Jewels305
Shiny_Rock
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- May 19, 2007
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This is a long vent/rant
I am so hurt by my FF parents right now. He and I both still live at home with our parents (we are both 23). This past Monday was his mother''s birthday so I went to his house on Sunday and made a really nice dinner for the whole family. His mother was appreciative, his father wasn''t... well I''m used to that by now.
Flash forward to today. Tomorrow is my father''s birthday. I told FF that I really would like him to be at my house for the small party we''re having for my Dad. He and his father have season tickets for soccer, and this means that he will have to skip the soccer game that is tomorrow night, but FF feels that''s the right thing to do. So he told his father that he wasn''t going to go to the game because he was coming to my father''s birthday, and his father got mad about it. Both his parents said that he could have told us that he already has plans that day. He got upset and told them that I had cooked a nice dinner for his mother''s birthday, and he felt he should be at my father''s party. Then they started asking why he wasn''t refereeing many soccer games on the weekends this summer. He told them that he only has 2 days off a week and he wants to use those days to relax and see me.
These same arguments happened last summer. When he didn''t do a soccer game because he wanted to be at my college graduation, they told him he was being irresponsible. Then this past winter when his *boss* at work told him to leave and come see me because my grandfather passed away, his parents called him and told him that he shouldn''t have left work because work needs to come first. um, ok...
He has told them that he is tired of them second guessing the decisions that he makes. He feels that he is old enough to decide such things on his own, and I have to agree. He told them yesterday that the more they question the decisions that he makes, the more he is going to close himself off from them. He''s getting to a point where his only option is going to be to move out, but we were hoping to wait until I am done with grad school for that. I just dont know if he''s going to be able to make it 2 more years there.
I am just so offended.
I feel like they blame his "poor decision making" on me, and think I am a bad influence. Our relationship is difficult enough because we can only see each other 2 maybe 3 days a week. My parents are very supportive; he has an open invitation to stay at my house whenever he wants. I have only stayed at his house twice in a year and a half.
I don''t know what to do. No one in that family communicates, so I don''t feel like I can even sit down and tell them how my feeling are hurt. I am supposed to go to his house tonight, but I told him I don''t want to see them right now. However, it''s impossible not to see them. How am I supposed to act civil when I am so upset?
I am so hurt by my FF parents right now. He and I both still live at home with our parents (we are both 23). This past Monday was his mother''s birthday so I went to his house on Sunday and made a really nice dinner for the whole family. His mother was appreciative, his father wasn''t... well I''m used to that by now.
Flash forward to today. Tomorrow is my father''s birthday. I told FF that I really would like him to be at my house for the small party we''re having for my Dad. He and his father have season tickets for soccer, and this means that he will have to skip the soccer game that is tomorrow night, but FF feels that''s the right thing to do. So he told his father that he wasn''t going to go to the game because he was coming to my father''s birthday, and his father got mad about it. Both his parents said that he could have told us that he already has plans that day. He got upset and told them that I had cooked a nice dinner for his mother''s birthday, and he felt he should be at my father''s party. Then they started asking why he wasn''t refereeing many soccer games on the weekends this summer. He told them that he only has 2 days off a week and he wants to use those days to relax and see me.
These same arguments happened last summer. When he didn''t do a soccer game because he wanted to be at my college graduation, they told him he was being irresponsible. Then this past winter when his *boss* at work told him to leave and come see me because my grandfather passed away, his parents called him and told him that he shouldn''t have left work because work needs to come first. um, ok...
He has told them that he is tired of them second guessing the decisions that he makes. He feels that he is old enough to decide such things on his own, and I have to agree. He told them yesterday that the more they question the decisions that he makes, the more he is going to close himself off from them. He''s getting to a point where his only option is going to be to move out, but we were hoping to wait until I am done with grad school for that. I just dont know if he''s going to be able to make it 2 more years there.
I am just so offended.
I don''t know what to do. No one in that family communicates, so I don''t feel like I can even sit down and tell them how my feeling are hurt. I am supposed to go to his house tonight, but I told him I don''t want to see them right now. However, it''s impossible not to see them. How am I supposed to act civil when I am so upset?