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Ditto!Date: 8/31/2009 9:35:03 AM
Author: Madam Bijoux
Congratulations on your engagement!
That ''friend'' is not your friend. She''ll probably keep trying to rain on your parade from now until you drop her or until she finds somebody else to make miserable. People like her are the reason we have 2 ears on our heads: let what they say go in one ear and out the other one.
Yup. I''m always amazed that some people don''t have an inkling that how things are done in other cultures may be different from their own.Date: 8/31/2009 11:11:27 AM
Author: ilovethiswebsite
Firstly - I think your friend is uber jealous and just could''nt keep to herself... In terms of having parents pay for a ring - I think this is standard in more collectivistic cultures. Here in america many would find this weird as we tend to value independence. But we have to remember in some cultures getting married is viewed as a family affair and paying for your son''s ring to proprose with is OK and even preferred. For example, good friend of mine recently got engaged and his parents, who are very religious Jews, helped him pick out the diamond and pay for it. So I think it really depends on your cultural background- there is no right or wrong here. You may also want to keep this info to yourself as who paid for the ring is a private matter and some people may wrongfully judge him for it (like your best friend).
Yeah, but to be fair, people often don''t realize they may differ until they actually have a chance to talk to somebody from a different culture.Date: 8/31/2009 12:24:42 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Yup. I''m always amazed that some people don''t have an inkling that how things are done in other cultures may be different from their own.Date: 8/31/2009 11:11:27 AM
Author: ilovethiswebsite
Firstly - I think your friend is uber jealous and just could''nt keep to herself... In terms of having parents pay for a ring - I think this is standard in more collectivistic cultures. Here in america many would find this weird as we tend to value independence. But we have to remember in some cultures getting married is viewed as a family affair and paying for your son''s ring to proprose with is OK and even preferred. For example, good friend of mine recently got engaged and his parents, who are very religious Jews, helped him pick out the diamond and pay for it. So I think it really depends on your cultural background- there is no right or wrong here. You may also want to keep this info to yourself as who paid for the ring is a private matter and some people may wrongfully judge him for it (like your best friend).