Logan Sapphire
Ideal_Rock
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My husband asked his mom if she wanted to come to DC to visit in the spring. She said yes, then asked if we minded if her live-in boyfriend came too. Annoyingly enough, my husband said yes, although one would have to sleep on the twin bed in our den and the other would have to take the couch (we only live in a tiny 1 bR condo). It annoys me to no end that she can''t live without her boyfriend, and has to take him everywhere. She only sees her son once a year, usually at the holidays, so I would think she might like some one-on-one time with him.
I don''t like her boyfriend. He is an alcoholic, condescending, and verbally abusive to her. In fact, last Christmas, she kicked him out of her house for about a year, b/c he was being abusive to her, and using her financially. I''ve told my husband that when we have kids, he is not welcome in our home. From the minute he gets up to the middle of the night, he''s drinking, and he smokes like a chimney. He will DRIVE a car with a big plastic cup filled with straight liquor.
Other than un-inviting the boyfriend, which I''ve told my husband to do, how do I be gracious to him when he''s in my tiny condo? Did I go too far in telling my husband to tell his mom that it''d be nice to see her by herself? I know I won''t enjoy my visit with my mother-in-law if he comes. I need coping tips!
I don''t like her boyfriend. He is an alcoholic, condescending, and verbally abusive to her. In fact, last Christmas, she kicked him out of her house for about a year, b/c he was being abusive to her, and using her financially. I''ve told my husband that when we have kids, he is not welcome in our home. From the minute he gets up to the middle of the night, he''s drinking, and he smokes like a chimney. He will DRIVE a car with a big plastic cup filled with straight liquor.
Other than un-inviting the boyfriend, which I''ve told my husband to do, how do I be gracious to him when he''s in my tiny condo? Did I go too far in telling my husband to tell his mom that it''d be nice to see her by herself? I know I won''t enjoy my visit with my mother-in-law if he comes. I need coping tips!