not sure if i like my ring setting/band?

[myring]

hello everyone!

i just wanna say, i love the site and i saw all the beautiful rings!

my boyfriend, now fiance (but that is still on hush hush until he asks my parents for permission) went ring shopping when i went to visit him two months (we are from different countries) and selected the diamond and setting together.

specs:
1.01 carats
e color
vs1
total carats 1.235

anyways, i love my diamond but i am having second thoughts about the setting/band. has anyone ever had this problem? i have two bands on my finger in the picture, we bought the one closest to my knuckle. the day i picked the band, it was my first day looking at rings and i think i was just overly excited and so any band/setting would do! basically, the band tapers as it reaches the diamond. i plan on wearing my wedding band and engagement ring together and so there will be a small gap in between because of the tappering. is it ugly to have a gap? should i ask if i can change it?

i asked my fiance and he says he likes the one we chose because he thinks it suits me and will not mind if we change it if it bothers me, but for sentimental reasons, i dont want to change it, but i am kinda obsessive and will stare at the gap and it will bother me!

does anyone have any suggestions of opinions?

 

[cindygenit]

i think they are both beautiful, but like you, i prefer the other band. Sorry!!

Pave is my weakness, and i just generally don''t like rings which tapers.

Is it ugly to have a gap? NO, i don''t think so. I have seens lots of non-matchy, non-flush fit wedding sets.

You should really really think about this before you make a decision to change. If you REALLY prefer a band that doesn''t taper towards the diamond, then maybe you should change the setting.

good luck

 

[Ellen]

They are both really pretty! I am one that loves tapered bands, so I really like the one you picked. Also, a tapered band will make the diamond "pop" more, if that is of importance to you. There are many women on here who have a gap with their rings and they don''t mind. But it''s totally a personal preference thing. Only you can decide!

 

[tyty333]

I also like tapered bands. It draws your eye to the diamond and makes it stand out (IMO). But...if the
gap is going to bother you then I suggest you go with the other one. BTW, they are both really pretty
and I dont think a person could go wrong with either.

 

[D&T]

Date: 9/2/2009 8:19:16 AM
Author: Ellen
They are both really pretty! I am one that loves tapered bands, so I really like the one you picked. Also, a tapered band will make the diamond ''pop'' more, if that is of importance to you. There are many women on here who have a gap with their rings and they don''t mind. But it''s totally a personal preference thing. Only you can decide!

ditto, When I first started out, I had a set no gap, and after PS, Five years later, I have now have a set with a gap and doesn''t bother me at all and prefer it that way, have you gone through the eye candy folder in the Show Me the Ring forum? you will see many sets that have gaps.

 

[atroop711]

it's very pretty. I don't think it's ugly to have a gap btwn rings. Many of us do (including me). Many rings don't sit flush with the wedding bands.

I actually prefer the band you chose...it shows off the center stone better

 

[angeline]

I LOVE the one you chose! I wish we could have a better pic.

But as everyone else has said, change now if you really think it will bug you. I also like gaps, they don''t bother me at all.

 

[Luckyeshe]

I think you can''t go wrong with either of your setting choices! They''re both very pretty! But if you''re really picky about stuff like that and you know in your guts that the gap will bother you, I''d say to go ahead and change it now since that feeling won''t change. If you want your diamond to pop maybe you could pick a really skinny (2mm) nontapered with diamonds all over kinda setting. Or you could see about making a custom wedding band that will be created speficially for your ring, but it''s possible that you won''t be able to wear just your wedding band without the engagement ring.

 

[myring]

hi everyone!

thank you for all your responses! i never thought i would get any at all!

the reason i chose the setting was because my fiance and i werent sure what size carat we were going to buy and so the sales lady told us that if we dont get a huge carat, a tappered setting would excentuate it. so yes, exactly what many of you said.

and yes d&t, i have looked at all 173 pages of show me the ring forum! i am amazed at so many different rings! i did see many rings that do not lie completely against the band and i think they look really good so awsome! i guess it depends on the setting of both rings.

i honestly dont have another band in mind (the other one on my finger is not the one i want because the way the diamonds are set, it doesnt allow the diamonds to really sparkle, u know what i mean?). i never thought rings would be so confusing! i cannot imagine how it would be planning a wedding!!!!

 

[ms.halo]

I think it''s gorgeous as is, but of course you should do what makes you happy. I personally LOVE gaps (and I have a big one), but I know they bother many women. What about waiting until you start looking for a wedding band before you decide? If the setting is sentimental to you, you could always keep it and put in a colored stone for a right hand ring.

 

[myring]

another question for you girls!

do you girls wear your engagement ring and wedding bands together? i noticed from my cousins and sister (my friends are not married or engaged yet) that they all wear both rings but when i am in asia with my fiance, nobody does that. many dont even wear the wedding band let alone the engagement ring. my fiance said that girls dont wear the engagement ring all the time in hong kong because it seems too flashy (but i say, why the heck not if you spend so much money on it) do you girls think its too flashy to wear both rings? what do you girls do?

 

[Laila619]

Date: 9/2/2009 12:29:40 PM
Author: myring
another question for you girls!

do you girls wear your engagement ring and wedding bands together? i noticed from my cousins and sister (my friends are not married or engaged yet) that they all wear both rings but when i am in asia with my fiance, nobody does that. many dont even wear the wedding band let alone the engagement ring. my fiance said that girls dont wear the engagement ring all the time in hong kong because it seems too flashy (but i say, why the heck not if you spend so much money on it) do you girls think its too flashy to wear both rings? what do you girls do?

I always wear mine together. I like the extra bling!

 

[D&T]

yes, I wear both my rings together, but I would sometimes wear just my band on my ring finger if I was just running errands or something. But I do love BLING

so if you are comfortable with it, then by all means wear as much (or as little) bling you want

.

 

[Ellen]

I wear mine together, but I have a simple solitaire, so it looks better with the band. Do whatever you feel comfortable with!

 

[flyingangelet]

jennifer , your ring in the picture is amazing! This ring is really what I want!!

May I ask you some questions about the setting?

where did you get the setting? can you post a link (about the vendor) of this setting if it is convenient for you. thanks a lot.

My finger size is 5 and my potential center stone is about 0.9 carat. I want get a thin setting with 6 prongs and side stones and still looking for it ...........!

Jane

 

[Amethyste]

I have a non matching set and I really dont mind a gap. I have a pear, so unless you have a wedding band crafted especially for the shape, there will always be a gap

I looooooove the band you both picked! its gorgeous!! I love the tapered look as in my opinion will showcase the stone in all of its glory

 

[mimi RN]

in regards to having a gap between your e-ring and wedding band.... when my husband and i were first looking at engagement rings, the salesperson at tiffany''s, told me that there is supposed to be a gap between the two rings because, there are 2 different rings, for 2 different reasons (one for your engagement and one for your wedding).
i love that there is a tiny gap between my rings... because when i look at my hand, i think of both my engagement night and my wedding day, as opposed to just having one big cluster of rings together.
just another way to think about it.

 

[risingsun]

I don''t care for the way that gaps look on me. I had my w-band custom made to fit flush with my e-ring. The w-band doesn''t look right on its own, so I have a 5 stone w-band that I wear if I don''t want to wear my wedding set. Both of the styles you posted are beautiful, btw.

 

[tulips]

for preference is if it is going to be tapered,, then it should be plain..
if it is not tapered then the pave diamonds make the band beautiful..