Pandora II
Ideal_Rock
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My parents have a fantastic marriage and I come from a very large extended family in which divorce is so far completely unknown.
I always said I never wanted to marry unless I could find what my parents had - took me until I was 32 to find that person.
DH''s parents had a lousy marriage and a pretty grim divorce although everyone gets on fine now. But it split the family with the youngest brothers going with his mum and the eldest and DH having to stay with his father (who DH never got on with).
Funnily enough DH never wanted to get married....
I wanted to be married because I am somewhat traditional and small ''c'' conservative and believe in children being born in wedlock. I wanted to make a public affirmation of our love and commitment. I also wanted to know that I, my husband, and our children would be legally protected in the event of divorce or tragedy. Finally, I was sick to death of defending our relationship from relatives etc who were convinced I was dating a commitment-phobe.
I was dating a marriage-phobe but NEVER a commitment-phobe.
I was very touched the day after our wedding when DH and I were driving down to the hotel for our mini-moon and he said that he now understood the emotional reason for marriage. He suddenly felt we were a real family, a unit and not just two people who happened to be dating.
I always said I never wanted to marry unless I could find what my parents had - took me until I was 32 to find that person.
DH''s parents had a lousy marriage and a pretty grim divorce although everyone gets on fine now. But it split the family with the youngest brothers going with his mum and the eldest and DH having to stay with his father (who DH never got on with).
Funnily enough DH never wanted to get married....
I wanted to be married because I am somewhat traditional and small ''c'' conservative and believe in children being born in wedlock. I wanted to make a public affirmation of our love and commitment. I also wanted to know that I, my husband, and our children would be legally protected in the event of divorce or tragedy. Finally, I was sick to death of defending our relationship from relatives etc who were convinced I was dating a commitment-phobe.
I was dating a marriage-phobe but NEVER a commitment-phobe.
I was very touched the day after our wedding when DH and I were driving down to the hotel for our mini-moon and he said that he now understood the emotional reason for marriage. He suddenly felt we were a real family, a unit and not just two people who happened to be dating.
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