OUpearlgirl
Ideal_Rock
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I don''t quite know where to put this because my boyfriend and I are too young for engagement so I''m not a LIW and it''s really just a relationship problem. Moderators if you find this goes better someplace else, feel free to move it. Bear with me, this could be long.
I have been dating my boyfriend since September. We have a great relationship and he has so many wonderful qualities I''m not going to go into in this post. But, there is one thing that is starting to drive me crazy.
He has a group of about 10 guy friends that he is extremely close to. This is something about him I admire and I am glad he finds it important to keep his friends. The problem is, he can sometimes pick them over me. He would never side against me in a fight or anything, but it''s more a problem with his time. I''ll give you an example of a problem because right now I''m not sure how I should react.
This summer I am in Oklahoma taking classes and he has an internship in Texas. I have been down to see him twice now, but my family lives about 20 minutes from where he is. One time I went down there was for a family thing and I just got to see him because I was close. Well he came up this past weekend, I''m going down this weekend for my cousins graduation and to see him, and then he was going to come up the next. He just told me that he is no longer coming so that he can go to a friend''s birthday party. This particular friend he has told me repeatedly that he doesn''t like or respect anymore. We recently went to something to support this friend and he did not ever acknowledge our presence.
This would be one thing if it were something that happened every once in awhile. But, I feel like little things like this happen often and it hurts my feelings. I''ve tried talking to him about it and he gets defensive and doesn''t see my side at all. I am friends with his friends, they like me and I''m fine with most of them. They are not disrespectful and this is not an issue with trust. It''s also not that I can''t go two weeks without seeing him. It''s just one example of something that happens more than I find okay.
I just don''t know how to fix this. My feelings will continue to be hurt by this and he will probably continue to do this. What can I say to him that will not be offensive but I can also get my point across?
I have been dating my boyfriend since September. We have a great relationship and he has so many wonderful qualities I''m not going to go into in this post. But, there is one thing that is starting to drive me crazy.
He has a group of about 10 guy friends that he is extremely close to. This is something about him I admire and I am glad he finds it important to keep his friends. The problem is, he can sometimes pick them over me. He would never side against me in a fight or anything, but it''s more a problem with his time. I''ll give you an example of a problem because right now I''m not sure how I should react.
This summer I am in Oklahoma taking classes and he has an internship in Texas. I have been down to see him twice now, but my family lives about 20 minutes from where he is. One time I went down there was for a family thing and I just got to see him because I was close. Well he came up this past weekend, I''m going down this weekend for my cousins graduation and to see him, and then he was going to come up the next. He just told me that he is no longer coming so that he can go to a friend''s birthday party. This particular friend he has told me repeatedly that he doesn''t like or respect anymore. We recently went to something to support this friend and he did not ever acknowledge our presence.
This would be one thing if it were something that happened every once in awhile. But, I feel like little things like this happen often and it hurts my feelings. I''ve tried talking to him about it and he gets defensive and doesn''t see my side at all. I am friends with his friends, they like me and I''m fine with most of them. They are not disrespectful and this is not an issue with trust. It''s also not that I can''t go two weeks without seeing him. It''s just one example of something that happens more than I find okay.
I just don''t know how to fix this. My feelings will continue to be hurt by this and he will probably continue to do this. What can I say to him that will not be offensive but I can also get my point across?