Treasure43
Brilliant_Rock
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- Mar 11, 2009
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As many of you are probably aware from my past posts, I have a very difficult mothr (to say the least). She''s been diagnosed as bipolar and borderline yet refuses to seek therapy or take the medication prescribed. My father passed away many years ago and my mother married a wonderful man who has been like a father to me. Yet, some of you may remember that my mother threatened to commit suicide if I had my stepfather walk me down the aisle. She wanted a blood relation (like an uncle) to do it. I held firm on this an explained that I am closest to my stepfather and he is who is walking me down the aisle.
Recently, my parents have decided to seperate. This has happened a few times before but I''m pretty sure this is the final time. My stepfather has expressed that he is fine with whatever I decide in regards to him walking me down the aisle. Apparently my mother has made a few comments to him about wanting someone else to walk me to down the aisle. So basically, I know I will be facing a battle with my mother for the next few months until I get married. However, I am adament that my stepfather will walk me down the aisle because that is MY choice and it''s MY wedding. However, I''m dealing with the fact that there is a very good chance that my mother will make a scene at the wedding. Sadly, this is an actual possibility and I have to figure out what my plan will be if this happens. She may even refuse to come to the wedding. I would hope that she would be able to look past herself and deal with this for one day but I know my mother and the chances of her doing that are slim. I refuse to cave into her demands because I know I would always look back on my wedding day and regret doing so. I guess I just wanted to vent/get some support and any ideas on how to deal with her if she makes a scene at the wedding.
Recently, my parents have decided to seperate. This has happened a few times before but I''m pretty sure this is the final time. My stepfather has expressed that he is fine with whatever I decide in regards to him walking me down the aisle. Apparently my mother has made a few comments to him about wanting someone else to walk me to down the aisle. So basically, I know I will be facing a battle with my mother for the next few months until I get married. However, I am adament that my stepfather will walk me down the aisle because that is MY choice and it''s MY wedding. However, I''m dealing with the fact that there is a very good chance that my mother will make a scene at the wedding. Sadly, this is an actual possibility and I have to figure out what my plan will be if this happens. She may even refuse to come to the wedding. I would hope that she would be able to look past herself and deal with this for one day but I know my mother and the chances of her doing that are slim. I refuse to cave into her demands because I know I would always look back on my wedding day and regret doing so. I guess I just wanted to vent/get some support and any ideas on how to deal with her if she makes a scene at the wedding.