I''ve been lurking for a while because I feel like a LIW, although I''m coming up on my 1st anniversary in 6 weeks.
My husband proposed with a family ring that I love for sentimental reasons. He said he was torn because he didn''t want to wait to propose, but couldn''t afford a nice ring. We both were in a lot of debt and had not great jobs. But of course I was dying to marry him too, so I was thrilled.
When people said "let''s see the ring", I always held out my hand and beamed "it belonged to his grandmother." And they said "oh that''s very special!" And it is special. It''s very special.
And ugly. Alright I said it! It''s not that the diamond is small (maybe .25?), but more that it''s set in a yellow gold ring that''s not quite an antique, just clearly old school ... it''s just not me.
So he''s always felt bad because he hadn''t proposed the way he wanted to. And I felt bad that I don''t love the ring, I''ve just felt like a horrible shallow petty b*tch for being secretly jealous of women with pretty engagement rings that they love.
We got engaged almost 2 years ago, since then he''s gotten a much better job and we''ve both worked really hard on turning our finances around and gotten out of debt. We eloped on a gorgeous beach in Mexico and came back to big but casual parties to celebrate both with friends and family.
So thanks to an episode of "Sex and the City" that we saw together recently (where Carrie tells the girls of Adrian''s ring that she accidentally found, "the ring was not good"), he started a talk with me that turned into big tearful heart to heart and he said he really wants to get me a ring for our 1st anniversary.
Now, my brain says, this is a giant waste of money that should go into savings, but my heart feels robbed of childhood bridal fantasies and is dying for this stupid ring!! Why is this so emotionally loaded for me? Anyway he''s alleviated my guilt by telling me I have no choice. He insists I have it and doesn''t think it''s a waste of money.
And I can''t friggin'' wait!
My husband proposed with a family ring that I love for sentimental reasons. He said he was torn because he didn''t want to wait to propose, but couldn''t afford a nice ring. We both were in a lot of debt and had not great jobs. But of course I was dying to marry him too, so I was thrilled.
When people said "let''s see the ring", I always held out my hand and beamed "it belonged to his grandmother." And they said "oh that''s very special!" And it is special. It''s very special.
And ugly. Alright I said it! It''s not that the diamond is small (maybe .25?), but more that it''s set in a yellow gold ring that''s not quite an antique, just clearly old school ... it''s just not me.
So he''s always felt bad because he hadn''t proposed the way he wanted to. And I felt bad that I don''t love the ring, I''ve just felt like a horrible shallow petty b*tch for being secretly jealous of women with pretty engagement rings that they love.
We got engaged almost 2 years ago, since then he''s gotten a much better job and we''ve both worked really hard on turning our finances around and gotten out of debt. We eloped on a gorgeous beach in Mexico and came back to big but casual parties to celebrate both with friends and family.
So thanks to an episode of "Sex and the City" that we saw together recently (where Carrie tells the girls of Adrian''s ring that she accidentally found, "the ring was not good"), he started a talk with me that turned into big tearful heart to heart and he said he really wants to get me a ring for our 1st anniversary.
Now, my brain says, this is a giant waste of money that should go into savings, but my heart feels robbed of childhood bridal fantasies and is dying for this stupid ring!! Why is this so emotionally loaded for me? Anyway he''s alleviated my guilt by telling me I have no choice. He insists I have it and doesn''t think it''s a waste of money.
And I can''t friggin'' wait!
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