Wedding ok not to give wedding favors????

[Gwyn]

I really wouldnt care if I didnt get a favor at a wedding. Most of the time, I end up leaving the things anway. FI and I are just giving two cookies to each guest. They are meeple shaped (like our cake toppers) and dressed up like bride and grooms so its more wedding-y. but thats about it, nothing big.
If you want to skip favors, go ahead, probably a pain to bring em all down there anyway.

 

[kama_s]

Date: 10/7/2008 1:26:21 PM
Author: neatfreak
If people are seriously bent out of shape about no favors then they have other issues...

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I think favours are an absolute waste of money. We decided to donate - I work at a children''s hospital, and we donate to the hospital anyways. The only difference would be that next year''s donation would be in honour of our union.

 

[HollyS]

Date: 10/7/2008 12:49:31 PM
Author:wishful
FI and I are getting married in march - in Belize - mainly because we don''t want to go in debt over a big wedding (we''d rather have a honeymoon!) and we don''t want a big to-do.

anyway my parents are insisting that several months later after the wedding (due to timing issues on everyones part) that we fly back east to have a family ''reception/celebration'' . I feel like in my mind that this is just a fun get together so the family can be a part of our marriage. However the reception has gotten a bit more formalized and traditional. (it''s being held at a country club with a buffet sit down dinner, cake, etc)

so i''m having second thoughts on whether or not the guests will expect favors....

any opinons????

My planner told me she had seen tons of favors left on the tables as the guest departed; and she cautioned us about spending big bucks on them. So we had small clear ''champagne'' glasses at each place filled with candy. Everyone enjoyed that, and if they were left behind, no big deal. I did, however, have a small intimate reception at an inn, not a big country club dinner dance affair.

 

[marchswallowbird]

I wanted favors only because I think they look pretty at the place settings, but they were the first thing to get scratched off the list when I had to figure out ways to reduce the budget. They did a poll on favors a while ago on ProjectWedding, and people overwhelmingly voted for edible favors, if you''re going to have favors. Re: Jordan almonds, I know there is a meaning and tradition behind them, and that a lot of people like them, but I have always hated them. I think they taste awful, not to mention the fact that often they are worse than jawbreakers to try to eat.

 

[LauraBabe08]

I think its totally OK not to give a wedding favor. Less is more and nobody wants to be bogged down with remembering to take home some sort of trinket. If you do feel like you need something, I think the best gift is something edible like cookies, chocolate, or candy.

As my take-home I am having a candy bar with cute bags next to it. People can fill-up and take home some candy if they want to, and not if they dont.

 

[jstarfireb]

I agree that favors aren''t necessary and shouldn''t be expected. I mean, the guests are already getting free food and cake!

However, of the 6 weddings I''ve been to in the past 2 years, every single one has involved favors. They''ve ranged from something as simple as candy to as expensive as frosted glass 4-coaster sets. One bride used bottles of spices from her garden. Another made CDs of the couple''s favorite songs, all of which had been played at the wedding.

So I think the recent trend is definitely in favor of favors.

However, that doesn''t mean you have to offer them!

 

[Sha]

I think favours are a nice touch... kind of a little cute way of saying thanks and making your guests feel special. I always like receiving them -and I think you can get some cute ones that won''t cost very much. Not sure if they would be required for a post-wedding dinner, though. Do you expect to get gifts? How many persons would you be expecting at the dinner?

 

[wishful]

Date: 10/7/2008 9:11:52 PM
Author: Sha
I think favours are a nice touch... kind of a little cute way of saying thanks and making your guests feel special. I always like receiving them -and I think you can get some cute ones that won''t cost very much. Not sure if they would be required for a post-wedding dinner, though. Do you expect to get gifts? How many persons would you be expecting at the dinner?

Sha - we are looking at possibly 60 people at this party. It''s just a nice way to include my side of the family since many of them are elderly or have kids etc. (and my mom doesn''t do airplanes) so traveling for the majority of them is out of the question.
At any rate, I am sure that I will get gifts. I''m hoping my mother can sort of spread the word that we''d prefer either checks or gift cards since right now we have everything we need (acutally we have 2 of everything we need! lol!) and it is also a huge pain to try and ship actual gifts home.

As I mentioned there are several family members who are elderly and thus, rather traditional in their experiences with weddings. So I''m sort of leaning towards doing some kind of favor but something with in budget.
I think I read earlier on this thread somone did plastic champagne glasses filled with candy. That''s a really good idea! I might bring that up.

This place is the BEST, I tell you!!!!

 

[Gypsy]

I say skip them. Personally I wanted to do a charity donation but my mother bought some favors, and we went with those. I wanted to do that because I wanted to donate to charity, and thought it was a good way to do something I was going to do anyway, and get the favor issue resolved. We''re still donating to charity from our present $$ though. But it''s a personal thing now. I''ve been to weddings without favors before. And yes, I looked around for favors. But mostly because if they were there I wanted to take one so the bride wouldn''t feel like I didn''t appreciate the gesture, not because I expected a favor.