jessica_brooke
Rough_Rock
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- Mar 12, 2007
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At this point we are practically engaged, but unofficially. Bf has asked me about rings, we've gone ring shopping twice, but still no proposal bc he hasnt bought a ring yet. (I told him I'd really like to be proposed to with a ring, and that I would wait until he had one). I also talked him into buying online after visiting some B&M stores, but i think that has slowed things down a bit. However, I'm a law student and we're really very limited as to when (year and monthwise) we can get married, so we started planning a bit out of order.
We're still not officially engaged, but bf told me to tell my parents bc we'd be getting married in my hometown and I'd need my parents help to plan. Since the only good time for us is really Aug 2008, bf wanted my parents to get a head start on looking for a place, since we were worried most might be booked by now. Well, they found a place we really like (and as of last wed it's open for the 2 dates we are considering) and they are prob going to book tomorrow. Before the engagement is official.
I didn't want to tell my parents at first until there was a ring, but I realized bf was right about timing (and we'll both be visiting my hometown in 3 weeks) so i conceded. however, i'm in a weird place in that we might have a date set and a venue booked but not being officially engaged. I only told my parents, and my best friend that we were going ring shopping. I swore my parents to secrecy because i still wanted it to be special and a surprise (my sis and grandparents dont know, and neither do my moms friends, 2 of whom have kids getting married in the next year).
HOWEVER, I find out that not only did my bf tell his parents, but his brothers, best friend and now I find out the rest of his extended family too!!!!!! He says its because they are all out of state and would need to start planning far in advance, but I'm really frustrated. I'm "sneaking around" not telling friends and family and he is telling everyone! He says its different for the girl, and it's supposed to be more of a surprise but I don't buy that.
I'd like it to be official by the time we visit my hometown so I can tell family and friends in person, but that time is coming soon. My mom says we should just make it official now and then get the ring later (like she did), but I'm a little old-fashioned and I would like to be proposed to with a ring. I feel like that's all I have left! If our place is booked and our family knows, I don't want to get engaged without a ring (and then have everyone asking to see it). Plus, since we've decided to get married and are already planning our wedding, I feel like we are engaged anyway. Ideally I want him to get a ring and propose ASAP (or at least within the next 3 weeks lol).
Am I being unreasonable? I'm afraid that this is going to ruin all of the excitement (sneaking around) and that it wont be special anymore by the time it happens since we'll already have a date and place booked and a lot of people already know. I don't want to just tell everyone on my side of hte family and my friends.... I realize this is all really about spending the rest of your life with someone you love.... but I feel like I can't be fully excited about anything yet because it's not official.
What would you do?
- wait it out for the ring and keep everything secret until then?
- tell all of MY family/friends before it's official?
- tell bf to just go ahead and propose without a ring?
We're still not officially engaged, but bf told me to tell my parents bc we'd be getting married in my hometown and I'd need my parents help to plan. Since the only good time for us is really Aug 2008, bf wanted my parents to get a head start on looking for a place, since we were worried most might be booked by now. Well, they found a place we really like (and as of last wed it's open for the 2 dates we are considering) and they are prob going to book tomorrow. Before the engagement is official.
I didn't want to tell my parents at first until there was a ring, but I realized bf was right about timing (and we'll both be visiting my hometown in 3 weeks) so i conceded. however, i'm in a weird place in that we might have a date set and a venue booked but not being officially engaged. I only told my parents, and my best friend that we were going ring shopping. I swore my parents to secrecy because i still wanted it to be special and a surprise (my sis and grandparents dont know, and neither do my moms friends, 2 of whom have kids getting married in the next year).
HOWEVER, I find out that not only did my bf tell his parents, but his brothers, best friend and now I find out the rest of his extended family too!!!!!! He says its because they are all out of state and would need to start planning far in advance, but I'm really frustrated. I'm "sneaking around" not telling friends and family and he is telling everyone! He says its different for the girl, and it's supposed to be more of a surprise but I don't buy that.
I'd like it to be official by the time we visit my hometown so I can tell family and friends in person, but that time is coming soon. My mom says we should just make it official now and then get the ring later (like she did), but I'm a little old-fashioned and I would like to be proposed to with a ring. I feel like that's all I have left! If our place is booked and our family knows, I don't want to get engaged without a ring (and then have everyone asking to see it). Plus, since we've decided to get married and are already planning our wedding, I feel like we are engaged anyway. Ideally I want him to get a ring and propose ASAP (or at least within the next 3 weeks lol).
Am I being unreasonable? I'm afraid that this is going to ruin all of the excitement (sneaking around) and that it wont be special anymore by the time it happens since we'll already have a date and place booked and a lot of people already know. I don't want to just tell everyone on my side of hte family and my friends.... I realize this is all really about spending the rest of your life with someone you love.... but I feel like I can't be fully excited about anything yet because it's not official.
What would you do?
- wait it out for the ring and keep everything secret until then?
- tell all of MY family/friends before it's official?
- tell bf to just go ahead and propose without a ring?