rierie26
Shiny_Rock
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Hello,
I''ve been a long-time lurker, but new to posting. As I''ve seen from other posts, I know that Pricescopers are pretty fair and I''ll be able to get a wide range of answers, so that''s why I decided to finally post. I need some advice. Sorry, it''s a bit long!
My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage for awhile, but nothing concrete. He''s the one who brought it up and we both agreed that we want to get married and start a family and all that in the future. He''s even dragged me into several jewelry stores to look at rings and when I found several good deals on diamonds on this site, he always asked me send them over to him.
When we first started looking our budget was around $8000 - $10,000. We then agreed, to lower it to around $6000 after looking around and really discussing our finances. Neither of us believes in putting the diamond on credit, so we thought $6000 was a comfortable price that we could save up cash for and it wouldn''t hurt us financially to spend that on a ring. I told him I was willing to wait until he had saved up enough and had mentioned to him that if he was serious, he could save a bit each month for it. He hasn''t put away any money at all for the ring. I had found a couple of diamonds last week in that range that looked really good. I sent them over to him and he agreed that they were really nice diamonds. Then the other day he brought up that he didn''t want to spend that much on a diamond. I then offered to pay for some of it, but he didn''t like that very much. I asked him how much he felt comfortable spending and he didn''t answer me. I got pretty upset and I blurted out something along the lines of him being willing to spend $6000+ on his ex-girlfriend''s breast implants, but he wasn''t willing to spend the same amount on an engagement ring for me. That pissed him off royally.
I know I shouldn''t have brought up what happened in his past relationship as it shouldn''t affect what goes on in ours, but I felt really hurt. It''s not even the price or cost that bothers me, I''m even willing to go without a ring (I told him this too, but that made him upset as well). What upsets me is that he keeps changing his mind as to what he''s willing to spend and he''s constantly lowering it. I could understand if we were having financial difficulties or if our jobs weren''t stable, but we''re in a pretty good place financially. And I know I shouldn''t compare our relationship to his relationship with his ex cause there''s no point, but I can''t help it. It hurts that he was ok to pay that amount for her plastic surgery, but he''s not willing to pay the same amount or even close for an engagement ring for me, something he knows would mean a lot to me.
I just don''t know what to do or think. He''s pretty upset with me for saying what I said, but I still feel hurt about the whole thing. =(
Thanks (sorry if it''s a bit convoluted),
Rie
I''ve been a long-time lurker, but new to posting. As I''ve seen from other posts, I know that Pricescopers are pretty fair and I''ll be able to get a wide range of answers, so that''s why I decided to finally post. I need some advice. Sorry, it''s a bit long!
My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage for awhile, but nothing concrete. He''s the one who brought it up and we both agreed that we want to get married and start a family and all that in the future. He''s even dragged me into several jewelry stores to look at rings and when I found several good deals on diamonds on this site, he always asked me send them over to him.
When we first started looking our budget was around $8000 - $10,000. We then agreed, to lower it to around $6000 after looking around and really discussing our finances. Neither of us believes in putting the diamond on credit, so we thought $6000 was a comfortable price that we could save up cash for and it wouldn''t hurt us financially to spend that on a ring. I told him I was willing to wait until he had saved up enough and had mentioned to him that if he was serious, he could save a bit each month for it. He hasn''t put away any money at all for the ring. I had found a couple of diamonds last week in that range that looked really good. I sent them over to him and he agreed that they were really nice diamonds. Then the other day he brought up that he didn''t want to spend that much on a diamond. I then offered to pay for some of it, but he didn''t like that very much. I asked him how much he felt comfortable spending and he didn''t answer me. I got pretty upset and I blurted out something along the lines of him being willing to spend $6000+ on his ex-girlfriend''s breast implants, but he wasn''t willing to spend the same amount on an engagement ring for me. That pissed him off royally.
I know I shouldn''t have brought up what happened in his past relationship as it shouldn''t affect what goes on in ours, but I felt really hurt. It''s not even the price or cost that bothers me, I''m even willing to go without a ring (I told him this too, but that made him upset as well). What upsets me is that he keeps changing his mind as to what he''s willing to spend and he''s constantly lowering it. I could understand if we were having financial difficulties or if our jobs weren''t stable, but we''re in a pretty good place financially. And I know I shouldn''t compare our relationship to his relationship with his ex cause there''s no point, but I can''t help it. It hurts that he was ok to pay that amount for her plastic surgery, but he''s not willing to pay the same amount or even close for an engagement ring for me, something he knows would mean a lot to me.
I just don''t know what to do or think. He''s pretty upset with me for saying what I said, but I still feel hurt about the whole thing. =(
Thanks (sorry if it''s a bit convoluted),
Rie