Italiahaircolor
Ideal_Rock
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A couple of days ago we received a STD for the wedding of my SIL''s daughter to her FI in July of 2010 (first of all, isn''t it like really early to send a STD?).
Now, the wedding--we suspect will either be held in NY or in Virgina. The issue is, my DH and I (just days before really) made a pact that we would only travel this upcoming year for business or for liesure. In the past few years we''ve traveled a lot for "family affairs" and it''s border line out of control, to be totally honest. We have headed North, South and East for everyone for various reasons. Not to split hairs, but we feel like there are a lot of "demands" made on our time and yet no one can be "bothered" to come here for a casual visit. We haven''t complained about this at all and have made the best effort possible to "get there" when we can. But we feel that this should be tappered back due to numerous reasons.
DH and I have talked about going to the wedding, but the fact is we''re neither close to the bride nor the groom and our going would be simply for show. The bride is actually my age, the product of my SIL''s first marriage, so no real blood relation to my DH. We''d be traveling over my busiest season at work...over a weekend I could potentially work and make money.
We laid out our travel plans for 2010 and we are, at a bare minimum, going to be headed to PA and NC for my DH''s side and that''s if nothing catastrophic happens. So, we feel like--okay, that''s still some travel for them, but we don''t want to do more.
Now...my question...would you be offended if a "by marriage" aunt and uncle were to miss your wedding? And also, what are some of the kinder "regrets" you''ve gotten...we don''t want to say "we don''t want to travel" and I don''t want to be heavy either...
TIA!
Now, the wedding--we suspect will either be held in NY or in Virgina. The issue is, my DH and I (just days before really) made a pact that we would only travel this upcoming year for business or for liesure. In the past few years we''ve traveled a lot for "family affairs" and it''s border line out of control, to be totally honest. We have headed North, South and East for everyone for various reasons. Not to split hairs, but we feel like there are a lot of "demands" made on our time and yet no one can be "bothered" to come here for a casual visit. We haven''t complained about this at all and have made the best effort possible to "get there" when we can. But we feel that this should be tappered back due to numerous reasons.
DH and I have talked about going to the wedding, but the fact is we''re neither close to the bride nor the groom and our going would be simply for show. The bride is actually my age, the product of my SIL''s first marriage, so no real blood relation to my DH. We''d be traveling over my busiest season at work...over a weekend I could potentially work and make money.
We laid out our travel plans for 2010 and we are, at a bare minimum, going to be headed to PA and NC for my DH''s side and that''s if nothing catastrophic happens. So, we feel like--okay, that''s still some travel for them, but we don''t want to do more.
Now...my question...would you be offended if a "by marriage" aunt and uncle were to miss your wedding? And also, what are some of the kinder "regrets" you''ve gotten...we don''t want to say "we don''t want to travel" and I don''t want to be heavy either...
TIA!