waiting
Rough_Rock
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- Sep 28, 2005
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Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 and half years. We''ve lived together for the last 4 of the years. No, no proposal yet (obviously - hence the term ''boyfriend''). I have had little hints from his family and friends that a proposal will be forthcoming in the next month or so. He is currently overseas working to save a little money for the year (he works 3 months every summer in NY to support himself during the year when he is in school. We live abroad) and will be back home in 3 weeks. He is also staying with my family in NY while working so I know that asking for my parents permission will not be a problem. The problem is this: i know for a fact that he cannot afford a ring. In fact, he doesn''t even need to buy a diamond - just the setting. My grandmother wants him to reset her engagement ring for me, which he knows, and which would mean just the world to me. So, he needs to buy a setting and me, being neurotic and obsessive and picky, know exactly which one i want and it is about $2,500. He simply doesn''t have the money for it. And once he returns home, he won''t be working regularly, just enough to be able to keep up with our bills and certainly no extras since the payrate where we live in extraordinarily low compared to the states. I make $12,000/year in a full time job and that is considered above average here! So, if he comes back without the ring, which he will have to due to money contraints, there is no chance of me getting a ring for at least another year.
I guess i''m looking for advice on how to come to terms with no ring. No ring that i''ve been dreaming about, and also how to not make him feel badly for not being able to afford one. I truly just want to marry him already and be with him forever and while the no ring thing is sooo so disappointing to me, i just want him to know that it''s him i want and i can live without the ring.
Guys, any advice how to make him feel okay about this if he proposes without the ring? I don''t even want to imagine him not proposing for ANOTHER year because he wants to do it with the ring! It''s been almost 6 years!!!
Help! Advice??? What would you do?
I guess i''m looking for advice on how to come to terms with no ring. No ring that i''ve been dreaming about, and also how to not make him feel badly for not being able to afford one. I truly just want to marry him already and be with him forever and while the no ring thing is sooo so disappointing to me, i just want him to know that it''s him i want and i can live without the ring.
Guys, any advice how to make him feel okay about this if he proposes without the ring? I don''t even want to imagine him not proposing for ANOTHER year because he wants to do it with the ring! It''s been almost 6 years!!!
Help! Advice??? What would you do?