I''ve been reading different posts here all day! I have to say this is already one of my favorite finds.
I have noticed though that my story is a little different from most. Seems like a good portion of the ladies here have already shopped for a ring with their guy and are just waiting for the formal question. I on the other hand can''t even say for sure if my SO has seriously considered buying the ring. LOL
Here''s the deal... We have been together for a year and 9 months and I just know he''s the one. I mean I''ve dated guys before and thought they were the one but when I met E I realized how stupid I had been. I always wanted to be married before I turned 30 and I turned 30 last May so there went that. We have so much in common from hobbies, movies and music to our thoughts on family and values and even politics. I''ve never been more happy in a relationship than I am now.
Here''s where it gets tricky....I don''t want to be too pushy with my last ex he went wanted me to ring shop after 6 months and then went cold and when I pushed a little he bolted and is marrying someone else in April. My SO also was very close before he even bought the ring and asked her to marry him and she said yes and called the whole thing off the next day. Needless to say he was crushed and the thought of doing that again is absolutely terrifying to him. He has told me that he really only wanted to propose to a woman once in his life and she ruined that for him. So maybe you can see why I really have tried not to push.
Well his younger sister got engaged (to a guy she met about the same time E and I met) in the late summer/fall and they are getting married in October this year. Ever since their engagement both of families have been pushing us. In fact the night we heard of her engagement several of our friends said they expected us to be next...LOL no pressure right? His mom even gave him a GC for a really ritzy restaurant for his b-day (in Dec) and told him he should take me out for a "romantic dinner" we both know she had ulterior motives.
Anyhow lately it seems like something is up. Can''t put my finger on it exactly maybe it''s just a feeling. It just seems like there are a lot of secrets and coincidences and best of all he just seems so happy. He does know that I would rather he pick the ring out himself b/c it will mean more to me that way so no ring shopping to tip me off, but I think that makes it even harder. We don''t usually talk much about money but he has mentioned he''s getting a big bonus from work so I know if he wanted to do it now would be a perfect time. Reading here about some ladies who waited 7 and 8 years for their proposal I just can''t imagine waiting that long. Really what is the average time people date now before they get engaged?
So I know that was long but that''s it in a nutshell. Any words of wisdom? Any signs I should look for?
I have noticed though that my story is a little different from most. Seems like a good portion of the ladies here have already shopped for a ring with their guy and are just waiting for the formal question. I on the other hand can''t even say for sure if my SO has seriously considered buying the ring. LOL
Here''s the deal... We have been together for a year and 9 months and I just know he''s the one. I mean I''ve dated guys before and thought they were the one but when I met E I realized how stupid I had been. I always wanted to be married before I turned 30 and I turned 30 last May so there went that. We have so much in common from hobbies, movies and music to our thoughts on family and values and even politics. I''ve never been more happy in a relationship than I am now.
Here''s where it gets tricky....I don''t want to be too pushy with my last ex he went wanted me to ring shop after 6 months and then went cold and when I pushed a little he bolted and is marrying someone else in April. My SO also was very close before he even bought the ring and asked her to marry him and she said yes and called the whole thing off the next day. Needless to say he was crushed and the thought of doing that again is absolutely terrifying to him. He has told me that he really only wanted to propose to a woman once in his life and she ruined that for him. So maybe you can see why I really have tried not to push.
Well his younger sister got engaged (to a guy she met about the same time E and I met) in the late summer/fall and they are getting married in October this year. Ever since their engagement both of families have been pushing us. In fact the night we heard of her engagement several of our friends said they expected us to be next...LOL no pressure right? His mom even gave him a GC for a really ritzy restaurant for his b-day (in Dec) and told him he should take me out for a "romantic dinner" we both know she had ulterior motives.
Anyhow lately it seems like something is up. Can''t put my finger on it exactly maybe it''s just a feeling. It just seems like there are a lot of secrets and coincidences and best of all he just seems so happy. He does know that I would rather he pick the ring out himself b/c it will mean more to me that way so no ring shopping to tip me off, but I think that makes it even harder. We don''t usually talk much about money but he has mentioned he''s getting a big bonus from work so I know if he wanted to do it now would be a perfect time. Reading here about some ladies who waited 7 and 8 years for their proposal I just can''t imagine waiting that long. Really what is the average time people date now before they get engaged?
So I know that was long but that''s it in a nutshell. Any words of wisdom? Any signs I should look for?