MichelleCarmen
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I guess I'm not looking for advice but more along the lines of support.
My husband and I have ALWAYS put our kids' needs first and we have lived in a upper-middle class suburb for 2.5 years and have had our son go to what is considered one of the higher-rated schools. The parents there are highly demanding and the school caters to them. The deal is we're selling our house and would like to rent for a few years. We can afford a decent house or condo in the neighborhoods in the same school district, but what it comes down to is we HATE the city we're in. We thought we loved it, but the reality set in that we only loved our house and now that we plan to move, we really do NOT want to stay here.
We're thinking of moving either into Seattle or closer to there where there is more diversity and culture (as opposed to the cluster housing and home owner association mentality here), BUT, there is a good chance my kids will not get as top notch of an education. They will, I feel, be exposed to more interesting people and be able to live close to local co-op grocery stores and other less commercialized/strip-mall venues, but in order to do so, we cannot afford as nice of a house as we could by staying near where we are, so chances are we'd be sacrificing education. We cannot afford private school for two kids.
Long-term, we plan to stay in the part of the city we would move to, so we're pretty much intending to keep the boys in the same school once we move.
In your gals opinions, would you put education first? I feel the dread of moving to another house around here will rub off on the kids AND I feel horrible taking my older son out of a school he's developed his closest frient at, so this is very stressful decision for me.
If it was just my husband and me, this would be no-brainer. We WOULD move to a whole other location, but now there is the kids who need stability. . .is it time to put my DH and me first? I feel our society is all about keeping the kids happy, but where is the line drawn?
My husband and I have ALWAYS put our kids' needs first and we have lived in a upper-middle class suburb for 2.5 years and have had our son go to what is considered one of the higher-rated schools. The parents there are highly demanding and the school caters to them. The deal is we're selling our house and would like to rent for a few years. We can afford a decent house or condo in the neighborhoods in the same school district, but what it comes down to is we HATE the city we're in. We thought we loved it, but the reality set in that we only loved our house and now that we plan to move, we really do NOT want to stay here.
We're thinking of moving either into Seattle or closer to there where there is more diversity and culture (as opposed to the cluster housing and home owner association mentality here), BUT, there is a good chance my kids will not get as top notch of an education. They will, I feel, be exposed to more interesting people and be able to live close to local co-op grocery stores and other less commercialized/strip-mall venues, but in order to do so, we cannot afford as nice of a house as we could by staying near where we are, so chances are we'd be sacrificing education. We cannot afford private school for two kids.
Long-term, we plan to stay in the part of the city we would move to, so we're pretty much intending to keep the boys in the same school once we move.
In your gals opinions, would you put education first? I feel the dread of moving to another house around here will rub off on the kids AND I feel horrible taking my older son out of a school he's developed his closest frient at, so this is very stressful decision for me.
If it was just my husband and me, this would be no-brainer. We WOULD move to a whole other location, but now there is the kids who need stability. . .is it time to put my DH and me first? I feel our society is all about keeping the kids happy, but where is the line drawn?