastic surgery or something. Although I have to say, most of the people looked really good. Surprised that some of the people got divorced after so long together.

I will post some pics in my thread. I tried to access the Costco link for the Vegas pics but it isn''t letting me or my daughter access them...it is so frustrating because there are 174 photos in that album and I want to see them...BAD!

I want to see the skanky shoes.

 

[miraclesrule]

I went shoe shopping today....

You would be so proud of me!! I have some Vegas shoes. Not skanky but sexy sexy Mama shoes. They are downloading and I will post them in my thread for you. And boots, I got boots. Two pair...yikes....and more...yes more....

 

[mercoledi]

Hey Freke- I found another version of your gown at Unique Vintage!

 

[FrekeChild]

miracles I''m so glad you got new shoes. We''ll work on the flats, K?

SDL I think the shoes you guys got are gorgeous! I want to borrow the blingy ones! They are fantastic!

mercoledi That is beautiful!!!Wow!!!

I saved it...I can''t start buying anything like that until I get that blue bling though....Wohoo!!!