No go.

[MrsHToBe]

So, it''s Monday.. y''all know what that means!

FF came up, last night (at 6:30PM--I don''t know if DD got it wrong, or if it was a ploy to throw me off). The dinner that BFF had planned was actually for him, and I.
Anyway, he took me out to one of the nicer restaurants in town, which was really great--there''s not a lot to choose from in this little town, but this place was great--small, classy, with jazz playing in the background, etc. We shared a dessert (chocolate cheesecake with cherry compote) after our entreés, and then headed off..
Next stop was the beach. We didn''t really do much (just sat in the car), but it reminded me of earlier on in our relationship.. I worked at a hardware/lumber store just down the road, and he used to take me to that very spot for picnics, on my lunch breaks.

Our last stop was actually a new(ish) hotel in the small town over. Being at my Dad''s for the summer, and sleeping on the couch doesn''t give us much privacy, so it was really thoughtful of him. Funny thing, though.. it reminded me of when we first started dating, as well. When we first met (when I was in school), I was living with my Aunt, Uncle, and two cousins, and never got any privacy there, either, so for Valentine''s Day (about 2 weeks after we first started dating), he had rented a hotel room for us..

Sad thing about the night, is that I got caught up. After the beach, and the hotel room, I really got thinking, "This could be IT!" I mean, it would have been perfect.. the tying in of the past, with the future..
I ruined it, and I felt/still feel so badly. He really did an amazing thing, and I''m trying to focus on that, but I''m still a little let down.. I guess it''s to be expected, but, UGHH, I don''t know..

 

[misskitty]

Aww, I''m sorry you''re feeling let down. Sounds like he treated you to a very sweet evening, though!

 

[purselover]

I''m sorry it didn''t turn out to be a proposal, but the good news is that if he puts this much effort into a non-proposal I''d say you have something amazing to look forward to when it''s time

 

[ringless]

I agree with Purselover! Hang in there! Were all here for support.. and believe me, I''ve been there girl!

 

[ckrickett]

aw sorry BUT you did have an amazing time you you have a crazy thoughtful SO, imagine if he put that much time and thought into a little outing, imagine what he will do when he proposes!

 

[Indylady]

Date: 8/10/2009 11:27:11 AM
Author: purselover
I''m sorry it didn''t turn out to be a proposal, but the good news is that if he puts this much effort into a non-proposal I''d say you have something amazing to look forward to when it''s time

+1

 

[laughwithme]

S, I am sorry to hear about this...I was really hoping that even if this wasn''t IT, it was something. It sucks because we have allll been there...feeling guilty when your totally awesome guy throws you a great evening, and at the end, you end up not getting what you really were hoping for. The only thing I can say is, let this be a reminder why you ARE holding out for this guy - he is so thoughtful and it sounds like it was a great date.

Have you guys been chatting recently about engagements, i.e. does he know you''re hoping for it these days? Since you disappeared for awhile, I wasn''t sure if it has been at the forefront all along - or did something happen recently to make you start hoping its soon?

 

[lulu66]

Date: 8/10/2009 1:02:28 PM
Author: szh07

Date: 8/10/2009 11:27:11 AM

Author: purselover

I''m sorry it didn''t turn out to be a proposal, but the good news is that if he puts this much effort into a non-proposal I''d say you have something amazing to look forward to when it''s time

+1

+2
sounds like you both had a wonderful time though!! yay for that!

 

[pannini]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:10:17 PM
Author: lulu66

Date: 8/10/2009 1:02:28 PM

Author: szh07

Date: 8/10/2009 11:27:11 AM


Author: purselover


I''m sorry it didn''t turn out to be a proposal, but the good news is that if he puts this much effort into a non-proposal I''d say you have something amazing to look forward to when it''s time

+1

+2

sounds like you both had a wonderful time though!! yay for that!

+3
it must''ve been so frustrating, but know it will rock your world when the real time comes around....he sounds so sweet.

 

[MrsHToBe]

Thank you, thank you, thank you, ladies! Geez, I love how supportive this board is compared to others I''m on. The fact that FF hasn''t proposed, yet, is apparently a very touchy subject with some people, and I''m so sick of hearing that " deserve better", or that " should move on, because it seems like he doesn''t want to commit." We''ve been together for 8½ years, and he has blessed me with a gorgeous, spunky DD (that he''s an amazing father to, and hasn''t run away from).. that''s commitment, too, isn''t it? SHEESH!

He really is a great guy, and although I tend to get disappointed that he hasn''t proposed, myself, I know that it will come. I know he wants the marriage as much as I do.. he''s just one of those guys who''d rather be more financially stable before he pops the question, which I think is kind of great.

 

[laughwithme]

I saw the reactions from the two girls on the other board and it frustrated me b/c it seems that played a part in you leaving for awhile (I know this is sort of off-topic from this board/thread - we really just need to be friends on Facebook so we can chat!) Anyway, I think you have the right to live your life as you deserve, and there are many people out there who will remain positive and optimistic with you throughout this frustrating journey. I do believe that friends have the right to have their say - ONE time. Make it known, and then never bring it up again. I think that some girls on the other board have over-stepped their boundaries - you know how they feel and at this point, if they do not like what you have to say, they should not comment. That''s just my opinion. What I''m trying to say is, don''t hesitate to vent your continued frustrations in a place where people will be supportive of you (like we are here!)

 

[MrsHToBe]

Date: 8/11/2009 7:16:32 PM
Author: laughwithme
I saw the reactions from the two girls on the other board and it frustrated me b/c it seems that played a part in you leaving for awhile (I know this is sort of off-topic from this board/thread - we really just need to be friends on Facebook so we can chat!) Anyway, I think you have the right to live your life as you deserve, and there are many people out there who will remain positive and optimistic with you throughout this frustrating journey. I do believe that friends have the right to have their say - ONE time. Make it known, and then never bring it up again. I think that some girls on the other board have over-stepped their boundaries - you know how they feel and at this point, if they do not like what you have to say, they should not comment. That''s just my opinion. What I''m trying to say is, don''t hesitate to vent your continued frustrations in a place where people will be supportive of you (like we are here!)

Thanks, S, I appreciate that.

I understand what you mean by people being allowed to have their own say/opinions, but boundaries were definitely crossed. It''s good to know that there still are some great people who support me in this waiting game, though.

As for being Facebook friends, should I e-mail you through your (other) profile, for your info.?

 

[trishy]

hang in there girl!!! you got a good one!!

 

[Nomsdeplume]

What other board?

I''m sorry you were disappointed, but he sounds like he is a very sweet and attentive man, and you are a lucky woman!

 

[FroggyMont]

Bummer! No ring but at least you had a great night planned by him!

 

[LitigatorChick]

I told my BF to tell me on the morning of the proposal that it was happening that day. That way, I would not get "let down" when he did nice things and there was no proposal, since I had already known there wouldn''t be one that day. And also, it allowed me to go with the flow on the day of the proposal and just enjoy. Something to consider talking to your BF about.