Wedding Need some advice...

[somethingshiny]

Hi.

I don''t post much in this forum, but I''d like some advice. My best friend is renewing her vows with her husband in Jamaica in Feb. I''m going with her to try on dresses this Thurs evening. I always tell her the truth about what she''s wearing (if she asks) so I will definitely do that, but, this is such an important day for her, I don''t want her to choose a dress I said I didn''t like and then have that "chip" on her shoulder. But, sometimes she doesn''t choose the most flattering pieces. Not that she dresses badly, in fact, she''s usually better put together than I am. I just don''t want her walking down the aisle with her butt enhanced with a giant bow or something. So, at what point would you want to hear "I don''t like it because..." and should I stop after the first sentence, or expound on the reasons I don''t like it??

Her feelings get hurt easily (at least about "body issues") and I want her to have really happy memories about the vow renewal and everything related to it.

TIA!

 

[Haven]

Definitely be honest with her, but you can be gently honest, right? Instead of saying "I think that makes your behind look big" you can say "that dress is really pretty, but I''ve seen you look even better in a different cut".

Don''t NOT tell her when something doesn''t look great, because honey, pictures don''t lie even when friends do, if you know what I mean. And guess who she''s going to blame after the fact when she realizes that bow was NOT the best choice--you.

 

[Independent Gal]

It''s all about how you phrase it. So not "I don''t like it because..." but "I so much prefer that one because it emphasizes good points x, y, z"

That''s what I''d do!

 

[somethingshiny]

Thanks, ladies. I would usually say things EXACTLY how you both said. I''m just afraid that if I don''t have a good enough "argument" against the dress, she''ll get a bad one.

I want this to be perfect for her. Her wedding was a quickie Vegas wedding and she''s always wanted a more formal affair.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I agree with the other girls, just try to do it gently. Hopefully she will get the message!