Now often does she say, "No"?

[kenny]

I would think a guy would not propose unless they were both on the same page.

I'd guess fewer than 1% of proposals get a, "No".

Agree?

 

[packrat]

Boy I'd have no clue. I know my mom told my dad No when he first proposed. Part of that was b/c he was cocky and told her he *knew* she'd say yes b/c she was soooo in love w/him and blah blah.

 

[kenny]

Boy I'd have no clue. I know my mom told my dad No when he first proposed. Part of that was b/c he was cocky and told her he *knew* she'd say yes b/c she was soooo in love w/him and blah blah.

Well back then getting cocky was reserved till after the wedding.

 

[Kaleigh]

Interesting, I bet it's more than 1% but who knows??

 

[packrat]

EW that's my parents Kenny! hahahaha

 

[zoebartlett]

I don't know anyone who's said no when her FI has proposed.

My husband asked me to move in with him 2 months after we met. I did say no to that though, and I waited 2 years to move in with him permanently (when we bought a condo together).

 

[iheartscience]

I bet there are less nos than there used to be. I think most people talk about marriage well before the proposal, so it's not as if it's actually a proposal.

 

[zoebartlett]

I bet there are less nos than there used to be. I think most people talk about marriage well before the proposal, so it's not as if it's actually a proposal.

Yeah, I agree. I've never met anyone who was in complete shock that she was proposed to. My friends (and I) knew it was coming sometime, many had seen their rings, etc., and it was just a matter of time. We had all discussed marriage with our boyfriends before hand.

 

[redfaerythinker]

My great-aunt turned down a few men. She was a real heartbreaker. Even now, in her seventies she has a boyfriend. She's awesome!

 

[Nashville]

My great aunt was proposed to by the same man for 15 years and married him the year she turned 50. She finally said yes.

 

[tyty333]

I said "No" several times to the same guy. I think he thought if he kept asking that he would catch me in a moment
of weakness. Then one day it finally hit me that I was hanging out with a guy I didnt like enough to marry ??? I
told him Happy Trails and moved on.

Edit - BTW, it was not with a ring (thankfully then I really would have felt guilty)!

 

[Irishgrrrl]

I said "no" when my ex-BF proposed. He was upset at first of course, but he told me he'd just keep asking until I said "yes" someday. I broke up with him shortly thereafter.

 

[slg47]

interesting question kenny (my mind was in the gutter!)

I think a marriage is such a large commitment that these days (hopefully!) most couples talk about the prospect of a marriage and a life together before someone goes out and buys a ring...so the proposal can be a surprise but not a COMPLETE surprise...does that make sense?

If I were a guy I would make darn sure she was on the same page before I spent that kind of $$!

 

[April20]

DH and I have discussed this a lot recently. We're of the opinion if someone is completely caught off guard by the question and/or says "no", something's wrong. They're not on the same page. I think this is especially true today when marriage is so thoroughly discussed by many couples- to the point that actually asking is just a formality.

Past generations- this wouldn't suprise me nearly as much. Things were just done differently. When my FIL asked my MIL to marry him, she said yes and then had to go break up with her other boyfriend. That cracks me up to this day.

 

[Dancing Fire]

interesting question kenny (my mind was in the gutter!)

I think a marriage is such a large commitment that these days (hopefully!) most couples talk about the prospect of a marriage and a life together before someone goes out and buys a ring...so the proposal can be a surprise but not a COMPLETE surprise...does that make sense?

If I were a guy I would make darn sure she was on the same page before I spent that kind of $$!

that's why the guy should always propose with a fake diamond just in case she say NO!!

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

I'd guess it's definitely under 5%.

I know many-a-woman who said yes when she wanted to say "NO!!!"... because she felt too embarrassed. All of these women then ended their engagements before getting married. I can't help but think that's far, far worse than saying no to a man on bended knee. Then again, I'm sure saying "No!" isn't easy... especially if the diamond is nice (I kid, I kid)