trillionaire
Ideal_Rock
- Joined
- Apr 18, 2008
- Messages
- 3,881
I''d like to foster a closer/better relationship with FSIL, but so far, it''s been harder than I expected. We only see each other once a year, if that, so mostly we talk on the phone. I''ve tried calling to just chit-chat, but it feels awkward... it may be that she is not a phone person, but I am quite chatty and easily able to carry a conversation with most people... her, not so much. Feels forced. She''s nice enough, she even called me for my b-day, which was a nice surprise, it''s just easier to talk to FBIL than to talk to her. I''ve known her for about 2 years now, and I''ve known FBIL for about 8.5, so I''m sure that accounts for much of the difference... though it could just be the personalities... he''s more personable and friendly (warm, if you will), than she is.
We are similar ages, she''ll be 28 soon and I just turned 27, so that''s not really an issue. However, she is a wife and mother of two, (a seven year old and a newborn), so her life is being a soccer mom and carpools and homework and diapers, none of which I really ''relate'' to. I''ve done a lot of babysitting, and I''m really good with kids (she said so herself!), but parents tend to get offended when non-parents offer them parenting suggestions (in my experience), so that''s out. And FI and I don''t plan to have kids, so there''s not really much common ground there. Also, FBIL & FSIL are pretty religious, and FI and I are not, so there''s another strike out. To be honest, if we weren''t family, we aren''t the types that would likely gravitate towards one another, but I''d like to have a close relationship with my future fam, it''s just really hard over the distance. I feel like it''s easier face to face, but that so seldom happens... *sigh*
Any advice? lol.
We are similar ages, she''ll be 28 soon and I just turned 27, so that''s not really an issue. However, she is a wife and mother of two, (a seven year old and a newborn), so her life is being a soccer mom and carpools and homework and diapers, none of which I really ''relate'' to. I''ve done a lot of babysitting, and I''m really good with kids (she said so herself!), but parents tend to get offended when non-parents offer them parenting suggestions (in my experience), so that''s out. And FI and I don''t plan to have kids, so there''s not really much common ground there. Also, FBIL & FSIL are pretty religious, and FI and I are not, so there''s another strike out. To be honest, if we weren''t family, we aren''t the types that would likely gravitate towards one another, but I''d like to have a close relationship with my future fam, it''s just really hard over the distance. I feel like it''s easier face to face, but that so seldom happens... *sigh*
Any advice? lol.